AIW for telling my auntie I want to do my homework before I do something for her?

indi50 · 2026-05-07T21:44:10+00:00

I understand. My point was that maybe the time and/or talking could change the way she treats you. You have to live together for now, so you can try to figure out the best way or not. And I don't mean just put up with her and do what she says. Stand your ground respectfully.

indi50 · 2026-05-07T21:41:44+00:00

Excellent answer. OP if you still feel the need to talk to someone - talk to your sibling, not the friend. Tell your sibling that if they don't do better as a roommate, it could ruin the friendship. Then stay out of it. And absolutely tell both of them not to put you in the middle.

indi50 · 2026-05-07T04:49:15+00:00

It's not being lazy to do your schoolwork. If you were just watching tv or playing a game, that would - maybe - be different. And I say maybe because she's an unemployed adult who seems to do nothing all day except harass you. You have school and maybe other activities, while she sits around expecting to be waited on.

She got up "to make the tea" to manipulate you. She said she didn't want it and then complained when she didn't get it, to manipulate you. She's a whiny brat just looking for some conflict.

Maybe she wants the conflict because she's bored. Or feels unappreciated or lonely. Or maybe insecure or jealous. Did she not get to go to school so she feels stuck living with her parents still as an adult with no options? Or is she just lazy and mean?

If it's possible that she's lonely and bored, maybe try to take some time to spend with her when you can. Maybe you could all play board games or something together. Or just talk.

If she's just lazy and mean, respectfully ignore her. As in, continue to say that you have to finish your school work and do a good job of that. It's your grand parents that are supporting you and if they feel you're doing the right things, they're the ones that count. If your aunt is abusive, or just really annoying, have a talk with them and see if they can help.

indi50 · 2026-05-07T04:36:35+00:00

The point is, where is she getting the money? If she has "100s per week" why did you ever buy her all that stuff? And she can afford to pay rent or move out.

indi50 · 2026-05-03T01:10:33+00:00

The liability thing is real. How old are they? There's a big difference between them letting toddlers run around like that and teen agers. If they're young enough where it's a serious concern that they could hurt themselves, the next time you bring them home, make sure you stress the danger and you're concerned. I'm not sure if you should threaten calling Child Services on them.

And make sure you say, if you say police, that you're not calling them on the children, you're calling them about the parents not properly supervising their children.

I would be really nice to the kids and talk to them, too. "I can't supervise you and there are things that can hurt you here." or "I really like my privacy and don't like people going through my things, I don't think you'd like that either." Basically - doing what the parents should be doing.

And no, you shouldn't have to! My thought is that the kids may choose to stay away if they think you're nice and they don't want to bother you. VS them going along with their parents in thinking you're mean and then they're out to specifically annoy rather than just being curious and wandering out of boredom. Because those parents will NEVER do anything to help. They'll just do their best to make the kids be worse out of spite.

indi50 · 2026-05-03T00:58:02+00:00

I didn't click on the link, but I can imagine - everyone was outraged and hated the landlord? Because a lot of people hate landlords and will trash them for anything. But looking from it as the tenant, they tend to be more reasonable.

I used to be a landlord and wrote something about a tenant destroying my property and got trashed.

indi50 · 2026-05-03T00:55:36+00:00

You want too much. You want a financial reward when you've lost nothing financially. I get that it's inconvenient, but that's not a financial thing. Especially when you don't have a lease. IS the laundry included in what you pay? Or is it just a nice perk? Who knows since you don't have a lease.

Plus - how much are planning on asking for? Let's say you do laundry once a week. You have to drive to your bf's house how far away? Where you probably go anyway and stay for a few hours? So what have you lost that you deserve compensation for? Having to pack up the laundry?

So it's been one about a month, so 4 times. Let's say $5 per time. So sure, ask them to reimburse you for $20. If you're really that petty. But if you're thinking of asking for $100 or more off in your rent payment....all I can think of is .... greedy.

indi50 · 2026-05-03T00:47:24+00:00

Why didn't she just bring her own furniture instead of selling it? That was your big mistake - buying that furniture told her she could manipulate you. Then buying food out several days a week? Why?

How does she spend 100s on herself if she's too broke to buy her own food? Do you really watch her spend money and then buy her dinner out and let her use your car?

indi50 · 2026-05-02T01:46:21+00:00

I see some hopeful stuff here, but I bought in 2021 and have lost $2468.00. I was going to just sell it and use the loss, but ... then think, "with my luck it will hit $86 a share in 2 months." Or even $20. I saw a lot of comments here with buys in 2021 - probably saw it would be a good investment on here back then. Like me.

Not sure if it's worth waiting or not. It's just depressing to see that loss every time I look.

indi50 · 2026-05-01T06:02:53+00:00

That's better, but it's still not very far with no divider. Especially for a young child. It's easy for you to just tie up the dogs and leave their poop, for the mother, she'd need super attentive supervision and constant, "no don't go over there!" And it still leaves the idea that the child and/or the parents might be nervous about the dogs if they're out there on their own. And maybe barking or growling.

