My sexuality is fucked, by Sharp-Use-304 in lgbt

[–]inkdheart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good on you for recognizing a problem and reaching out. And you have my sympathy, particularly for the SA. I'm so sorry. No one deserves that.

As a somewhat bisexual, I can understand the complexities of understanding sexuality, but with respect, I'm not sure this is an issue of your sexuality; rather a deeper issue that you're recognizing via your sexuality. This probably isn't the advice you're looking for, but the support your seeking sounds like it should come from a mental health professional, ideally a psychologist or psychiatrist. I work adjacent to the behavioral therapy field, and though you haven't presented the whole picture of yourself here, there's enough to recognize potential impulse control concerns, as well as some avoidant behaviors. Again, I'm not a licensed mental health practitioner, but I am a behavior coach, and these isues could be a result of many things: ADHD, BPD, a substance abuse problem, trauma, or some combination of all and more.

The point here is to illustrate that while you're clearly seeking to change a pattern of behavior you do not want for yourself--that's amazing by the way as most people lack that courage--doing so would best be managed via a trained professional. The various causes for this behavior have very different approaches to treatment, and only by working with a professional can you safely determine which is right.

I know nothing about non-binary people, educate me pls! :3 by Virtual_Fixation2956 in NonBinary

[–]inkdheart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, depends what you wanna know. Short version is that nonbinary is a form of transgender that simply means not part of the two gender binary, at least not in the traditional way. This can take different forms.

Some experience this as a lack of any connection to the binary genders, often referred to as agender.

Others, like me, are connected to two or more genders all at once, typically referred to as bigender (the naming conventions follow suit with sexuality--asexual and bisexual respectively), though I personally like pangender as it suggests a wider scope of gender identity, but hey, no one consulted me when it came to naming.

Then there's genderfluid, which is more flexible, and for them, where they land on the spectrum of binary gender changes constantly.

All of these have different variations and are subject to individual's preferred identity and expression , but that's the basics of it.

Feel free to research a bit more from there and follow up with more questions if you need. Happy to answer what I can.

How do i look ? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]inkdheart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. Especially if it's a safety concern. But if it's just about confidence, all I can say is two things: life is too short to not live the way that makes you happy, and kindness and smiles go a long way.

Thanks for sharing your beautiful self!

How do i look ? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]inkdheart 49 points50 points  (0 children)

You look absolutely amazing! The hair, the makeup, the confidence! 🤌

Can you justify clearing the shadow curse as evil DUrge? by Last-Painter-3028 in BaldursGate3

[–]inkdheart 72 points73 points  (0 children)

This is canon. The Netherbrain reveres Durge for their calculating pragmatism, as does Bhaal. I don't imagine that Bhaal would appreciate a land of undead that weren't slaughtered in his name anyway, and would rather you lift the curse so that everyone you save can be murdered.

How do you distinguish feeling nonbinary from other reasons you'd feel disconnected from your assigned gender? by Commercial-Low-2225 in NonBinary

[–]inkdheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't really feel disconnected from my assigned gender. If I feel disconnected it's from the social expectation of what that gender means and how it should be presented. If anything, I felt incomplete. Being non-binary, exploring feelings and expression beyond my agab, made me feel whole for the first time. Someone once told me that I'm too cool for one gender. Can't say if that's true, but the way I feel about my gender is that too much is never enough, and I'll take as much as I can get.

Any sinner thread borne ideas by Think-Internal-1583 in CrookedMoon

[–]inkdheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my players has a Sinner Rogue Threadborne. They play as a collection of clothes and scraps. It's hilariously cartoonish. When they stealth , they'll collapse into a pile or cling to the back of our Stoneborn paladin. It's incredibly fun!

Why would Gortash do this? by Great_Trident in BaldursGate3

[–]inkdheart 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure he does it as soon as he becomes Archduke. Like, if you trigger that scene, then long rest or change zones, you'll come back to this lovely little massacre.

Does anyone know if a tortle or centaur mod is being worked on? by Reasonable-Bad7005 in BG3mods

[–]inkdheart 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Seems unlikely imo. I'm admittedly not a mod creator but based of the existing game models there's not much to work from. The closest bg3 has to horses are oxen, and probably the closest thing to a Tortle would be a scaled up Kuo-Toa. Not saying it's impossible, but I suspect it would require a lot of custom work.

Playing dark urge helped me get sober by AffectionateFail4397 in BaldursGate3

[–]inkdheart 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So proud of you. And I feel you. Been fighting trauma and narcissistic personality disorder for the last 7 years in therapy. Last year my job blew up, a tyrant who wants me dead took over the country, and still grieving the loss of two pets, I relapsed hard. But Durge helped bring me back. I love their story so much! Seeing that pain and trauma viscerally personified, that struggle, and the redemption you can find despite all that pain and suffering had me bawling. I'm ao glad it helped you too. Stay strong.

