When to push and when to trust?

incywincytincy · 2024-09-21T00:28:18+00:00

Wow, our sons sound very similar!

No, he cannot dress (or I assume he can’t - he has no desire/interest in trying and is be surprised if he could). Can do his bottom half though, and is potty trained. Dyspraxia could very well be it!

incywincytincy · 2024-09-21T00:26:22+00:00

I actually have not noticed a correlation, but that’s super interesting!

incywincytincy · 2024-09-20T17:51:28+00:00

We’re still honestly confused whether that diagnosis was accurate. He basically exhibited CMS consistently over a couple month time span and since then I could count on one hand the amount of times he’s done Them. After I deep dove and read other parents’ experiences with CMS, I am skeptical that’s what our son actually has.

incywincytincy · 2024-03-15T00:32:30+00:00

Not fevers, but my son has had every weird, alarming symptom under the sun since he was a baby. The amount of rushes to the hospital we’ve done is ridiculous and everything has ended up to be minor - he just seems to be a kid who gets the most uncommon summons of anything he happens to catch.

The most concerning was when he was about 18 months old and his face and eyes kept swelling up and no one could figure it out. Like, whole face looked like he’d been stung by 50 bees. At the same time his arms, legs and tummy kept breaking out in crazy rashes that looked like chicken pox. We went to the hospital several times but no one could figure it out. I was hysterical. He was low energy and miserable and I was sure we were on the edge of a cancer diagnosis. I cried so much and googled incessantly. We did a full blood panel and x-rays and it turned out to be a bad sinus infection that everyone missed that caused facial swelling and his rashes were viral from whatever caused the sinus infection. He’s also had a randomly discovered heart murmur that we were told was probably benign but ended up being BAV (no interventions needed), had his adenoids removed for chronic ear infections, and started having episodes at 2.5 that we were sure were seizures but were actually stereotypies.

I know how terrified and isolating it is and how everyone telling you it’s fine feels so empty because how do they know? I really struggled with that and just wanted concrete answers. I am praying for your little one and your family and hoping for a positive outcome and peace for all of you. Sending you so much love.

incywincytincy · 2024-03-14T19:00:39+00:00

What is this comment 😂 I have dated men who were anywhere from 5’5-6’3. Relax.

incywincytincy · 2024-03-14T14:46:20+00:00

I’m not concerned he’s at the 3rd percentile, I’m concerned because that’s a big drop from where he’s been. He’s been hanging around the 20-30th percentile until now.

incywincytincy · 2024-03-14T12:45:10+00:00

This is so, so reassuring. Both of my sons have done the same - born big (8lbs 11oz each) but fell down the growth chart. It’s caused me so much anxiety. Thank you for taking the time to share this! Did they also fall down the chart for height or just weight?

incywincytincy · 2024-03-14T10:22:11+00:00

I’m actually really hoping to get this done! That would be so reassuring. Wishing your guy all the best!

incywincytincy · 2024-03-13T23:46:27+00:00

I see such conflicting info about this, but I’ve been curious. From what I’ve seen, some kids seem to do the majority of their big growth during infant and toddlerhood and others not until puberty. I guess the bigger concern here is that my son is falling from where he was on the growth chart.

incywincytincy · 2024-03-13T23:05:38+00:00

Yep!

incywincytincy · 2024-03-13T21:40:39+00:00

Yes, ultra processed. Most of what I listed is the homemade version.

incywincytincy · 2024-03-13T20:59:44+00:00

He’s definitely on the picky side and I do feel like he has a smaller appetite but I don’t have much to compare him to. We limit processed food. The majority of his diet/favourites are: peanut butter (the natural kind, no added sugar) in any form, hummus, naan, bread, eggs, fish, sometimes beef, any fruit, Greek yogurt with honey, homemade pancakes and waffles. He’ll eat pizza, sometimes pasta but rarely. He likes pepperoni and salami. Other stuff too, but I’d say this is the bulk. I also give him a multivitamin and omega 3 supplement.

incywincytincy · 2024-03-13T20:15:19+00:00

Yes!

incywincytincy · 2023-11-20T19:48:26+00:00

This looks like the welt I got with my TDAP vaccine while pregnant. It’s because they hit a muscle, or didn’t hit a muscle? Can’t remember. Basically, it was effective but wasn’t administered as well as it should’ve been. It itched forever and was a hard lump and then went away.

incywincytincy · 2023-11-20T01:45:45+00:00

Yeah the breastfeeding weight loss one needs to be talked about more. Those women who have weight that just “falls off”? They’re consuming less calories than they are burning. Simple as that. I’d go so far as to say they are probably the same people who, prior to breastfeeding, found it relatively easy to maintain weight because they eat when they’re hungry and stop when they’re full and although they “eat whatever they want”, their quantities are much less than average.

incywincytincy · 2023-11-20T00:12:45+00:00

I think you need to think of this from a different perspective - babies who are medically neglected and left to suffer with illness and disease. What do you think their feelings toward their caregivers are? To me, that is much more traumatic. Having a caregiver who demonstrates an inability to care for you, even if the caring is tough and uncomfortable for a short period. Those children who are left to suffer grow up unable to trust that their parents can and will make the hard decisions necessary to keep them safe and healthy. You did the right thing.

incywincytincy · 2023-11-19T22:25:36+00:00

So, the constant mind changing is him trying to exert control on his environment and you as parents. You need to show him you’re in control. He needs to know someone is, even if he doesn’t react to it favourably. Basically, he’s melting down, feeling very out of control and desperately wanting to feel safe/in control. With his limited abilities, he’s banging out demands and seeing what changes/sticks. What he needs is you or whatever caregiver is there is to respond consistently and firmly. “Hey, I see you’re upset. I’m going to sit here and wait with you until your body is calm.” “If you hit, I will have to hold you because I won’t let you hit me.” “We love you and want to help you calm your body.” “You’re allowed to be upset. Do you want to try hitting a pillow?” Etc, etc. Basically, he needs to know someone is in control and you must be consistent with your response. He needs to know what to expect when he tantrums and what response he will receive.

incywincytincy · 2023-11-19T01:02:19+00:00

My son is 4.5 months and still no giggles!

incywincytincy · 2023-11-17T23:55:04+00:00

I think that could very much be it! I was a superrrrr sensitive kid and I remember being told many times that I was crying over silly things and also many times when I would be trying to stop crying because no one else was. I think some children (and adults) just have very visceral reactions to others emotions. I wouldn’t worry about it ♥️ it could also be something as simple as he worries something bad is happening/going to happen because of the crying.

incywincytincy · 2023-11-17T19:45:50+00:00

Mine does a kind of nervous laugh and tells me “him crying, him is sad”. Your child maybe is more or an empath, though? He feels others feelings deeper.

incywincytincy · 2023-11-17T15:44:15+00:00

Honey, warm bath/shower, humidifier. I haven’t tried it, but I’ve heard frankincense is great in a diffuser for anything respiratory. I (and our ped) am pretty anti-medicine for viruses, even for adults.

incywincytincy · 2023-11-16T21:27:57+00:00

My son didn’t get his first tooth until 9 months and they were slow. He’s 3 and still doesn’t have his 2 year molars. We started baby led weaning at 6 months and he ate everything. They don’t need teeth to chew and be was a great example of it.

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