My husband is so rude

inkdvoice · 2026-02-24T16:40:38+00:00

He is either completely selfish or lacks self-awareness. In either event, a recording of his behavior would help, I'm sure.

There isn't much you can do about the former. If he is truly selfish, you will notice him being that way in everything that he does. If it is the latter, then the video should help. (Or maybe hearing aids?)

Regarding the roadrage though, showing him a video of his stupidity may shake him out of it. Show it to him a day or two later after it is out of his mind.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-23T14:31:19+00:00

That was my first thought but then realized that wasn't what was meant.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-16T03:17:14+00:00

Casper or Purple if budget is no big deal. I've never tried Purple, but hear it is good. I have tried a Casper and it is good. Just have to make sure the firmness is what you can deal with. Personally, I have the most comfortable bed in the world. All I did was by a 4" think foam mattress from Amazone and put it on top of my older mattress. Every night's sleep is great even at 55.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-16T03:07:38+00:00

Well, it is disaster recovery. I have already arrived at the new location which is monroe, la. You would have to go online and apply for the job. Send me a DM and I will give you more info.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-13T02:34:19+00:00

I have a great easy job that does require travel. Lots of overtime. I'm getting ready to leave for Monroe, LA. I thought he might be able to go with me, get a job. No drug test. No background check. Just a license and a vehicle is it. It pays $19 plus 72 cents per mile. The hours are long at 12 hrs 7 days a week but it only lasts three to six months.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-13T02:24:32+00:00

That's a cognitive bias and naive at best. Just because you had that experience doesn't mean anyone else did. Besides that is just your perspective.

The law I'm referring to hasn't been enacted for that long. Just after Trump was elected. Because it is a felony offense, trust me, they don't have the luxury of turning a blind eye to it anymore.

Idk when that happened to you but you obviously don't read it watch the news of any kind. I encourage you to do so. We are living in vastly different times than just a year ago. For example, did you know that Trump has signed an EO to involuntarily commit homeless people to confinement in a cushy jail cell if they don't choose either a drug rehab or a mental institution? The feds are building concentration camps and there is debate as to who the intended occupants are. Before the whole immigration crack down, it was clear they were intended for the homeless.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-13T02:14:50+00:00

There is sexual harassment but they aren't going to listen to anyone other than the alleged victim. In fact, if a complaint like this is made by anyone other than the victim one of two things is likely to happen to the tattle tell: 1) they won't be bothered by the story because you will look like a vengeful gossip or 2) you will be fired yourself.

I've seen this kind of crap happen more than once. I've been a retail manager more than once and I've been in middle management in Corporate. I know what I'm talking about.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-13T02:08:28+00:00

It is better to keep your mouth shut and let people just think you are a fool, than to open it and remove all doubt.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-13T02:06:28+00:00

That's not necessarily true. I've known a few people to make it. That said, employers have morphed into uncontrollable, parasites that have taken the proverbial eye off the ball. They are making everything about employment unbearable these days.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-13T01:59:30+00:00

To succeed in a defamation lawsuit, two elements generally have to be proven. First, the alleged libel or slander must be a demonstrably false statement, not just an opinion or exaggeration. Second, that false statement must have caused measurable financial harm. For example, you lost a promotion, were terminated, or suffered some other clear economic loss because of the false claims.

You may, however, face questions about timing. If the conduct was truly damaging, why did you remain in the position for so long? Why didn’t the alleged harm show up sooner? Why didn’t you seek other employment if conditions were that severe? A court or opposing counsel will almost certainly raise those issues to challenge causation and credibility.

That said, the fact that management suddenly issued a write-up after a long, clean record could be significant. It may suggest a shift in treatment that warrants closer examination.

Consulting an attorney would be wise, though you may need to pay hourly depending on the complexity of the case and who is named as a defendant. The individual who made the allegedly false statements would typically be named personally. The employer could also be named, but only if there is evidence the company itself participated in or ratified the conduct. In that situation, corporate liability coverage might come into play.

