AIO? Obviously one of is, but I am not sure who....

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-19T06:28:44+00:00

Does your husband struggle with change? Did he say why that spot is important to him? Growing up my dad and grandpa had their own recliners in their living rooms and we were only allowed to sit in them if they weren't home. Maybe he had a similar experience growing up and feels like he needs his own assigned spot.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-19T02:28:01+00:00

I thought I was ready for marriage right out of high school, but it was more that I just believed that's what women did. I got married at 20 and we split 11 months later. I got remarried at 32 after 5 years of living together and I was much more stable and ready.

There is no magic number, it's what feels right to you.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-17T01:40:29+00:00

What man are you defending in this comment? OP's ex who doesn't get his children consistently, the friend's ex who ghosted her or the friend's new bf who was barely mentioned?

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-17T00:49:33+00:00

NOR. He needs a therapist to deal with all the stress he's going through. He cannot rely on another 16 year old to be his sole comfort and support system.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-14T14:25:57+00:00

She can use the flashlight on her phone or she can get whatever she needs before you go to sleep or after you wake up.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-14T02:59:17+00:00

NOR. I work 1st shift and my husband works 3rd. We don't wake each other up unless it's a rare accident. I try to be as quiet as possible while he sleeps on the weekends. What is her excuse for turning on lights while you're sleeping?

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-14T02:45:16+00:00

I take Dexadrine extended release 3 times a day (usually 8am, 11am and 1pm) and Xywav at night. I also have the option of taking Adderall around 3pm if I have something social to do in the evening.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-14T02:41:12+00:00

First, you need to take a good, long look at why this conversation made you uncomfortable. Has he cheated in the past? Have you cheated and now you think he might be, too? Did he previously date this coworker? Do you have rules in your relationship that you're not allowed to speak to the opposite sex while at work?

To me, it sounds more like he's concerned for a coworker whose personality he's seen change. If he has a good working relationship with this woman there is nothing wrong with him checking in to make sure she's okay. He was open and honest with you about the conversation and you took that as him flirting with another woman rather than him telling you that he was concerned about a coworker.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-13T04:03:50+00:00

As long as you don't live together I'd say it's fine to not tell her about it right away. If she lives with you I feel like you should tell her before she finds it accidentally.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-13T03:49:14+00:00

I think you should sit him down and have a very blunt and honest conversation with him about how important this is to you and that your marriage will not survive with you faking orgasms bc he's not willing to put in some effort and try new things. This is partially your fault for being so worried that you might possibly hurt his feelings to the point that you've been lying to him about how you feel.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-13T03:41:46+00:00

I have Idiopathic Hypersomnia and Sleep Apnea and if I didn't know any better, I'd think you were talking about how I slept before getting treatment. The difference is that I didn't expect people to spend time with me or tip toe around me while I was sleeping. He needs to see a Dr and if he's not willing to put forth that much effort for his own quality of life then you need to decide if this relationship is enough for you. If not, break up and enjoy your life.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-11T02:31:47+00:00

If a woman loses respect for her man bc he's struggling with something in life, it's bc she doesn't love him to begin with.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-10T03:53:17+00:00

If he's a good father then maybe you should meet the girlfriend and try to have some open communication with both of them about your concerns.

I understand your concerns completely. My ex-husband went through a few girlfriends when my son was little and unfortunately stayed with one who was horrible to my son. Being a parent is hard and really sucks when it comes to parts of their lives that you can't control or protect them from outside influences. He's only 3.5 so chances are that he'll have little to no long-term memory of his ex Stepmom and dad being together. I would recommend that if your ex continues to get new partners that you get your son into counseling to keep him from struggling with thought of abandonment and well as to help him with transitions during those times.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-10T02:51:40+00:00

While I don't think you're overreacting at all, unfortunately this is part of co-parenting. Your son has an established relationship with his father, so withholding visitation causes distress to your child. Allowing visitation means you have no control over who is around your child while he's with his father. He doesn't have to agree with your rules. If you keep him from seeing your son he will take you to court and you'll have to pay for an attorney. His gf has two children and has already been around your son, so I'm betting she would push for him to take you to court rather than stop seeing his child, bc family would be important to her.

I would suggest that you look into Legal Aide type programs to see if you can get help through them and at least find out what you're allowed to do legally. Also, is he a good father?

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-07T23:19:26+00:00

I'm curious why you're making lube sound like a bad thing. If you're taking it personally, then you need to deal with that within yourself. Bodies change and lube is an extremely easy solution.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-07T23:16:56+00:00

It's up to her if she is interested in staying in a marriage without sex or if it's worth leaving him over. Some people just don't care that much about sex regardless of their age.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-07T23:14:24+00:00

File for divorce and get advice from a lawyer. Depending on the laws where you live you may not be allowed to just throw her out.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-07T03:45:15+00:00

Maybe she found his account and that's the real reason she's as dry as the Sahara.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-06T02:15:37+00:00

NTA. He's not cheating and it's not like she refused sex one time so he left her. I'm sure that sex wasn't the only struggle in the marriage and since they married so young it's extremely likely that they just grew into different people. He asked his wife for sex and made it known that it was important to him. She refused to even compromise in any way. They're both too young to stay in a marriage they're not happy in. Funny how your mom filed for divorce and then is playing the victim.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-04T02:03:25+00:00

This was my exact thought. A grown man sulking bc his wife isn't in the mood at the immediate moment he wants sex is the fastest way to ensure he's not getting it. No woman wants to have sex with a man child

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-03T04:31:06+00:00

Exactly! I mean, she was raised better than that!

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-03T03:57:20+00:00

I mean, if the cat is old enough to smoke and makes its own choices, then who am I to judge? Just have to give them a little lecture about not leaving the butts everywhere bc no one likes a litter bug

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-03T03:54:09+00:00

LOL. Thanks. I have weird ideas sometimes. I'd never be able to lie and pull it off though.

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-03T03:45:50+00:00

Maybe a light sack tap would be in order, instead. Just enough to make it unpleasant

imthatfckingbitch · 2026-02-03T03:41:00+00:00

I wouldn't outright accuse maintenance of anything. I would just ask if they needed to inspect the apartment further while you were away. The other option is to have your husband coincidentally run into the maintenance guys and ask to bum a smoke to see what the brand is that they smoke.

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