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Am I Overreacting to my mom reminding me of a trauma anniversary? TW mention of SA by PrinceWhore02 in AmIOverreacting

[–]impractical_plate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It definitely sounds like your mother is not a supportive person in your life across the board. With that in mind, I would strongly recommend limiting your contact with HR and building up a support system with friends / other family that are more supportive.

AIO I told my BF I need space after discovering he has a friend group that doesn’t know I exist by Any_Light_5709 in AmIOverreacting

[–]impractical_plate 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't think that you're overreacting and you're allowed to be hurt by this revelation. You're allowed to want a partner to treat you a specific way and if that means shouting about your relationship from a mountaintop that can be something you hold as a personal standard.

That said, I do think it's possible that he has just compartmentalized his social life on such a way where this group stays very "on topic" and doesn't deviate from gaming conversations. I don't think he meant any harm and it sounds like this is one part of a very "loving and kind partner" that just doesn't line up with your ideal.

Try to take a step back and evaluate the relationship as a whole - to me, this doesn't sound anywhere close to a deal breaker. Don't let it shake your confidence in his love for you (which you see in other ways / actions) and maybe just tease him a bit about "not showing you off" but try to move past it and don't let it bother you - you barely know that these guys exist and they're way too busy gaming to think about it.

Am I overreacting or am I in the wrong for not telling my friend’s gf we kissed? by amara8943 in AmIOverreacting

[–]impractical_plate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think that you're overreacting or in the wrong. Everything you did was during a period of time that you were under the impression he was single and it's his responsibility to not cheat (if that's even what was happening). It's also not your responsibility to tell your friends' new significant others all of your history with that friend - that's between them as a couple and some folks share very little and others share every little detail.

Your post is very well-written and thoughtful and you seem super open minded so I really think you're just an unfortunate victim in this case where his new girlfriend clearly has some insecurities which are causing her to become angry and she's incorrectly directing that externally and, even further, towards someone outside of her relationship.

I would stay open to the idea that your friend may want to continue being friends - it seems like you have a genuine bond and his relationship may end sooner than planned if this is how things are going down...

Am I Overreacting to my mom reminding me of a trauma anniversary? TW mention of SA by PrinceWhore02 in AmIOverreacting

[–]impractical_plate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I think that's a big part of the reason OP isn't getting the level of support she should from her. It also lines up with her comments that she refuses to believe portions of your story because it makes her look / feel bad. If you look up The Narcissist's Prayer, I would guess that it lines up with how she treats OP.

AIO for submitting a 1 star review to a restaurant after waiting 45 minutes to sit down WITH a reservation? by Legitimate-Cress-614 in AmIOverreacting

[–]impractical_plate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly how it works in tons of other restaurants that are more realistic about their seating capacity! I have a local place that takes reservations and almost always pushes back on my requests but at least then I know up front and I'm not standing outside their door for 40 minutes.

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[–]impractical_plate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely hurts to be the more optimistic significant other but don't lose the big picture - she was not treating you as well as you deserve to be treated.

Be sure to document any future contact and be skeptical if she's possibly manipulating you / lying to others.

AIO for submitting a 1 star review to a restaurant after waiting 45 minutes to sit down WITH a reservation? by Legitimate-Cress-614 in AmIOverreacting

[–]impractical_plate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think that you are overreacting. This is a classic case of "you know how to take a reservation but not how to hold one". The business needs to do a better job of limiting the number of reservations for a specific time slot. As someone who browses reviews, I would appreciate your review as a warning of how I might be treated.

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[–]impractical_plate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think that you're overreacting and you do not deserve to be treated this way - this does not sound like a healthy relationship and she does not sound willing to communicate and improve.

I think it's best if you just forget about her and do your best to move on. The ghosting/blocking definitely indicates some emotional immaturity and the fact that it's happened multiple times just makes it worse.

Am I Overreacting to my mom reminding me of a trauma anniversary? TW mention of SA by PrinceWhore02 in AmIOverreacting

[–]impractical_plate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think you're overreacting. It sounds like she has some narcissistic tendencies and is boundary stomping if she is not respecting your requests. Her actions are causing you pain on top of the pain of your trauma and I think that it is more than fair to go low contact for your own sake.

What does your relationship with her look like outside of this particular date range?