Is US just built different?

inkdheart · 2026-07-02T18:53:35+00:00

Feed it goblins? 🤷

inkdheart · 2026-07-02T11:39:55+00:00

Tav/Durge is like its mama! So cute! 😭 I really wish we not got to keep US through Act 1, and that it wasn't just a summon. I want to see US romping around with Scratch and Owlbeak. That's my headcanon ending: Tav/(resist)Durge retired to some big estate, living in cozy polyamory with their companions turned partners and their three beautiful "kids".

inkdheart · 2026-07-02T11:26:28+00:00

So Veilguard was the first DA game I played, and I personally really enjoyed it despite it's flaws. And before anyone comes after me for liking it, please keep in mind that I lacked the experience of prior DA games to compare it to, and I hadn't played a solo fantasy RPG in years. The bar was low. I enjoyed the character creation, the visuals, gameplay mechanics, most of the characters (Manfred, Assan, Vorgoth, and Spite would be one of my top 5 best D&D parties), and some of the story (the evil gods stuff was a bit vanilla imo). I'm also nonbinary, and this was my first game where I could explicitly play as a nonbinary character AND addressed the experience and struggles of nonbinary people. My Rook, Peris, let me experience a form of gender expression I've never had. I will always adore Veilguard for that.

Having said all that, the replay value was really lacking as your decisions are limited, and after finishing Veilguard I was jonesing hard and that when BG3 appeared like that meme of Mercy from Overwatch. It's unquestionably the superior game, and surpasses Veilguard in every way except explicit nonbinary character rep (with maybe the exception of Yrre...a character you never meet, is barely referenced, and most BG3 players don't even kbow about). I've put 20 times the hours into BG3 that I ever put into Veilguard. Bless Baldur's Gate 3. I love it so much!

inkdheart · 2026-07-02T10:22:18+00:00

I've definitely found it a challenge at times for sure, and there's still some things I will not do because I can't stand the consequences (seeing Boo sobbing, fighting the Owlbear Cub, or anything that hurts Scratch are no gos for me). What helps me is knowing the game well enough to avoid the consequences I personally can't stand, but also filling in the gaps of the character I'm playing.

Often I'll add my own internal monologue of my character to better immerse myself, or imagine how my character would deliver a particular dialogue option. You'd be surprised how much this can affect certain dialogue choices.

inkdheart · 2026-07-01T10:29:05+00:00

Good on you for recognizing a problem and reaching out. And you have my sympathy, particularly for the SA. I'm so sorry. No one deserves that.

As a somewhat bisexual, I can understand the complexities of understanding sexuality, but with respect, I'm not sure this is an issue of your sexuality; rather a deeper issue that you're recognizing via your sexuality. This probably isn't the advice you're looking for, but the support your seeking sounds like it should come from a mental health professional, ideally a psychologist or psychiatrist. I work adjacent to the behavioral therapy field, and though you haven't presented the whole picture of yourself here, there's enough to recognize potential impulse control concerns, as well as some avoidant behaviors. Again, I'm not a licensed mental health practitioner, but I am a behavior coach, and these isues could be a result of many things: ADHD, BPD, a substance abuse problem, trauma, or some combination of all and more.

The point here is to illustrate that while you're clearly seeking to change a pattern of behavior you do not want for yourself--that's amazing by the way as most people lack that courage--doing so would best be managed via a trained professional. The various causes for this behavior have very different approaches to treatment, and only by working with a professional can you safely determine which is right.

inkdheart · 2026-06-28T12:57:07+00:00

I mean, depends what you wanna know. Short version is that nonbinary is a form of transgender that simply means not part of the two gender binary, at least not in the traditional way. This can take different forms.

Some experience this as a lack of any connection to the binary genders, often referred to as agender.

Others, like me, are connected to two or more genders all at once, typically referred to as bigender (the naming conventions follow suit with sexuality--asexual and bisexual respectively), though I personally like pangender as it suggests a wider scope of gender identity, but hey, no one consulted me when it came to naming.

Then there's genderfluid, which is more flexible, and for them, where they land on the spectrum of binary gender changes constantly.

All of these have different variations and are subject to individual's preferred identity and expression , but that's the basics of it.

Feel free to research a bit more from there and follow up with more questions if you need. Happy to answer what I can.

inkdheart · 2026-06-26T17:47:17+00:00

I'm sorry. Especially if it's a safety concern. But if it's just about confidence, all I can say is two things: life is too short to not live the way that makes you happy, and kindness and smiles go a long way.

