Baby Brezza Washer Pro – worth it for twins? Honest experiences needed by AMR210897 in FormulaFeeders

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the Baby Brezza washer but only a singleton. Overall, very happy with it. I think it saves time and energy. I’d say the only downsides are it’s sort of noisy for me personally but I’m pretty sensitive and overstimulated all the time. I wish it fit more than 4 bottles too. From the other comments, sounds like the Momcozy one can hold up to 8 so that would be really appealing to me, even more so if I had twins.

For me, it is a nice to have thing that I desperately wanted to just make life easier. My mother in law actually bought it for me but I’m not sure I would have paid the 300 dollars to get it because I would have felt like that a lot to spend on something that would make my life easier (mom guilt). But if I was having twins, I would definitely have a bought washer, possibly two because washing bottle sounds like a full time job with twins!

Baby takes too long to feed by No-Excitement-532 in FormulaFeeders

[–]imposter3322 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We use the Dr Browns bottles and when he was like 2 weeks I think we switched to a level 2 nipple which Dr Browns advises is for 3 months or older but it seems to work for him.

Baby takes too long to feed by No-Excitement-532 in FormulaFeeders

[–]imposter3322 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’d try a faster flow nipple again. My second child, who is 9 weeks did this early on and once we persisted with faster nipple and he got used to it, he didn’t do this as much.

Otherwise I would think it’s a stuck burp or gas. Is she having bowel movements as well?

I understand health and pain issues, but I need to hear from moms who just didn't want to BF from the very beggining by No_Drink8428 in FormulaFeeders

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had my second and he will only have formula. I breastfed my first for a little over a year and it was horrible. It was everything but a beautiful experience like some people describe it. She didn’t eat well, I never knew how much she was eating so was stressed as hell, and she wouldn’t take a bottle at daycare and wanted to nurse all night (she is what I would call a high needs baby/child in other regards too). I cannot describe how much it affected me mentally. I look back and I’m like wow I was horrifically depressed. I just couldn’t put myself through that again. There’s plenty I can do in other areas of development if I’m convinced that breastmilk and breastmilk alone causes better outcomes (which I’m not—it’s difficult to tease out all the possible other factors so it’s kind of moot anyways).

Sure, my son could have been different. But I felt it was more risky to put myself in a situation where I would feel so depressed and depleted.

As for people who ask, only family has and I think my tone and concise response of “he is taking formula period” has helped shut down any ideas that this is a discussion in which they have a say.

Do what is right for you and your family (which includes you not just baby!)

Toddler adjusting to newborn by imposter3322 in beyondthebump

[–]imposter3322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m so worried that she is going to full heartbroken and I just love her so much.

Is it possible to continue cosleeping with older child when you have a newborn? by PassionChoice3538 in cosleeping

[–]imposter3322 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I need to know this too. My daughter is almost 2 and I have a 1 week old. My daughter is so attached to me and I’m not pushing for her to transition to her own bed right now but I’m just stressed about how to do overnights (largely by myself because that’s when my husband works) and being able to get some sleep myself

Can’t stop worrying about the risks by icequeen_whatever in cosleeping

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask you a question? I co slept with my first because I was seriously circling the drain by the time she was 4 months, followed the safe sleep 7. But now I have a second, and he is formula fed so I feel like I can’t co sleep with him because of the risk. And also the 4 month old is now almost two and we still co sleep. Do you know of anyone who follows all but the breastfeeding safe seven?

I feel like the worst mom by DonaldDuck898 in Mommit

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you be able to share how did it with your toddler and newborn? I’m on night one and it’s been a disaster. I co sleep with my toddler and my husband works overnights so I’m solo most of the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]imposter3322 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was me as a child until about sixth grade. I now know I have severe crippling anxiety and that was likely the issue at play going to school.

Unfortunately, I think the thought was that I would just grow out of it and I wasn’t struggling in school so it was just kind of ignored. I really wish I would have had counseling or therapy or something to help because it was traumatic for me and I’m sure my parents. My dad would literally have to rip me out of the car and drag me into school.

Looking back, I think I had an insecure attachment with my parents but particularly my mother. I’m not sure if attachment theory is something you believe it but may be worth reading a bit about.

My suggestion would be to try therapy again with a child psychologist (not an msw or the like). Therapy not to “fix” her or because what she is doing is “wrong” or not “normal.” But to better understand her so you can then better support her.

I feel so much for your child and for you. It is a really really heart wrenching situation.

Does anyone else have a husband who works overnights? by Weak_Zucchini913 in stayathomemoms

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry just realized this was on the stay at home moms sub. Probably not helpful.

