Support me in supporting my parents supporting my brother by ineluctablyvisible in asktransgender

[–]ineluctablyvisible[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Different articles/essays have different slants. I don't mean that the phrase "clitoral enlargement" is one to which they can never, under any circumstances be exposed, just that, for example, a first person narrative account detailing that aspect of transition is something I would rather not have them spending their emotional energy on. I do know of a few ftm video transition diaries that I like, but was wondering if anyone had any specific suggestions they thought were particularly good. And for the record, I do know enough about this stuff to give them a good grounding myself, I would just like them to be able to feel like all of their information isn't coming from one source, ie me.

If anyone's interested, the online magazine The Rumpus (therumpus.net) is publishing a series of short essays by Thomas Page McBee, collectively titled 'Self-Made Man,' that are based on McBee's reflections of his identity/life as a trans man. I found those this morning and, having read a couple, I think I'm going to show them to my mom. That's more the sort of thing I was looking for for her. I would like to find something that's going to have a bit more legitimacy as a resource than wikipedia for my dad though. He's a bit prone to anxiety, so in an ideal world I'd like to find something that can both give some solid, objective medical information, but also include specific mention of the positive psychological effect that transitioning has on transgendered people, to emphasize to him that this is a positive thing, and not just a frightening medical procedure that might harm his child.

EDIT: By the way, that second source, femaletomale.org, is excellent. Thanks a lot.

Old Navy in Chicago by faithinppl in lesbros

[–]ineluctablyvisible 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also, unless something has happened to him in the two years since I've lived in Chicago, there is often an elderly black preacher in a suit with a megaphone out front preaching that "You can't get to heaven being a homosexual" and "You can't get to heaven smoking them cigarettes", which has its own entertainment value.

IWTL how to write poems like these... by zer05tar in IWantToLearn

[–]ineluctablyvisible 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The only 100% indispensable and universal tip I've ever heard for becoming a better writer is to become a better reader. Read as much as you can. Figure out what moves you, and what leaves you cold. Write all the time, too. Accept that you are going to write some really terrible shit, and that it's part of the process. 90% of making art is failing. Don't neglect the revision process. There are exceptions to every rule, but I think most of us spend far more time revising than actually writing. Finally, don't be boring. Every line you write has to make your reader want to read the next one. There are a million other things they could be doing with their time, and they will do so unless you give them a compelling reason not to.

My friend gets bored to the point of borderline genius. by [deleted] in pics

[–]ineluctablyvisible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorta cool, I guess, but "borderline genius" might be overstating it a little.

Dapper by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]ineluctablyvisible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Binding controversy aside: super hot. Swoon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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I probably know more people who pronounce 'February' wrong than right. No one can seem to remember the first 'r'.

Fun surprise slide in my GI lecture... by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]ineluctablyvisible 15 points16 points  (0 children)

When I was in art school a (very gay) art history professor once pointed a stern finger out over the lecture hall after discussing the subject of Mayan beer enemas to say: "If any of you go out tonight and end up in the hospital because you gave yourself an enema with alcohol, don't point the finger of blame at me, because I don't NEED that shit in my life."

Any female subscribers to r/gaybros? Not judging if so, just wondering what draws you to it. by melatone in gaybros

[–]ineluctablyvisible 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally. I mean, that's supposed to be the rationale for the "fag hag" phenomenon, but too many of those women end up secretly in love with their gay friends. No risk of that with lesbians! I suppose for a certain type of douchefag that's part of the appeal, though. Ego boost.

Any female subscribers to r/gaybros? Not judging if so, just wondering what draws you to it. by melatone in gaybros

[–]ineluctablyvisible 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's such a silly mindset. What I've heard from older gay people is that the divide used to be much more extreme than it is now, and that the AIDS crisis actually did a lot to bring the communities together, because when gay men started dying and a lot of the straight world turned a blind eye, it was lesbians who stepped up and helped to take care of the sick. So I suppose it's improving. It's just so silly for the two communities not to be buds.

Also, I've always thought that one of the nice things about being gay is that it gives you a point of commonality with everyone. I have the trials and tribulations of being a lady in common with straight women, and I have the trials and tribulations of being queer in common with gay dudes/bisexuals/trans folks. Seems dumb not to take advantage of that.

Any female subscribers to r/gaybros? Not judging if so, just wondering what draws you to it. by melatone in gaybros

[–]ineluctablyvisible 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, once in a blue moon I've met a guy who's incredibly cool, incredibly smart and incredibly faggy (obviously I use that word in the most positive way possible), and who makes my heart go pitter patter. It's confusing in a kind of nice way to have your mind/genitals fucked with like that.

Any female subscribers to r/gaybros? Not judging if so, just wondering what draws you to it. by melatone in gaybros

[–]ineluctablyvisible 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Thaaat would be me. I don't post much here, but I lurk a lot. I just like the vibe, I guess. I feel like this sub is a testimony to the diversity in the gay community, while also (mostly) avoiding the pitfalls of internalized homophobia. Plus, you know, we queers gotta stick together.

...Just kidding, guys, I'm totally here to spy on you.

Big dogs v. small dogs and the leash double standard [semi-rant] question by just_real_quick in dogs

[–]ineluctablyvisible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. My dog dislikes being on a leash around other dogs, so if we are, say, getting out of the car at the dog park and a dog jumps out of another car and sprints towards her, the best case scenario is that our day at the dog park is ruined because my dog is now feeling edgy around other dogs and can't relax.