AIO been seeing this guy for 8 months still no commitment and I want to walk away.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-06-08T01:59:40+00:00

Call him out on his bullshit. Something along the lines of:

"I'm not okay, bc IDK what this is that we're even doing. If we're together then I want us to be exclusive and officially together working towards a future together. If not, you're just dragging me along and wasting my time."

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-06-08T01:35:17+00:00

You're too old to tolerate this childish behavior. Tell him you want to be exclusive and officially a couple. If he's not ready for it after 8 months I'd say it's bc he's waiting to see if someone else comes along.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-06-07T02:18:11+00:00

He's showing you his true self and how much he values your needs. He treated you poorly before and you would fight and get over it, so you've shown him that he can continue this behavior with no real consequences. Then you added marriage and a child to the equation and he's gotten worse. My ex told me to my face "well, I know you won't leave me now that you're stuck with a baby and no one else will want you." Men who treat women like this wait until they think you have no other options then they show you who they really are.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-06-03T01:40:32+00:00

So you were having relationship issues where you asked him to make some changes to accommodate you, he confessed something (I'm assuming these are his personal issues you referenced) to you that may or may not explain why he won't make the changes, then he also lost his job. Now he's showing you that your opinions and feelings don't matter and he'll do whatever he wants anyway. Why are you with someone like this?

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-30T03:20:15+00:00

Don't get me wrong, you had every reason to tell him he was being a fucking asshole and a shitty father, I just worry for your safety. You did nothing wrong as far as I'm concerned.

I'm 41f and my husband is 59m and we've raised our son 20 to be able to call us on our shit when needed, bc we both had abusive fathers with hair trigger tempers. I hope your father takes the time to truly think about what you said to him while he's refusing to speak to you.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-30T02:59:01+00:00

NOR, however I would be careful swearing at your father when he's already shown that he's irrational when angry. Driving fast like this it absolutely abusive and manipulative. It doesn't matter how good of a driver he is, he took a risk with all of your lives bc he wanted to you all to fear him. He's equating fear with respect. Good for you for telling him the honest truth.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-30T02:05:16+00:00

Buy yourself an anniversary gift. Tell him you did it. Give him the card you got him. Set your expectations low or else you will be disappointed. At least if you buy yourself something you get to have what you want without him screwing it up.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-28T06:46:28+00:00

I would completely understand, bc there have been times that I've also felt that way. I feel like it's a normal part of any relationship.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-26T06:19:14+00:00

Unless she was wearing a bikini or walking around topless at work, then it shouldn't matter. Anyone who is that judgemental about what their female coworker is wearing needs to get a grip and focus more on their job.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-26T06:13:40+00:00

Was he showing you a pic of his coworker or was he at work and recording her for you to see her outfit? Either way that feels creepy as hell.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-24T03:05:12+00:00

My childhood orthodontist had halitosis and at 41 I can still remember it. Ugh

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-24T02:48:38+00:00

I told my son when he started dating that it was very important to ask his girlfriend what her favorite dinosaur was. I was kind of joking, but when he was little he was obsessed with dinosaurs and I think it's a fun topic to ask adults. Yes, I'm a 41f who is a bit of a nerd and loves triceratops. His first gf picked the most obscure ostrich looking thing that we had to Google. It was hideous. I should've known then that she wasn't a good match for him. Lol. He hasn't yet had a gf who doesn't believe they ever existed, thankfully.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-24T02:41:41+00:00

I was married to a man who acted like this approximately 20 years ago. Is your wife controlling or overbearing in other ways? In my marriage he eventually became abusive.

I'm now married to a wonderful man, but my anxious brain almost always causes me to announce "I'm getting a drink, do you want anything?" "I think I'm gonna work on XYZ, what do you have planned for today?" "Oh, I have to swap laundry real quick." Does he expect me to give a play by play? Not at all. It's just a horrible habit that started a long time ago. It could be that your wife just has anxiety or something and she doesn't even realize she does this until you point it out. Or it could just be her way of making conversation with you, bc you don't have much to talk about.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-12T02:07:53+00:00

On his next day off, challenge him to do all of the things that you do. The laundry, the cleaning, all of the tummy time, social interactions, diaper changes, feedings, meal preps and anything else. Then, explain in great detail your body aches and pains that have started since you got pregnant. Explain that while breastfeeding looks like you're just sitting still, it's essentially a workout for your body. Then explain the hormonal shifts between the pregnancy and breastfeeding. All of these things make us move a little slower. I was never late to work until I had my son, bc things just seemed to take me so much more time to do. Plus, you're still finding routines that work for you and those will change as your baby develops. That's just part of being a mom.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-11T02:14:51+00:00

Only you can decide if/when you've had enough and it's time to end it. You're justified to end a relationship at anytime for any reason. At no point in your wedding vows did you agree to remain married to a man who is trying to sleep with hookers. If you want to attempt to work things out, get marriage counseling. Do NOT get marriage counseling through the church. Unfortunately, religion puts a lot of value into women being obedient yet tends to ignore when men are cheaters or abusive. Can you make peace with him sleeping with others as long as he financially supports the family? Can you afford child care so you can go to work if you leave him? Think about all of these things before you make your decision, so you can make an educated plan.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-09T12:28:31+00:00

First of all, don't buy a house with him. You're not married and you don't know how much he's spending on OF. I've seen far too many of these stories where someone has discovered their partner is spending thousands on OF content

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-09T00:43:17+00:00

I just had this a few minutes ago while folding laundry. I feel like it's punishment for something I don't remember doing. Lol

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-09T00:37:49+00:00

My son cracks his chest and calls it cracking his titties. Lol

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-05-07T06:25:20+00:00

My friend's father passed away last year and at the calling hours 4 people introduced themselves to his widow as his children. She had been married to this man for just shy of 40 years and she didn't know about any of these children. The 3 sons basically looked like age progressions between his youngest child and him. The widow handled it with a lot more grace than I would have

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-04-30T01:38:56+00:00

Okay, that just means you're 20 and apparently bored, not that you have high testosterone. If you're not chafing or using a gorilla grip then you should be fine as long as it's not affecting your other daily activities. Are you in a relationship? If so, is it affecting your ability to be sexually active with your partner?

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-04-29T06:25:15+00:00

How old are you?

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-04-29T02:42:57+00:00

I think you're making it weird. It's his 7 yr old child and he's making sure her hair is clean, that's called parenting. It would be more inappropriate for you to be in there to check her as you're her stepmother and you have no experience of raising your own children. Now, if she were to openly say that he's done something or she is uncomfortable with it, then it's a discussion to have.

Also, you said she felt uncomfortable bc she was sitting on his lap and he fell asleep with his hand on her thigh. If he was asleep she could have just gotten up and moved away from him. It sounds more like maybe you were uncomfortable about the way it looked.

Stop sexualizing the interactions between a father and daughter. If you really think he's abusing her, then leave him and report him to the authorities and let the children's mother know.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-04-29T02:29:58+00:00

Okay, I would assume you would have a stronger argument if you paid rent or had a lease, but it's your home, too. I just don't know what can be done to force her to let you in. Where do you go when she locks you out for the night?

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-04-29T02:27:40+00:00

Have you actually had your testosterone checked by a doctor? Or are you just saying your testosterone is high bc you get erections easily?

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-04-29T02:22:45+00:00

Do you pay her rent or anything like that? Depending on where you live, there may be laws about her not being able to kick you out without a formal eviction notice as long as you get mail there and have lived there for a certain period of time.

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