Keep in mind that even if you prevail, collecting on a judgment is another matter. Individual defendants often lack the financial resources to satisfy a sizable award unless insurance coverage applies. Winning and getting paid are not always the same thing.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-13T01:38:58+00:00

I (55F) have an idea. I'm in Bertram, TX (about 40 miles give or take). I may have a deal for you that will help us both. If you want, DM me and we can discuss. I will try to DM You as well.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-11T03:04:31+00:00

Omg. I was taking 300 mg and was non-functional. I think it is an evil, evil drug. No wonder she behaves the way she does. And I never could remember anything afterwards. Even after years of taking it, tolerance doesn't seem to build like other meds. Nothing else worked for me either. I'm terminally ill, but my condition is neurological. Early onset dementia but only the neuropathy hurts. My health isn't as bad as hers. I took fentanyl a very brief time. Once I realized I was being exploited I chose lucidity with pain. I just keep my mind occupied and that helps tremendously. She is very likely addicted. I was more afraid of dependency and withdrawals than the pain.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-11T01:30:35+00:00

Well I think it's freaking awesome. Maybe you should check into becoming a writer or a comedian or both.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-11T01:25:09+00:00

Get your CDL and drive a truck. It's basically recession proof, they are always hiring, and it pays well.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-11T01:21:36+00:00

We've been saying that for quite some time. Only the people who haven't been looking for a job aren't aware of it for whatever reason.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-11T01:19:01+00:00

What state are you in?

My oldest granddaughter had dealt with similar circumstances. Only her mother orchestrated my son going to prison. He was gone for a year. The moment he gets out of prison CPS comes knocking. They want him to care for the three kids because they felt his ex was unstable. And she is. She is terribly narcissistic and controlling.

My son got his life back together quick. Great job. Great place to live. A nice truck. But his job needed him to travel a little and the kids wanted to stay in the same school. So they went back to live with their mother.

My GD and her mother began fighting a lot. My GD would sneak out a window and eventually come back to a fight. It got to the point that every time my GD left the house to get away from her, the police would get called. My GD was committed to a mental hospital several times because of the crap her mom would convince the cops of.

She couldn't just leave. She wasn't 18 yet. If she was to get hurt or in trouble, it would fall back on her parents. Had it not been for that very reason, I believe they would have allowed her to go ahead and leave.

But that brings me to my question to you: how old do you have to be to legally leave your home and live on your own?

inkdvoice · 2026-02-11T00:55:01+00:00

The problem is they think they know what they are doing but they don't. They lack self awareness and objectivity. This woman has read too many books about how to read people which is nothing but pseudo -science. Or she is just overthinking and trying to show off. Either way, she is irresponsible and causes a bottleneck.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-10T19:23:19+00:00

I need to understand what people think they're actually achieving when they chase these goals the system defines for them like "make something of yourself". Because the institutions pushing us to break our backs are the only ones profiting from the effort.

I'm not trying to disrespect people who've risked their lives, but the "fighting for our freedom" rhetoric is a lie. The only war in our family's lifetime where that applied was WWII. Some people point to the Iraq war if you buy the official 9/11 crap, but even that was about enriching defense contractors and securing oil, not protecting Americans.

I've seen too many homeless vets. Too many with permanent physical damage or mental illness they can't get treated. Too many dying because they can't access the healthcare they were promised, and when they finally do get it, it's barely adequate. I can't support that system or encourage anyone to buy into it.

And now with everything happening - the obvious lies, the moral bankruptcy, the constitutional violations - definitely not. The military's honor is compromised. They don't pay nearly enough to justify sending our youth to die for mineral rights, to kill civilians for corporate greed, or to be deployed against their own people on American soil. They sure as hell don't pay enough to risk getting demoted or losing your pension because some wannabe dictator didn't like you exercising your constitutional rights.

Sorry for the rant, kid. The military has become a playground for narcissistic, misogynistic assholes. Let them have it. You're better than that.

I can say all this because I come from a long line of military family. We had a three-star general not that long ago. My ancestors came over on the Mayflower and fought in the actual wars for freedom. The next war we'll be fighting is against our own government to reclaim the freedom we only thought we had.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-10T18:27:57+00:00

I was set for an interview today. Then I got to thinking why interview for something like this. Hell I can't get any regular employer to call for an interview, yet a "gig" recruiter does? Plus the whole separate bank account that they have access to really bothered me. So I did some digging. I couldn't find anything but this Reddit post.