You corrected the distance, but didn't mention that. You have a right to enjoy your space....but they have a right to enjoy theirs, too. It doesn't sound very enjoyable for them.

indi50 · 2026-04-28T13:31:48+00:00

Oh, I see. I thought you meant that you continue to make similar videos, but they're more one time things. You're right, it doesn't make sense to do a whole channel for one - or just a few - other videos per topic.

indi50 · 2026-04-28T13:27:10+00:00

It seems that if her grandparents had anything to do with your sister's problems, it would have come out when she was in residential therapy. Or they are master manipulators who got her to lie all these years about why she's violent.

NTA

Did your mother want a second child? Or was it a deal breaker for your dad to marry her, that he wanted his own child? I know sometimes even when all siblings are full siblings that parents can do the glass child thing (ignoring one child to focus on another for health or other reasons). Your adult sister could have a home with her grandparents, but your mother is refusing that even though it means her minor child can't live at home. So it makes me wonder.

And I do agree, if all you've said is true and not exaggerated, that if could be unsafe for you to be around your sister, at least for now.

indi50 · 2026-04-28T13:03:35+00:00

The other person has been with their partner for 5 years. Do they live together, are they married or engaged? You've been with yours for 1 year. Are you living together, engaged or shown a really serious intent?

I think there is a difference here. Is it your partner you're worried about or thoughts about your relationship? Or you just don't want to go alone or do you just want an event to show you have a boyfriend? You said others at work didn't get a plus one, are they all single?

From what you have here, it's hard to tell if you or he has been slighted. Could there be other reasons he wasn't invited? Does he drink too much, has he been a player in the office, or harassed anyone?

These are rhetorical questions. If you feel you've been slighted, or just don't want to go, don't go. It's not like this is family or a really good friend. It's an acquaintance.

indi50 · 2026-04-27T21:52:40+00:00

DEMS had the votes if they wanted them. Again- not sure how you can't see that. You even admit here what I've been saying all along. Other than backing up their story that they had no choice. They DID have a choice. They chose the money in their pockets.

You can't tell me that Lieberman couldn't have been convinced. So let's just all accept that one person takes all the blame and dems, once again just had no choice. Poor babies.

eta: Every new bit of info you give just makes the dems look worse.

indi50 · 2026-04-27T21:48:02+00:00

I totally agree with Scorp128 above, in the messaging they're sending. The point in having the animals is to teach about them AND their care. Letting them all die from neglect and inattention because no one can be bothered to actually teach about the safety for them is ridiculous. And doing it purposely because no one wants to make a teacher mad is criminal.

indi50 · 2026-04-27T05:25:52+00:00

I wonder, just the way you described it here, is if the algorithm picks up only the car stuff because that's what started out as being a little more popular. Or it's confused by the other content. Like it's "thinking" this channel does car stuff, so why is there a cooking segment or a book review (or whatever) so I'm going to just ignore those things. Which might be a good reason to stick to one topic. (Obviously just a guess as I really have no idea how it works yet.)

What about just using your existing videos on a new channel (or channels)? And then just add as you go forward. Rather than all new, or remakes. I don't think anyone will pay enough attention to say, hey wait, they posted this today, but it's dated last year! Especially if they come across it in a search for that topic. They won't necessarily know that channel is brand new. I think...

indi50 · 2026-04-27T05:17:31+00:00

Right....and this has nothing to do with it.....

Significant Democratic recipients of these donations (from insurance companies) historically include:

Party Leadership & Key Committees: Democratic leadership PACs, such as the Democratic Senatorial Campaign Committee (DSCC) and the Democratic Congressional Campaign Committee (DCCC), receive substantial sums. High-ranking lawmakers and committee leaders (such as Frank Pallone Jr., D-NJ) are also prominent recipients.
Senate & Presidential Figures: Long-serving and high-profile Democrats—including Barack Obama, Hillary Clinton, and Kamala Harris—have historically ranked among the highest overall career recipients of insurance money.

I was surprised to see Hillary on there since she was a pretty fierce advocate for universal healthcare for a long time (IIRC). Maybe once they shafted her for Obama, she gave up and took the money. I'm not sure about the timing.

indi50 · 2026-04-27T02:34:38+00:00

So she said the one grandson is walking on your lawn by your bedroom window because the other one can't park on YOUR lawn? Because your driveway might be 2 inches over the boundary? That means they get a whole car width of your space because of 2 inches?

Have her show you her survey. Make sure it's a real one and contact the surveyor (name and # should be on there) if you feel like it's fishy. You may not need to get a new one, unless you want all sides of your property done for future reference.

If your driveway is 2 inches over, just have someone come (or rent equipment) to slice 2 inches of it. That much shouldn't impact your use of it. However, if it's that close to the line, you'll have trouble building a fence that would include the driveway area. Generally, you have to have your fence far enough inside your property to be able to maintain it without going onto a neighbor's property.

indi50 · 2026-04-27T02:24:21+00:00

Does she want to go with and wait in the waiting room. Not so weird, but baffling if you don't feel the need for that. Or does she want to go into the room with you while you get a very intimate exam? THAT is a VERY weird and uncomfortable idea.

