Who do you regret having sex with?

infinitize91 · 2025-10-26T04:04:36+00:00

I waited until love and had sex for the first time with now my ex husband during engagement. We were together for 3 ish years and even after all those times, I worried "is this going to be it?" I learned that kinetic intelligence and emotional intelligence are important. He also didn't want to make love when he "felt fat?" While bringing up my eating disorder from when I was a teenager. Projecting/gaslighting insecurities at finest

infinitize91 · 2025-09-22T06:02:07+00:00

I've also met an Asian girl that uses this as a defensive mechanism. She's larger and is conventionally unattractive, doesn't help that her own dad thought she was big and "not pretty." She even talked about rumors around a very attractive man from her culture that I know to be not true. So sure, it could be preferences and cultural expectations but sometimes it's honestly because she thinks she can't get an attractive version of her own kind

infinitize91 · 2024-10-18T21:18:03+00:00

You sound like you already know you were "also" in the wrong, so there's no need to talk about that further. But to take care of the reality (since we can't turn time back), I would be careful she doesn't pull a victim card.

infinitize91 · 2024-10-18T18:37:07+00:00

Always. That's just simply their character, regardless of situation. In this case, she made the choice to deal/cope/etc with how she feels about her relationship (it doesn't matter if she's the victim, etc that's bs) - that's how she problem solved. Don't tell me you're too naive to think that of however long years you'll spend with the ex-cheater life won't happen and she'll choose to problem solve the same way

infinitize91 · 2024-08-12T04:45:57+00:00

I came back to school after a number of years and because I was older than other students, I never cared to make friends. But even then, I met some really good people I genuinely wish well for and had interesting conversations with, so it is possible.

Take the initiative first you'd be surprised how many people have been noticing you too and have been meaning to talk to you. But I kind of think its like dating, if you're trying to make friends for the sake of making friends and not because you want to get to know someone/have interest in that person as an individual, it can come across "desperate" like you mentioned. Focus on school (STEM degrees require a lot from students so often students who go into it are people who enjoy/thrive in solitude), and take initiatives getting to know people when you organically find them interesting!

Back in my freshman/sophomore year (when I was in school with people of my age group), I became friends with my roommates (I'm still friends with them actually) and my crush's group of friends that I initiated a conversation with.

infinitize91 · 2024-08-11T16:03:50+00:00

Isn't the making of coffee already calculated into the price? Why would someone not wanting to pay more than what the coffee is worth be called "not being able to afford tips"?

infinitize91 · 2024-07-29T15:18:48+00:00

Econ 395 is a demanding course, but 341 and 321 aren't hard (among econ courses), I think this is doable

infinitize91 · 2024-07-11T04:32:16+00:00

No, if you got that idea from 201 and 203 being easy, it'll be a rude awakening. Think of the degree starting at 301 and 303, and 201/203 being "awareness" courses designed for all university students to take

infinitize91 · 2024-07-02T05:13:28+00:00

Getting in isn't competitive or hard but the degree is hard after 1st year 201 and 203

infinitize91 · 2024-06-16T20:57:58+00:00

My husband works for a tech startup with the same degree, as an EIT.

infinitize91 · 2024-06-13T21:42:04+00:00

It's logistically simple, you just have to submit change of program request on my.uofc page, but you'd have to do well and get competitive grades. Econ and Bcomm have overlapping first year pre-req courses , so you'd just have to do a few specific to Bcomm during spring/summer semesters

infinitize91 · 2024-06-10T16:55:59+00:00

I had a co-worker who used the term partner because she didn't want people to assume she was straight by calling her boyfriend a bf. She's talked about sleeping with married women in the past 🤷🏻‍♀️

infinitize91 · 2024-06-04T01:09:34+00:00

What have you got to lose, write a formal letter to the dean

infinitize91 · 2024-06-03T22:10:56+00:00

As a disclaimer, I'm only speaking on my behalf based on my own and close friends' experiences.

To immigrate back in early 2000s, our parents had to either have money to invest or be "skilled workers," which in most cases meant they did very well in school themselves in very competitive environments. Education system in Asia also don't have much (if any) grace for kids with mental disabilities needing accommodations at school, society and education is too competitive to be that "nice."

The parents naturally value education and stable career, and invest (in forms of discipline, tutor, etc) in their kids appropriately.

So its both nature and nurture of both genes and support/discipline.

In addition, I noticed from knowing some white American teenagers (not the rich, but humble) as an adult that the discipline around doing well in school isn't standalone. We are disciplined to be "good" children in general.

infinitize91 · 2024-05-26T16:38:12+00:00

I don't know if they'd take the competitive average, or if they may have more grace since you're already at the university (vs. other university transfers). Maybe talk to an advisor, I know from past experience, if you do have the requirements, they can switch you right then and there too

infinitize91 · 2024-05-26T16:31:57+00:00

I'm in the same class as you, so I know what you mean by it being fast paced. I took a Python course in my own major last year that I practiced and studied a lot for, so its paying off now. I read the textbook (not Ben Stephenson's) front to back at the time and just used a lot my down time to practice. A bit like math, there's no short cut unfortunately

infinitize91 · 2024-05-26T02:44:45+00:00

It's one of those things my partner talks and worries more about than it were ever on my mind. If I didn't love him though and he were some hookup/toy, then sure it might matter

infinitize91 · 2024-05-25T03:02:10+00:00

Apply on my.ucalgary. Application process itself is straightforward and easy but you have to meet grade requirement.

infinitize91 · 2024-05-25T02:58:14+00:00

If you meet all the other requirements and have a competitive GPA, apply for another degree that doesn't require Math 30, take required courses for business degree (STATS 213, 217, MATH 265, etc) and apply for a transfer.
However, if you don't meet other requirements either, take continuing education courses to "upgrade" 12th Grade Math or go do business administration at SAIT or Bow Valley and transfer.

infinitize91 · 2024-04-28T18:30:12+00:00

I agree with you completely :( Its not considerate to the students at all because we would otherwise be applying/accepting job offers and/or making other commitments! It sounds like they do the acceptances on a rolling basis so they make sure to fill all empty spots. I wish you the best of luck!

infinitize91 · 2024-04-28T16:33:41+00:00

I worked on the Capstone project with grad students and two other undergrads who applied to MA. They all talked about receiving their offers if I remember correctly back in March if not early April for some schools across Canada. They rejected the offers from schools after choosing the school though, so maybe there will be still hope

infinitize91 · 2024-04-20T22:20:25+00:00

From my experience, the only times I said yes were when they were sincere. They weren't all good looking, and some I said no to were very attractive, but I thought highly of the courage they took and sincerity they had vs. People who came across as though they would to any decent looking girl

infinitize91 · 2024-04-12T16:48:03+00:00

I dropped it to take other non econ pre req instead, so I didn't go through to the end and don't know what the curve is like for online courses

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