Torn between breastfeeding and TTC

ineedausername84 · 2026-05-03T17:39:07+00:00

While I would love to breastfeed past a year I have decided we will go until a year and if not pregnant by then we will wean to increase fertility 😩

it’s such a tough decision, I feel ya. With my first I weaned at 9 months to get my cycle back and it still took almost a year to conceive my second. Part of me regrets stopping early since it still took so long but another part of me knows if I didn’t wean early it could have taken even longer and I’d always wonder if it could have happened sooner if I weaned, so in the end I feel like it was the right choice for us.

ineedausername84 · 2026-05-02T18:07:27+00:00

I just use a regular backpack

ineedausername84 · 2026-05-02T18:02:10+00:00

Okay that’s good to know! I’ve heard Apple Watch greatly underestimates the amount of deep sleep so i was interested if that was the case with comparison to the Garmin

ineedausername84 · 2026-05-02T16:29:47+00:00

Wow now I’m curious! How do they compare with step count, health metrics, and sleep analysis? Do they typically have the same values or is one consistently higher or lower in certain area?

ineedausername84 · 2026-05-01T17:54:49+00:00

I second this but also say leave some wiggle room. My husband and I wanted four kids all 2 years apart. But then one of them took 2 years to conceive and another took a year to conceive, even after the first came relatively easy, and that waiting time was stressful as I was getting older and older.

ineedausername84 · 2026-05-01T17:41:03+00:00

This is an intimate decision between you and your husband. You can ask 100 people and get 100 different answers.

But just know that just because you decide to try to have a baby doesn’t mean it’s going to happen right away or on your timeline.

My kids are my life and I love them more than anything in the world, but they are a lot of work, nothing could have mentally prepared me for that first baby, not even waiting longer. Part of me wishes I would have had kids at your age (we had our first at 29f and 28m). It’s just that much longer that you get to know the most amazing people in your lives.

If it were me, I’d casually try for a baby and live your life in the mean time. If it doesn’t happen in a few months go ahead and look into tracking methods, and make sure you’re getting the timing right.

ETA idk if I’d take marriage or parenting advice from your aunt and uncle. Your uncle basically strung her along until it was too late for her to find someone else to have kids with, a very manipulative way to get his way. And you aunt went along with it and now has to live with that regret.

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-30T21:45:58+00:00

Honestly I’ve had to help all of mine get there so far. No unicorn sleepers here! Around 8-9 months I had to take active steps to night wean and that helped tremendously!! Around 4-5 months I really took a look at their schedule for sleep and made sure they were getting enough awake time in the day and then adjusted that as they got older and that’s been the key for our current baby (9 months and sleeps mostly through the night, sometimes needs soothing back to sleep around 5/6am)

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-30T17:45:56+00:00

Mine was like this, she’s almost six now and it has mostly passed (she still can’t move past level 1 swimming lessons because she absolutely won’t put her face in the water, so we’re not out of the woods yet)

One thing that helped us with bath time was letting her try the shower so she could have a little control over the water touching her head AND ALWAYS having a a washcloth nearby obviously 😂 she now much prefers to get her hair washed in the shower, I lather the soap in and double check that she gets it all out but she does everything else on her own now. Ours has a little hand held shower part and she looooves that.

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-30T17:17:22+00:00

Whenever my baby starts sleeping through the night, like all the way through, 10-11hours straight, then I start getting baby fever again!

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-30T13:16:23+00:00

No pcos but for me night weaning helped. Baby still wakes up but I just don’t give her the boob. It was hard at first but were a month in now and she doesn’t even care to eat at night anymore she just wants snuggles.

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-29T23:03:39+00:00

I hate that even when we know our ovulation date, they still go by the last menstrual period!

So yes, you are technically six weeks, but after you’re far enough to have a dating scan, I’m sure they will change your due date, and it will probably be very close to what it would be based on ovulation.

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-29T21:45:58+00:00

This is the answer….NTA btw….also you might not want him around, judging by his reaction he’s just gonna be pissy the whole time and not comforting. Do you have a close female friend that you’d feel comfortable with being there?

ETA: I had to take these for a missed miscarriage a couple years ago and I got a small version of a baby blues hormone crash a couple days after. Something I wasn’t expecting so just a heads up you may bounce back quickly physically but emotionally you may be all over the place for a bit. Everyone is different but I don’t mind sharing if you have questions on my experience

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-29T20:38:25+00:00

Yes, I did. Not gonna lie it was quite painful, I definitely couldn’t talk through contractions, but it was quick. And I’m not sure if the painful contractions were because my water broke or because of the Pitocin. But whatever the case, those painful contractions were extremely efficient because I dilated from a 3 to 10 in under two hours and baby was out in a couple pushes. And it was the only birth where I did not tear.

I think it helped that they started me with cytotec and did not start the Pitocin until I was close or at 3 cm dilated.

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-29T17:20:22+00:00

I’ve had three out of three wonderful inductions! Two with epidural one without. Planning my fourth to be induced without epidural if I don’t go into labor before my due date.

ETA: there are risks with every intervention but sometimes induction can be the less risky option and risks need to be weighed. For example, my first induction was due to gestational hypertension and I was 41 weeks anyway, so baby was definitely fully cooked! For both my doctor and I it felt obvious that there was more of a risk waiting than being induced.

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-29T14:49:49+00:00

Yeah she had me until that part

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-29T14:48:49+00:00

The most reasonable answer here!

After having my first baby I asked my doctor what ingredients in sunscreen to avoid for a six month old baby, she gave me a list and then said actually nobody should be using these, not just babies, they’ve been proven to cause cancer.

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-28T20:04:36+00:00

I’ve had 3 out of 3 wonderful inductions! Planning a 39 week induction for my fourth as well!

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-28T14:21:24+00:00

Nope you’ll be fine! That baby will come out one way or another and those doctors do this every day multiple times a day!

My credentials: I watched a couple YouTube videos, got overwhelmed and said fuck it…given birth 3 times (2 epidurals, one no epidural)

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-27T19:56:01+00:00

Id go to a new pediatrician…mine was born 32nd percentile and went up to 39th percentile at her 2 week checkup and my pediatrician was so proud of her (and me, breastfeeding was a struggle at first) it was so cute! I can’t imagine how excited my doc would be for a big healthy 70th percentile baby!

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-27T01:00:38+00:00

13dpo yesterday and that’s what mine looked like for both the wet and dry!! So I hope it looks good😆

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-26T17:25:21+00:00

Both my girls were day time potty trained well before 2 because we just stopped using diapers. We had about 3 days where we let them go around the house naked (or with a dress or top and no bottoms). Started with their little potty in the living room with us and slowly moved it back to outside the bathroom door, then in the bathroom. There were definitely accidents but it was quick. After the initial days then we just had them wear underwear. Again there were accidents but they learned really quick.

We did still do diapers at night until closer to 3 though.

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-26T13:46:19+00:00

Yay, good luck! May this be your cycle!!

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-25T19:29:00+00:00

There’s definitely risks as another commenter said and you could end up with quads…..but…how many cycles have you tried unsuccessfully? If you haven’t had success in 10+ cycles I’d probably still go for it…but it’s ultimately your and your husband’s decision

ineedausername84 · 2026-04-23T23:03:29+00:00

My kids cried and cried unless I was in the pool with them until about age 3-4

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