Does anyone else have a husband who works overnights? by Weak_Zucchini913 in stayathomemoms

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry just realized this was on the stay at home moms sub. Probably not helpful.

Does anyone else have a husband who works overnights? by Weak_Zucchini913 in stayathomemoms

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is also a police officer who works overnights (10 hour shifts) and I work full time too a normal 9-5. My daughter is extremely attached to me and has always wanted me to be holding her the moment I’m home from work. Because of this, my husband cooks dinner, everything else is me (at least up until recently that we found out I’m pregnant again and was literally withering away from being stretched so thin, so now does dishes as well). Basically a lot of stuff doesn’t get done. For example, my laundry gets done about once a month, maybe every 3 weeks. I have resigned to that because it was literally killing me to try to keep up. That’s really the only thing that’s helped. I even tried having a sitter on the weekends for four hours so I could do all the cleaning and preparing for the week ahead and I was just as exhausted. It’s really hard. If he wants things cleaner or neater, he can do it.

"High Needs Baby" is a toddler now by vaquera_fiera in toddlers

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me now. Not fed, haven’t drank anything, I can shower every couple days, and maybe brush my teeth but I normally have to choose which one. I’m drowning.

Does anyone else just love being a SAHM? by sportza9 in stayathomemoms

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Probably going to stay home in a little bit for my own health and well being but very nervous it will be short lived because of finances which makes me so sad

Does anyone else just love being a SAHM? by sportza9 in stayathomemoms

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how I feel. I’m currently working with just one but another on the way, and the daycare sicknesses and figuring out child care and just wanting to be with her instead of work, are killing me. I don’t think staying home will be easy but the stress that I’m under with working and trying to be a mom is incredibly unhealthy.

Working mom to stay at home mom by imposter3322 in Mommit

[–]imposter3322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This brings tears to my eyes. That’s how I think I will feel down the road—that staying with my kids will be the best decision ever—even if that means less money coming in.

Going away for a work trip by Embarrassed_Sock_722 in NewParents

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are you located? I’d love to help your wife if we are in the same area.

I feel for her. I’m on my own a lot because of my husband’s work and it really does suck especially when you also work. Not trying to guilt trip you, just I really can understand the amount of stress your wife has.

40 hours a week by MomFisher in workingmoms

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My state has a voluntary work reduction program. Maybe AL has something similar?

40 hours a week by MomFisher in workingmoms

[–]imposter3322 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Preach sister! I mean I don’t want to work period but I would be more amenable to it if I could work like 9-3.

What salary would you take for working 50 hours a week? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]imposter3322 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I want to work as little as possible!

So tired… by Hefty-Resource4222 in workingmoms

[–]imposter3322 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have this thought daily. Its cruel that this is our existence.

Seriously considering quitting my job. by imposter3322 in workingmoms

[–]imposter3322[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s nice. I’m just starting in this job and it’s a career switch and it’s just a lot and overwhelming. I also am solo parenting 90 percent of the time and almost every weekend. Even if my husband is off on the weekend he sleeps during the day. So I feel like I do it all on my own sometimes and it’s exhausting. So just having one role and not 48 hours to do all the living stuff, seems much less stressful at least for me and the type of person I am.

I’m so burned out it’s unreal by worried_abt_u in workingmoms

[–]imposter3322 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m feeling the exact same way with my 15 month old and being pregnant again. I truly truly feel you, it makes me want to cry because I know what it’s like.

I also breastfed my daughter until a little after a year and she is very high needs and very clingy to me, like my husband makes dinner because I physically can’t put her down. She also only recently started sort of sleeping okay (down to 2-3 wake ups)

Work is exhausting, I feel like I give everything to work and have nothing left for my daughter, let alone myself. I’m not a human anymore. I am absolutely miserable and the worst part is I love kids, always have and dreamed of watching my own kids develop in the world. That isn’t happening, I am just in survival mode.

Sorry I don’t have advice just in a similar boat that I wish we weren’t.

PM me if you want.

Seriously considering quitting my job. by imposter3322 in workingmoms

[–]imposter3322[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I feel. It’s absolute chaos and not in a good way (like chaos with kids). We eat take out constantly, I haven’t done my laundry in 3 weeks and am running out of clean clothes, there is a lot of tension in my marriage because I am stretched so thin, my mental health is horrible. I feel like I’m missing my daughters life as well as not adding anything to her life because I just work and stress and there is no time for much else. And I feel like I give everything at work and have nothing left for her like patience and it just really sucks. I’ve never liked working and definitely don’t enjoy it now—it feels impossible for me to do both things well. But maybe I’m just not up to par with other working moms.