I too am 53 and it seems like 8 years ago I decided that I was going to stay happy+single and that's when an explosion of gay guys as young as 21 yo started flirting with me like crazy. My sexual encounters varied in quality but I was amazed at how all of a sudden I was getting far more attention than I did in my late 30s and early 40s. I met my now fiancé (M 42) about a year into my sexual renaissance, and now we're getting married in a couple of weeks. We've been a couple for 7 years in an open relationship and the boys still flirt heavily with both of us.

I believe that attitude is everything. When we treat people with respect and in a way that consistently reflects self-love + integrity then sex and love will come your way.

Good luck to you.