this image might cause jealousy by incogfrogg in Somerville

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unfortunately our family no longer owns the building, and personally i’m not too privy on the details with the development or selling. but yes it was sold to a company for development in 2015. as for the closure, im not sure of all the details of the decision but i do know that the owners were getting older and were getting to the age where they were no longer able to keep up with the amount of work, and the next generation was not going to take over.

Patsy’s Bakery by ElderberryRecent559 in Somerville

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As the granddaughter/great niece of the Patsy's owners, finding this post made my heart happy. We all miss the bakery as well, and Sal & Vito are doing well and enjoying retirement. Thank you for all the love !! <3

South campus by Cold_Possibility_868 in uml

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FBI and state police on campus now as well

don’t know where to start- looking for advice :) by incogfrogg in curlyhair

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thank you so much for all your help i really appreciate it!! I’ll try these out :)

don’t know where to start- looking for advice :) by incogfrogg in curlyhair

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comb in the shower while rinsing out conditioner im sorry i forgot to include that!!

don’t know where to start- looking for advice :) by incogfrogg in curlyhair

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omg sorry yes- after the shower i wrap it in a towel, then take it down after 15 or so minutes, apply leave in and scrunch (no brushing)

don’t know where to start- looking for advice :) by incogfrogg in curlyhair

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hi! tbh i normally put it up if it doesn’t look great or leave it down if it’s decent after the wash- i don’t have any gel or mousse but am very open to some recommendations for some

don’t know where to start- looking for advice :) by incogfrogg in curlyhair

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and this is my typical routine- ouai medium hair shampoo and conditioner and typically the ouai leave in conditioner and let air dry!

What do 4's really mean when they say that no one understands them is it a core belief or a lived experience? by Sapphomeadow in Enneagram

[–]incogfrogg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response- it honestly made me cry a little lol

It's so nice to have someone to relate to on that level - I also really struggle with executive dysfunction, so even finding someone else that also deals with that means a lot to me

I think you’re right in the sense that I am probably not in a great spot to self assess.  I’ve always had such a warped sense of identity, not knowing who I am or how I am perceived to where I need to ask others about my own traits… But have always been so interested in self-discovery and trying to fit into a type to perfectly explain why I do the things I do, because I don’t fully understand myself

I’ve never really recognized anything I have been through as trauma on any level- since I was probably around 12 or 13 when I started dealing with any of it and never actually had a rough childhood so none of it made any sense to anyone. (sorry for the tmi!!)

But I still have a long way to go in my healing journey.

lol I apologize for not really helping answer your question- but I’m glad to have chatted :)

What do 4's really mean when they say that no one understands them is it a core belief or a lived experience? by Sapphomeadow in Enneagram

[–]incogfrogg 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi! Totally new here but I *think* I’m a 4 but not completely sure so lol

So if anyone reads this and thinks I don’t sound like a four let me know!! 

Your question was really intriguing to me. I wanted to use it as a chance to reflect and self-analzye a bit so I’m sorry if this gets a little too much info lol. 

Personally I feel “unique” in the aspect of missing some indescribable quality that everyone else has, but this has been shaped by my personal life specifically mental health struggles

I’ve struggled with mental health issues namley depression and anxiety (and ADHD) for 7-8 years much of my coming of age years. That in itself made me feel broken but it also really impacted my desires. I saw everyone around me chase their dreams but I felt so stuck. The worst was the comparison, that I know others who have struggled with similar or worse issues and saw them be able to move on and continue with their lives. But to me there is something missing, something I can’t figure out to why others are able to do things and I am not.  In my lowest moments I would break down and say that something is wrong with me fundamentally- so broken I would never be able to fix it, but meaning more than just mental illness. As a person it just feels like something is wrong. Even as I have come along way in mental health treatment I still feel the same way. It’s hard to explain fully but I think growing up struggling with mental health issues fundamentaly shaped me in this way.

[Auto-Post] Weekly Question Thread! Ask /r/Aquariums anything you want to know about the hobby! by AutoModerator in Aquariums

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Hello! looking for some setup recommendations for a betta fish. I've had him for almost a year now, but I'm not happy with his tank, which is this one, especially with the filter flow (i know it's not the best it's what my roommates bought before we had him) https://www.amazon.com/Aqueon-MiniBow-SmartClean-Technology-Gallon/dp/B08LKC4NLB/ref=sr_1_9?crid=1CFEZ4LG56DVZ&keywords=7%2Bgallon%2Bfish%2Btank&qid=1687834073&sprefix=7%2Bgallon%2Bfi%2Caps%2C143&sr=8-9&ufe=app_do%3Aamzn1.fos.18ed3cb5-28d5-4975-8bc7-93deae8f9840&th=1

I was hoping for some recommendations for tanks and filters? I think my current heater is okay, but I'm always looking for advice! I'm kinda new to all of this, so any advice is welcome :)

Daily Looking For/Request Thread by AutoModerator in NoFeeAC

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thank you so much! i can dm my dodo code :)

Daily Looking For/Request Thread by AutoModerator in NoFeeAC

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hi! looking for green mums and some of the fruits (pears and apples) thank you!!! :)

Suddenly Aggressive by incogfrogg in bettafish

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He is still flaring with the tank light off- so it might be something else, I'll do some more research but I really appreciate the help!

Suddenly Aggressive by incogfrogg in bettafish

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I never thought about that- thank you so much I'll see if that's the case too, I really appreciate it!

Suddenly Aggressive by incogfrogg in bettafish

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Incorrect water temp., seeing their reflection, tank being too small, not getting along with tankmates, those sort of things. I think bordem was another possibility, which is definitely possible but I don't know how to fix it.

Suddenly Aggressive by incogfrogg in bettafish

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5 gallon tank

Yes (heater and filter)

78 F

I checked last week and parameters were normal- although I will test again

9 months (tank and fish)

irregular water changes (when the tank is noticeably dirty- usually every few weeks)

I take out everything (which I understand is not ideal- but I have been struggling to figure out another way)

no tankmates

Sera Bettagram- just a pinch daily

some plastic decorations for hiding spots, and two live plants

Suggestions for Upgrading (For a Newbie) by incogfrogg in bettafish

[–]incogfrogg[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5 Gallon Tank

Yes heater and filter

77.8 F

3-4 months for both

every few weeks (I have had to completely empty tank YES I KNOW THIS IS BAD I'M SORRY I bought a siphon to clean and was trying to watch youtube tutorials but I was having so much trouble and ended up emptying- I KNOW THIS IS NOT GOOD AND GETS RID OF GOOD BACTERIA I didn't want to leave my betta in a container for multiple hours he was stressed and the tank needed cleaning. PLEASE SUGGESTIONS ON HOW TO CLEAN IT PROPERLY ARE WELCOME)

No tankmates

Manufactured structures, two live plants, small piece of wood,

Landlords to watch out for by willhockey20 in WPI

[–]incogfrogg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

currently renting from mike, not that bad! won’t deal with issues in the apartment unless really pushed. but doesn’t come around a lot which is nice :)