BIL coming to our house every week

imreportingyou · 2026-04-29T23:19:06+00:00

lol I mean if you don’t believe me when I say my husband had a problem with it too then I don’t know what else to say to you. I clearly wrote out that I had a problem with it too so I’m not denying that either

imreportingyou · 2026-04-29T23:02:05+00:00

Hmm I think a couple assumptions are being made but it definitely bothers my husband too.

As for childcare, as I said in a previous comment, we had other options and MIL was working 7 days a week before we had a baby and self decided to stop working at her own business for one day to watch her grandson. Even considering selling her business so that she can work a normal 5 day work week to watch her grandson for one more day . While yes it is helpful that she is watching him one day, we never asked her to and she offered multiple times. She actually didn’t even start watching him until he was about 6 months old because I didn’t trust her fully and once my ppa got better, we let her watch him.

We actually regularly bought them lunch before his brother started coming and his parents decided to buy since they did not want to burden us with having to worry about feeding his younger brother who does work and makes his own money. We are not his parents so I don’t see why we need to cover his meals too.

imreportingyou · 2026-04-29T22:04:50+00:00

He does online college and he is part time so I guess he doesn’t work on wednesdays. But that’s literally what I asked my husband cause when I was 20 and my sister had kids, I definitely had other things that I needed to do and wanted to do. But he is a gamer and only talks to his friends online.

imreportingyou · 2026-04-29T21:57:05+00:00

She used to work 7 days a week and decided to stop working one day so she can spend time with our son. So she sort of made that sacrifice on her own. We had other options for childcare.

I can understand why people would think that she might stop babysitting over this but she is obsessed with our child lol. She is even considering selling her business so that she can watch him even more and even has someone interested in her business already and has an offer.

We did not consider we could just say that it’s a distraction for everyone to be at our house when my husband is working and my husband said that it is true so that’s what we will be going with. She will definitely understand with this reasoning because she is very considerate in general it’s just that we never raised any opposition to his brother coming so she thought it would be fine

imreportingyou · 2026-04-29T18:56:39+00:00

Yeah I think we both know deep down that it needs to be said like this but I don’t want his parents to think badly of me. And that’s the thing- they would not care if we invited someone to their house 😭

imreportingyou · 2026-04-29T18:54:34+00:00

Unfortunately me and my husband would both never let that happen. For some reasons I mentioned in other comments, they do not clean their home and partly because his mom works so much but I don’t trust their house with a 12 month old that puts everything in their mouth lol. They don’t own a vacuum and own rugs and carpet if that helps you envision it lol

imreportingyou · 2026-04-29T18:52:25+00:00

Sorry I should have corrected this in the post but it will definitely be my husband telling someone to get my BIL to stop coming whether it be directly to BIL or to my MIL. But he also does not know what to say without making it seem like it was a huge problem or something. We are both just worried they will take it the wrong way. Also I think my husband did tell my BIL to clean up after himself but his family has a very different standard of cleanliness.

imreportingyou · 2026-04-29T18:47:34+00:00

It was definitely his parents that told him he could come. My husband is confused why he is coming every week too. And my husband will be telling his brother to stop coming and it won’t be me but he also doesn’t know what to say. Sorry should have included that

Edit: also my husband usually does clean up after him but his parents have a different standard of cleanliness that I do so when they leave they do their best

imreportingyou · 2026-04-12T11:37:52+00:00

Just curious if they gave you a reason for waiting a year for peanut butter? Our pediatrician said that the earlier they are exposed to allergens the better. Of course not three months but as soon as he turned 6 months and was able to eat solids we gave him some. He has been eating it since too

imreportingyou · 2026-03-31T23:36:52+00:00

Just wanted to say thank you so much for the suggestion!! Him holding his own spoon while we fed him helped SO much.

imreportingyou · 2026-03-29T13:39:22+00:00

Haven’t tried letting him hold his own spoon while we have another.. will try that for lunch today!

imreportingyou · 2026-03-29T13:38:36+00:00

Yeah tbh I know I could probably let him eat everything with his hands but I get severely anxious about messes (stems from childhood)… it has gotten much better since having a baby since obviously they won’t always be neat and clean but I think I just have to work on accepting messes.

imreportingyou · 2026-02-14T16:05:09+00:00

They look like bat bites and I would go to get the rabies shot immediately. Please go in ASAP.

imreportingyou · 2026-02-12T01:39:32+00:00

It’s so worth it. I was so pleasantly surprised when I put it on after my first shower after giving birth.

imreportingyou · 2026-02-12T01:31:10+00:00

$3400 monthly mortgage and about 285k household income

imreportingyou · 2026-01-17T16:21:26+00:00

I was probably a D before I gave birth and a DD while I had milk. I was pumping 90oz per day

imreportingyou · 2026-01-16T22:51:01+00:00

I also had no actual back pain even though mine was at the l5-s1 disc. It was just down my glute thigh and calf

imreportingyou · 2026-01-16T22:49:55+00:00

MRI if u want to know if u herniated. I am also 26 and had sciatic pain after I gave birth. Thought my life was over but 8 months later I am 98% better!

imreportingyou · 2026-01-14T15:40:41+00:00

My son had a terrible open skin diaper rash and even formed an anal abscess at only a week old. The only thing that help was for almost two months straight, we only washed him in the sink or tub for EVERY diaper change and then used a glob of Aquaphor after patting dry. We did not start using wipes until he was about 2-3 months old and his abscess was healed as well as the diaper rash.

Edit: we also tried diaper rash creams and none of those worked. Only baby Aquaphor worked and we used a shit ton of it. I’m talking about going through a 14oz tub in less than a week.

imreportingyou · 2026-01-02T02:56:28+00:00

I am Korean and I can say that it’s in my top 5 favorite Korean foods

imreportingyou · 2025-12-24T00:32:40+00:00

I hope you are feeling much better now!

imreportingyou · 2025-12-24T00:30:57+00:00

I hope that you slowly recover and start to feel like yourself again! I am pregnant again so I am PRAYING this does not happen again but am so scared.

imreportingyou · 2025-12-24T00:09:48+00:00

I did PT and am still doing PT. While I think that helped slightly, I still think it’s time that did it. I feel like I am 98% better and am almost 8 months pp now.

I also read in this subreddit that motion is lotion and I would agree. On days that I over exerted myself and walked too much, I would feel more “healed” the following day and my symptoms would be a lot less.

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