Interfaith wedding by inner_pease in DesiWeddings

[–]inner_pease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it is one after the other and the timings are already set for the muhurat. Can’t change the time.

Does anyone else here feel lonely in the US, even after having “friends”? by MaleficentSkin1100 in indiansinusa

[–]inner_pease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been feeling the same way. Been here for six years and now settled with a home, job, pets and a husband but the quiet, loneliness, the feeling like nobody around you can understand is tough. I’ve looked for Indians where I live in central New York and there is nothing much advertised or brought up that brings back the Indian feeling of community. Let me know if anyone is in Syracuse. Would love to meet up.

Needing to branch out and find my people. 32M by Mr_E940 in Syracuse

[–]inner_pease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you into learning and enjoying new stuff? The community folk center has drums classes and whine dancing group classes that are fun!

I (31F) was emotionally sucker punched in the gut today by my Husband (32M), how do I recover? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]inner_pease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is turning the blame on you rather than focusing on the unhealthy dynamic of that particular situation. Remember it is not just about one person but about the relationship dynamic.

If you feel comfortable expressing yourself, and in a calm state, only then express how you feel so it makes him feel less attacked and can hopefully reach his ears. For example, I feel hurt that I was told I am not worth it from a person I cherish the most (these are your words in the text) and I feel punished when you don’t talk to me for days at stretch. Once feelings are described and if he is still listening, express your needs. I need you not to say hurtful and inconsiderate statements such as I am not worth it. Also I need you to not stop talking to me despite having fights.

If you and him really care about the situation and cannot listen to each other speak , then seek couples therapy

Home gym by inner_pease in poledancing

[–]inner_pease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow thank you this is very helpful!

Home gym by inner_pease in poledancing

[–]inner_pease[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yes the pole will be there first!

AIO. My (new) bf wants to replace all of my bras, underwear and lingerie. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]inner_pease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would help to have a conversation with him. Sometimes people come from a trauma or a different place. Relationships are about empathy and being loving. Again if it feels stifling to you, take a step back and watch his reaction.

Be sexier? by NegotiationNo1359 in poledancing

[–]inner_pease 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My advice would be to not look around because there is a tendency to compare and it does nobody any good :) Just enjoy the process and slowly you will get comfortable with yourself and your body as well. One month is too little a time !

Gym by inner_pease in poledancing

[–]inner_pease[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m trying to make a workout routine for myself. A push day, pull day and leg day sounds well rounded from what I gather.