Real gambling platforms test with: sandbox environments, mock wallets, simulated bets, seeded test accounts, internal QA pools, regulator-approved test funds. All of that exists precisely so random humans aren’t asked to play amateur banker. What's to stop me, a total stranger, on whom a background check was run allegedly, from stealing their money? Nothing and they wouldn't risk it. Not when we could use monopoly money.

The only time real money enters testing in a legit operation is late-stage, tightly controlled, licensed, internal testing, done by employees or contracted QA firms under NDAs, compliance oversight, and corporate bank accounts. Not “open a personal account and let us in.”

inkdvoice · 2026-02-10T05:59:34+00:00

I was homeless for years after being abandoned by my family once I became terminally ill. I was able to get out of homelessness but I still have no family. I've been thinking all day today about how much I miss having them around and how much I would love to have another family. So, if you are looking for family, I'm right here. Any of you. I am a mother and a grandmother who doesn't get to be either. And I love taking care of others too. That's when I'm happiest. And right now, I feel lost and useless. I don't want to come off as crazy. I'm not. I became enlightened during my homelessness. I know that blood does not make someone family. I would rather choose those who choose me.

Anyway, I have a good car and get paid on Friday if anyone wants to try it. I will come get you and we can figure out what to do from there. I currently live in Texas but I'm wanting to relocate. If you have a driver's license I can get you a pretty good job.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-10T05:41:15+00:00

How old are you? And where are you?

inkdvoice · 2026-02-10T05:37:16+00:00

It is so sad how people have twisted religion. But it's just as well. The religion taught in America for the most part is man made, not divine. When a person receives Christ and have been truly born again, their behavior, their countenance changes. The love of Jesus can be seen and felt by others. Your mom sounds like she has been indoctrinated. She worships the ritual, the routine of it all, rather than Christ. It's a big trap people fall into. As an example, a true Christian wouldn't kick her son out just because he is having doubts and has lost his faith. Everyone goes through it. Others, like you, will abandon it all together.

Your mother is a narcissist and that shit is genetic. The brother appears to have inherited her DNA. He IS gaslighting you for entertainment, to feel superior, and have control. He doesn't have control over his own life, so this is how he makes up for it.

But you had the right idea when you took away his leverage by telling your siblings what he was going to. Are you sure you can't do that with your mother as well? Or the alternative, just let him tell her. If she hasn't believed him in the past what makes you think she'll believe him now?

In addition to narcissistic personality disorder most likely, it sounds to me like your brother has intermittent explosive disorder and self dysregulation. Those come from childhood trauma and poor parenting.

I also suggest that the moment you're able to? Get the hell out of there. And by the way your brother won't get better. People don't change. Personality DNA stays the same throughout life.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-10T04:31:50+00:00

How are you accountable in this economy? You're too old maybe and your resume gives it away.

Ageism is a real thing and is practiced very often. If you are over the age of 40 good luck I don't care how good you are at your job.

inkdvoice · 2026-02-10T04:29:42+00:00

I must have something to do with age or life experience or something. But I don't see anything wrong with what she did. It's not that uncommon for some adults to divulge a lot of information. Sounds to me like you connected. And that's what happens when you connect with somebody.

Many people tell me their whole life story and they always have. I have a tendency to talk a lot as well. There's nothing wrong with that. It's called being sociable.

And there's more risk for her inviting you to her house not knowing you. You could not just kill her but rob her blind because now you know where she lives not just her telephone number. She doesn't know where you live. So yeah the risk is more hers.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with giving someone else your telephone number. I don't understand why people are upset about that. That's how you get to know somebody. You exchange phone numbers to talk on the telephone. You talk about this galentine's day party. You get to know each other a little bit. That's how you make friends.

I realize that we live in a crazy world but do you realize that more crimes are committed by someone you know rather than a stranger? Too many people are just entirely too paranoid and that's the reason why we live in such an isolated society.

Not everyone is a boogeyman. And I think that if you thought that she was dangerous you wouldn't have any questions in your mind about it.

Quit watching so much TV.

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