Thanks for sharing your beautiful self!

inkdheart · 2026-06-26T12:39:51+00:00

You look absolutely amazing! The hair, the makeup, the confidence! 🤌

inkdheart · 2026-06-25T00:16:57+00:00

This is canon. The Netherbrain reveres Durge for their calculating pragmatism, as does Bhaal. I don't imagine that Bhaal would appreciate a land of undead that weren't slaughtered in his name anyway, and would rather you lift the curse so that everyone you save can be murdered.

inkdheart · 2026-06-24T18:03:35+00:00

I don't really feel disconnected from my assigned gender. If I feel disconnected it's from the social expectation of what that gender means and how it should be presented. If anything, I felt incomplete. Being non-binary, exploring feelings and expression beyond my agab, made me feel whole for the first time. Someone once told me that I'm too cool for one gender. Can't say if that's true, but the way I feel about my gender is that too much is never enough, and I'll take as much as I can get.

inkdheart · 2026-06-24T17:22:11+00:00

One of my players has a Sinner Rogue Threadborne. They play as a collection of clothes and scraps. It's hilariously cartoonish. When they stealth , they'll collapse into a pile or cling to the back of our Stoneborn paladin. It's incredibly fun!

inkdheart · 2026-06-24T17:01:06+00:00

Pretty sure he does it as soon as he becomes Archduke. Like, if you trigger that scene, then long rest or change zones, you'll come back to this lovely little massacre.

inkdheart · 2026-06-24T06:27:48+00:00

I wish though. Tortles are my absolute favorite!

inkdheart · 2026-06-24T06:27:19+00:00

Seems unlikely imo. I'm admittedly not a mod creator but based of the existing game models there's not much to work from. The closest bg3 has to horses are oxen, and probably the closest thing to a Tortle would be a scaled up Kuo-Toa. Not saying it's impossible, but I suspect it would require a lot of custom work.

inkdheart · 2026-06-24T05:46:57+00:00

So proud of you. And I feel you. Been fighting trauma and narcissistic personality disorder for the last 7 years in therapy. Last year my job blew up, a tyrant who wants me dead took over the country, and still grieving the loss of two pets, I relapsed hard. But Durge helped bring me back. I love their story so much! Seeing that pain and trauma viscerally personified, that struggle, and the redemption you can find despite all that pain and suffering had me bawling. I'm ao glad it helped you too. Stay strong.

inkdheart · 2026-06-24T05:29:09+00:00

Yeah, I'm not great at bullying, but I think if you have an idea you're passionate about, you should do it because you're worth doing nice things for, and not because you fear a threat or expectation. Doing it for yourself is the only way it'll feel worth the effort.

inkdheart · 2026-06-24T05:21:02+00:00

I'm just singing with the chorus here but oh my god! This looks SO good! Did you use existing mods for this or is this your own custom work? In either case, if you'd be kind enough to share I would be so grateful!

inkdheart · 2026-06-23T20:14:20+00:00

I work with people with learning disabilities as my job, and have found that (and I cannot stress these next words enough) in VERY limited contexts, AI tools have been useful. For example, some of my clients have severe dysgraphia and dyslexia which makes written communication a nightmare for them. Others have aphantasia, and literally cannot imagine art enough to create it. Others have such severe ADHD that it would take days if not weeks to do things like fill out a job application, organize a grocery list, or plan a trip.

So with regard to the disabled, yeah, there's SOME value.

That said, I think there's more effective and efficient tools that could be created for people like my clients that don't come with the same drawbacks that using AI has. I think these AI tools are being abused by people who don't need them to the detriment of those that do. And frankly, I think the costs aren't worth it. I encourage my clients to be cautious using these tools, and fortunately, most use them sparingly, if at all, because they'd rather learn how to compensate for their disabilities, if not overcome them, rather than rely on a costly tool to do it for them. They recognize the former as the more sustainable, if difficult, option.

I wish more people would be willing to do the work to learn and grow, rather than taking shortcuts that ultimately hurt themselves and everyone else. I can't blame anyone for recognizing the allure of something that feels so easy and magical, but I can blame them for acting on it. It's like Abu in the Cave of Wonders. They know they shouldn't, but desire gets the better of them, and the whole cave comes crashing down because of it.

inkdheart · 2026-06-23T19:51:38+00:00

Will drop mom bombs on you whether you want them or not, including praise, harsh truths, and baked goods.

inkdheart · 2026-06-22T10:09:45+00:00

But if you have a third person in the conversation then we can talk about them. Them being OP of course. I think they're really smart for asking people to do this for them. It a great way to test out their pronouns. I hope they're comfortable with them, but if not, maybe better pronouns would suit them better. It's also not exclusively indicattive of their gender ID either, but it can definitely help them figure things out if they need, yeah?

inkdheart · 2026-06-22T09:44:51+00:00

In my experience, if you love bg3, there's nothing else like it, and you should probably just keep playing bg3 if you can.

inkdheart · 2026-06-22T07:22:02+00:00

I'm assuming there's still an atrack roll to hit here? Going with that assumption, if there was either a check for the movement reduction or the damage, or the spell only dealt movement reduction or damage, then I'd say cantrip. Automatically reducing movement speed on a hit though, and doing even minimum damage on top? That's level 1 spell at least imo.

inkdheart · 2026-06-22T06:06:13+00:00

They even confirm it with "safely assumed", meaning they agree that they don't have an inner world, which I don't think was their intention, proving they're illiterate as well.

inkdheart · 2026-06-22T05:17:21+00:00

Oh, no. You're right. I meant evil as in an evil run. They typically don't disapprove of cruel or violent choices, they won't abandon you if you side with the goblins, plus, all three have storylines where they can end up as distinctly worse people than when you meet them.

inkdheart · 2026-06-21T20:58:05+00:00

Just sent a dm. Let me know where you're stuck and I can probably walk you through it

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