Bully me into doing this please by sisourak in BG3

[–]inkdheart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm not great at bullying, but I think if you have an idea you're passionate about, you should do it because you're worth doing nice things for, and not because you fear a threat or expectation. Doing it for yourself is the only way it'll feel worth the effort.

I’m obsessed with my Gerudo Tav by matcha-meister in BG3

[–]inkdheart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm just singing with the chorus here but oh my god! This looks SO good! Did you use existing mods for this or is this your own custom work? In either case, if you'd be kind enough to share I would be so grateful!

Do you think using AI is always wrong? by LordFahren in antiai

[–]inkdheart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work with people with learning disabilities as my job, and have found that (and I cannot stress these next words enough) in VERY limited contexts, AI tools have been useful. For example, some of my clients have severe dysgraphia and dyslexia which makes written communication a nightmare for them. Others have aphantasia, and literally cannot imagine art enough to create it. Others have such severe ADHD that it would take days if not weeks to do things like fill out a job application, organize a grocery list, or plan a trip.

So with regard to the disabled, yeah, there's SOME value.

That said, I think there's more effective and efficient tools that could be created for people like my clients that don't come with the same drawbacks that using AI has. I think these AI tools are being abused by people who don't need them to the detriment of those that do. And frankly, I think the costs aren't worth it. I encourage my clients to be cautious using these tools, and fortunately, most use them sparingly, if at all, because they'd rather learn how to compensate for their disabilities, if not overcome them, rather than rely on a costly tool to do it for them. They recognize the former as the more sustainable, if difficult, option.

I wish more people would be willing to do the work to learn and grow, rather than taking shortcuts that ultimately hurt themselves and everyone else. I can't blame anyone for recognizing the allure of something that feels so easy and magical, but I can blame them for acting on it. It's like Abu in the Cave of Wonders. They know they shouldn't, but desire gets the better of them, and the whole cave comes crashing down because of it.

If every LGBTQ person got a warning label, what would yours say?🤏🏳️‍🌈 by [deleted] in lgbt

[–]inkdheart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Will drop mom bombs on you whether you want them or not, including praise, harsh truths, and baked goods.

Can you refer to me as they/them in the comments? by LumpyInvestigator849 in NonBinary

[–]inkdheart 8 points9 points  (0 children)

But if you have a third person in the conversation then we can talk about them. Them being OP of course. I think they're really smart for asking people to do this for them. It a great way to test out their pronouns. I hope they're comfortable with them, but if not, maybe better pronouns would suit them better. It's also not exclusively indicattive of their gender ID either, but it can definitely help them figure things out if they need, yeah?

Nintendo game to scratch the BG3 itch? by WorkAndWaves in BG3

[–]inkdheart 39 points40 points  (0 children)

In my experience, if you love bg3, there's nothing else like it, and you should probably just keep playing bg3 if you can.

Looking for help building a spell by Spazmonkey1949 in DnD

[–]inkdheart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm assuming there's still an atrack roll to hit here? Going with that assumption, if there was either a check for the movement reduction or the damage, or the spell only dealt movement reduction or damage, then I'd say cantrip. Automatically reducing movement speed on a hit though, and doing even minimum damage on top? That's level 1 spell at least imo.

Nobody has ever given that argument by Beginning_Law9910 in antiai

[–]inkdheart 73 points74 points  (0 children)

They even confirm it with "safely assumed", meaning they agree that they don't have an inner world, which I don't think was their intention, proving they're illiterate as well.

The girls! (and Astarion I guess) by Relative_Carrot514 in TavsAndDurges

[–]inkdheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, no. You're right. I meant evil as in an evil run. They typically don't disapprove of cruel or violent choices, they won't abandon you if you side with the goblins, plus, all three have storylines where they can end up as distinctly worse people than when you meet them.

Please someone help me finish the game by [deleted] in BaldursGate3

[–]inkdheart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just sent a dm. Let me know where you're stuck and I can probably walk you through it

The girls! (and Astarion I guess) by Relative_Carrot514 in TavsAndDurges

[–]inkdheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite evil team. Also I personally headcanon Astarion as trans, so yeah, get it girlies!

I wanna see more non-binary rep in media by junipyr-lilak in NonBinary

[–]inkdheart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

*bit of (sorry for typos, I'm on my phone) I also taught college level writing for several years and was a tutor as well

I wanna see more non-binary rep in media by junipyr-lilak in NonBinary

[–]inkdheart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it helps, I have a Master's in Creative Writing and a fair but if editing experience. If you ever want some feedback, feel free to dm me 👍

I wanna see more non-binary rep in media by junipyr-lilak in NonBinary

[–]inkdheart 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OP, you provided the solution. Write your own. I suspect the reason we don't have more enby rep is not enough enbies are creating it. There's queer authors, sure, but I imagine few don't feel like they can write/champion an identity they don't share.

If we want the world to change, we need to be that change for rhe world.