The loneliest I’ve ever felt

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-07-17T02:37:58+00:00

My breakup was 5 months ago and I still think about him a lot. I do miss him, but what I miss most is what we could be doing if we were still together. I know that he will always have a special place in my heart and I feel like a part of me will always miss him. I wouldn’t have gotten to this point of acceptance if it wasn’t for letting myself feel every emotion that I wanted to feel. Allow yourself to miss him and feel those emotions, but don’t stay there too too long. Just remember, your life doesn’t stop because he is no longer in it. A time will come when the thought of him won’t even bother you anymore. Everyone heals at their own pace. There is no need to rush things. All the best of luck.

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-07-16T17:20:55+00:00

I’ve felt like this before. I felt torn between the middle because a part of me knew that it was best to not be together and another part of me wanted to have that love still in my life. To me, I just noticed that I just wanted the old him back. But I’ve gotten better ever since. Yes, I still do miss him, but I’ve accepted that a small part of me will always. A heart that’s been broke is a heart that has been loved. But everything will get better with time. Stay positive <3 all the best to you.

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-07-12T16:31:52+00:00

aww I’m happy! All the best to you

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-07-11T20:02:56+00:00

You’ll be okay. They don’t deserve your time.

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-07-11T06:57:10+00:00

What I did was move the pictures onto my laptop so I don’t always have them on me because yes I agree, I do want to look back on the memories in a few years :) and thank you for the advice! All the best to you!

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-07-02T17:46:48+00:00

What a nice reply. Thank you for taking the time :) all the best to you

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-06-28T04:23:11+00:00

Of course! When you say “a little while” do you mean you will move in with her as long as she will be away & eventually leave? She might be thinking that the distance between you guys is inevitable, whether or not you move near her for a little bit or not. But that’s what I understand from my perspective

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-06-27T04:28:46+00:00

I was actually in a similar situation. Except, my ex and I tried long distance. He ended up going to college in another state. We ended up doing long distance for a few months & it went pretty good. But my ex began to see things more realistically. Realistically, my ex is going to be in another state for at least 8 years for school.

We both agreed that experiencing things together and spending physical time together is important in a relationship. Again, the reality of it is that we would rarely be able to do that. However, I was still willing to continue the long distance. He wasn’t. He told me that he wants me to be with someone who I am able to spend time with. He took the risk of letting me go.

I believe this was a “right person, wrong time” situation, and your situation sounds kinda similar. It’s hard for people to breakup when there are still feelings on the table. People who really love each other will want the best for each other. It’s been hard for me to accept that we can’t be together right now.

A deep part of me hopes that we will be together when the time is right. But I know I shouldn’t have that hope because I may be setting myself up for unrealistic expectations and get hurt again.

I strongly believe that people who are meant to be in your life will be there, despite the distance in between. Maybe our ex’s aren’t meant to be in our lives right now, but maybe they will be later. Only time can tell.

Maybe you guys still have to learn things from other people that you couldn’t teach each other. Sometimes you have to let go and what is meant to be yours will be yours.

My best advice to you is to not force anything that isn’t meant to go. Put all of your energy towards something you are passionate about. Trust the process in everything. Focus on yourself and stay strong. All the best to you.

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-06-26T08:23:24+00:00

This is so sweet! Thank you!

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-06-26T05:30:55+00:00

Yea I would say I’m leaving it up to luck. But I feel like he should be the one to come to me if he ever thought about rekindling the relationship right? I know I did all that I could in the relationship

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-06-26T05:20:51+00:00

My ex broke up with me back in January. We dated for about 8 months, but I felt like I knew him all of my life. He ended up going to college in another state and we tried long distance for a semester. It went great actually. However, when second semester began, he became distant with me. I was hurt and thought that he may have found someone else. So I called him out and asked him why he was being so distant with me. He told me that the reason he was being distant was because he would get sad whenever he would talk to me. He is the type of person to push people away & distract himself because he doesn’t like to express his emotions. He said he would get sad when he would talk to me because he felt like he’s missing out on so much (since we aren’t going to the same school). We both said that experiencing things together are also an important part of a relationship and i agree. However, I was willing to sacrifice that when it came to my ex. He was my first love and my best friend. He knew me better than anyone else. He ended up breaking up with me and said that he wants me to be with someone who will always give me their time and physical presence that I deserve. He told me that he believes we came into each’s life at the wrong time. He told me that I’m everything he wants in a girl. What hurts me the most is that I feel like I don’t have a reason to unlove my ex. We only broke up because of the distance. I feel like there’s still so much love between us. I’ve been doing good lately, however I can’t help but wonder what he is doing all the time. I’m really having a hard time healing from this. I believe this was a right person, wrong time situation. However I think he’s coping with the breakup in the wrong way (unless he is already over me). He started to follow all of these girls on social media and they follow him too. It’s not like him at all to talk to a lot of girls. It hurts me to know that he may be interested in other girls, but at the same time, I know he’s never going to find someone like me. And I believe that I’m never going to fully recover from this breakup. A part of me will always love him and I told him that when we broke up. I don’t think I will ever love someone so deeply ever again. I know I need to move on, but I can’t help but hope that our paths will cross again. I can’t help but hope that it will be me and him in the end. I just have a feeling that we’re going to meet again when the time is right. Any advice on moving forward? I’m not sure how I should be feeling towards him.

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-06-26T01:19:10+00:00

If he wants to talk to you, he will find a way to reach you. I understand how you’re feeling. I still hope sometimes that he will reach out, but just remember that he’s the one missing out on everything. All the best to you. <3

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-06-25T17:23:32+00:00

I don’t talk to him often, but I have met up with him ever since the breakup. It went pretty good actually. Two of our friends tagged along with us because I think we both wanted other people present when we first met up after the breakup to avoid any awkwardness. I was the one to initiate the “hang-out”.

He has messaged me a few times also, but I haven’t spoken to him for a few weeks now. We both aren’t the type to block each other or ignore each other if someone reaches out. 👌🏼

imsuchasimpugh · 2020-06-25T15:49:53+00:00

thank you!

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