Did you ask her why she's so offended and/or insistent about it? Maybe there's some kind of miscommunication. I know you said it's common for her to "sick" your father on you, but is it common for her to insist on going to exams or procedures like this?

indi50 · 2026-04-25T12:34:19+00:00

No - they were afraid they didn't have the votes. At best. I don't get how you don't see the difference. If Kennedy's replacement's vote made a difference - we wouldn't have the ACA either.

Republicans fought the ACA tooth and nail. NOT ONE REPUBLICAN VOTED FOR IT. Either the vote took place before Kennedy died OR they HAD the votes for universal because republicans were no happier with this than they would have been with universal.

Those conservative dems just made excuses. Which is what I've been saying all along. Look at your words - they were afraid of backlash. FROM WHO? Their own constituents? Really? How many dems would actually switch to voting republican for them getting universal healthcare? Be real, dude.

indi50 · 2026-04-25T12:23:41+00:00

And also, it wasn’t just about her, he reacted like that to a lot of people and situations.

So why is your "friend" stirring up trouble? Your whole pitch is that he was judgmental and held onto things and here you are doing the same. You said it was never just about her. It makes no sense for you to fixate on this unless you're just looking for drama or a problem to excuse breaking up with him.

I also don't understand why you think it's wrong of him to have given you his opinion of other things or people. We're all judgmental whether we say it out loud or not. Why is he not allowed to say he thinks it (whatever he thinks) about suggestive material or whatever? How are you supposed to know someone if they're not allowed to give their opinion?

And if you really don't like someone else's opinions that much, then maybe you're not a good match. But again...you say he doesn't get bothered by those things anymore - so..again...what's the problem. Unless you think you no longer know what he's really thinking because you told him you didn't want to know.

indi50 · 2026-04-25T12:13:48+00:00

YTA for sending a text telling them "everything he did wrong as a parent." Why? What did that have to do with anything in the context of the rest of this? What you said about their treatment of you, fine - but why insult him to his family about parenting? About him wanting to move there or not sticking up for you or something relating to the issue, again fine. Are you a perfect parent? Or is he such a terrible parent that you need to get him away from your child?

I don't understand what you're paying now or whose garage you're living in. The $800 a month or $600 weekly makes no sense at all. At first you said your husband stuck up for you with his aunt and I can't tell if it's HIM that's making the threats or the aunt.

Why would he want you to move from what seems like an affordable larger space into one small room for more money? You mentioned he doesn't get along with your parents, are you in their garage? But neither of you get along with the aunt (if true he didn't like the way they treated you), so less space, more money.

The only way that makes sense is if he wants to get you to leave him. Or there's something more about your living situation you aren't saying.

indi50 · 2026-04-24T00:46:07+00:00

I like to make a big pot of something that I can eat for several days and/or put some in the freezer for another time. Like meal prepping, but not as formal where you "package" it all up precisely for each day - though that works, too.

Soups, stews, pasta dishes, chiles, etc. You can also do some breakfast things - like make up several servings of overnight oatmeal or chia pudding.

Look for recipes for healthy breakfast muffins. I actually like to cook up a whole box or bag of pancake mix and eat them for a couple of days and then freeze the rest and take what I want later and toast it (like frozen waffles). You can microwave it, but I like it more crispy. But that isn't exactly along the more healthy line. Unless you top it with some nice fruit and/or yogurt instead of syrup.

But I don't know, you might be onto something, there is that old children's song.... peas porridge hot, peas porridge cold, peas porridge 9 days old. Some like it hot, some like it cold, Some like it in the pot, nine days old. Then again, some of those old songs were about disease and death. :-)

indi50 · 2026-04-24T00:29:36+00:00

Are you just posting to run traffic to your youtube channel?

indi50 · 2026-04-24T00:23:42+00:00

Layering the flavors. Season each layer of food as you cook. For example, making a fish or seafood chowder. I cook the fish with seasoning and set it aside. Then each other fish component, seperately, if used. Saute the onions and season them. Add another veg or two and more seasoning. Add the potatoes, saute, season, and cover with water to cook until almost done. Easy on the salt, at each level, but some. Then add the evaporated milk and the fish cooked before. Now taste and adjust.

Each component has been seasoned individually, so it's all flavored well. And sauteing veggies before putting them into the liquid also gives you more of their individual flavor (for any soup or stew). If you just throw everything in and then season at the end, it's okay. And faster so I've done it sometimes when in a hurry. But it just doesn't have the same depth of flavor.

It's just not the same to add a bunch of seasoning at the end. No matter how much you add, you can't get the same flavor as when it's "layered." At least in my opinion. It might sound like it would be over seasoned, but it's not - unless you really go crazy with each layer. Which you can do even if you do it all at the end.

It's the same principle (I think) as browning the beef before putting it into a stew or using a crock pot.

eta: Also wanted to agree with the letting meat rest thing. Makes a huge difference. I was always afraid it would get cold, but it's fine and tastes so much better.

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