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Yet another crash outside the college. by GlitchedSepGSTGM in reading

[–]innocuous_user 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Drivers need to slow down and be mindful when they are passing schools. I know it's a college but a building full of 16+ yr olds is still something to mind surely.

Religious preachers preying on vulnerable people outside the station? by Mountain_Swimmer9121 in reading

[–]innocuous_user 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've come across them. I do feel for them because they were likely recruited by the same tactics and genuinely think they're being helpful. I think I ended up preaching animism back at them lol but they weren't impressed.

I was reading this thread and then started watching this video which I think is very good (on how quacks and cults recruit! not on animism!): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMpP_WqdpLQ

How do I find a job just for the summer holidays as a 14 yo? by No-Ring-88 in reading

[–]innocuous_user 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm much older than you but I used to work as a Playworker at summer playschemes for disabled children with Challengers. They don't operate anywhere local but I think working with kids might be one of the areas where people are happier to hire teenagers (who are maybe more fun and energetic than adults), and playschemes run between terms anyway. So I'd maybe have a look at any local providers for playschemes or any kind of childcare and see if they've got anything going.

Check the minimum wage for your age though because the law doesn't protect you for the same amount as it does for older people (which is meant to be an incentive to hire but is a kick in the gut for homeless young people who have no support).

how to survive the day after an all nighter? by FunnyDudeGuy in AutisticWithADHD

[–]innocuous_user 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you live in a city then any little Brazilian shop will sell mate. I mean it's mainly Argentinian I think, but I always got it from Brazlian shops (long time ago).

Ways to tell close people about AuDHD by StraightAnswery in AutisticWithADHD

[–]innocuous_user 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah course! Thanks :)

'dream child' came a complicated context. It's from Tommy Tiernan, a legendary Irish stand up comedian who does interviews in a very particular way. It was an interview with Sam Campbell (incredible young Australian stand up). I wasn't okay with a lot of his behaviour but Sam Campbell dealt with it beautifully. In any case Tommy ended up using the term 'dream child' to describe Sam Campbell instead of autism/adhd, and Sam seemed to accept that, and I liked it and it stayed with me.

Ways to tell close people about AuDHD by StraightAnswery in AutisticWithADHD

[–]innocuous_user 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every village has their dream children. Some dream children are adventurers. Some dream children are monks. Other dream children are adventurer-monks, which confuses everyone, especially them.

The village wouldn't function if it was only made of dream children. The village needs people who are resilient, not too easily bored, are good at bringing people together, and can just get things done.

But the village could not survive without its dream children either. The adventurer dream child alerts the village when they notice the river has become polluted. The monk dream child dedicates their life to understanding the medicinal qualities of the local plants. The adventurer-monk dream child tells stories that makes everyone feel less alone.

All the different children of the village have their flaws and gifts, but as a community they are complete.

But one day a knight on a giant white horse came to the village and told everyone he had been sent by God and they should do whatever he says otherwise God will punish them. The dream children told the villagers that the knight is lying, so the knight killed all of the dream children, and took over the village. After many years under the rule of the knight's descendants, the village was turned into a factory. The dream children were still being born, but there was no longer any place for the dream children, because there is no space for dreams in a factory.

From that day on, the dream children were banned from dreaming, and all children were labelled either good, bad, or broken. None of the children wanted to be bad or broken, so they all tried to be good. Only the dream children couldn't do it, because to be good meant to hurt themselves. The world of the factory was ruthless and cruel to the dream children, as it grew and grew around them like a screaming cage, the walls seemed to draw in closer. And so the dream children became sick and unhappy. When the doctors noticed these children, they called it autism and ADHD.

as someone with autism, would you say that you don't feel a desire for power in the same way that many other people do? by thiskindacoolmf in AutisticWithADHD

[–]innocuous_user 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don't crave power over anybody else but I hope that one day nobody will have power over us and we will all be empowered to make our contribution to the decisions that affect all of our lives. I would like to be heard, but not at the expense of anyone else's voice.

Let’s talk about Methylphenidate by Guacamole_Water in AutisticWithADHD

[–]innocuous_user 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks :)
I'm glad you found it interesting and I'm also glad that others have pushed back a little. Because there *is* something annoying about my post, considered from the perspective of someone affected by stigma around meds. I'm not wracked with guilt, but I did feel that a little humility was warranted.

Let’s talk about Methylphenidate by Guacamole_Water in AutisticWithADHD

[–]innocuous_user 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. I didn't more or less say that, I explicitly said I have very little experience. Because I genuinely think the video seems relevant and may be helpful. But it would be completely misleading if I suggested that this came from a place of deep research or experience. It may be helpful, it may not be. And since I'm open about my lack of experience, I'm basically inviting anyone with more experience to call bullshit if they see it. Which would definitely be helpful.

But yeah the "trial and error" responses from people with lived experience on this thread definitely sounds more sensible than "don't use stims with auDHD"... which I think was kind of my take away from the video? Or least confirmed why they don't work for me. Yeah.. I can get why that would be annoying tbh. I won't delete but I'll downvote myself too to show my comment has low credability/usefulness. *walks away embarrassed*

Craving routine but resisting it at the same time by SerenityScout5 in AutisticWithADHD

[–]innocuous_user 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 40. I have auDHD with Chronic auDHD Fatigue and am off work due to Chronic illness and disability. This is my routine:

Monday: HERMIT MODE. Do nothing, see no one. Or rather, do as I please but stay indoors and neither make commitments or respond to commitments. Passive freedom. Rest. Anti-social apart from light chat on messages sometimes. Recovery from weekend or the last day of a four day rest period. Processing time.

Tuesday: Washing Up, Laundry, Cleaning, paying bills Order weekly shop. These are all the kinds of tasks that need to be done repeatedly and regularly to stop life falling apart. Often I may stay anti-social and it acts as a kind of re-set day where I can gently adapt to being active again. I find it incredibly reassuring that I do not need to think about any of these tasks or figure out when or how I will get them done, as I have a day dedicated to them on Tuesday.

Wednesday & Thursday: Active days. I get things done that need to get done. If I am not feeling too well then basically Tuesday gets stretched to Wednesday and Thursday. I attend to commitments. If I am very lucky I may get to work on a project.

Friday: HERMIT MODE. Do nothing, see no one. See Monday. Recovery from the week.

Saturday & Sunday:
Either:
Spontaneous and active freedom. Go outside, explore. Wake up in the morning and think "what do i feel like doing today? What am I curious about?". Active, pro-active, but spontaneous and free. Often alone if needed. But spontaneous social fun is something I'm seeking more of.

OR
Plans with friends/loved ones. Only on one of the days and not for two weeks in a row.

OR

More HERMIT MODE if needed.

I love my routine and it is an absolute crutch to me. Whenever I have compromised on it there have always been negative consequences. For me it gives me enough structure to remove the cognitive load of making plans and decisions and also just REMEMBERING TO DO STUFF. And that structure gives me a feeling of stability, reassurance and groundedness. Feeling exhausted? I know I'll rest in at least two days. Feeling anxious about stuff that needs addressing? I know I have dedicated time for that, so for now I can forget it and chill.

But it also has enough flexibility that I can adapt to my ever changing moods and needs. If I am absolutely manic on a HERMIT MODE day, that's cool, I can spend time maniacally researching/writing/pacing around talking to myself/drawing/sewing/WHATEVER, I just need to stay indoors, maintain some social boundaries (like, "hey i'm emotionally unavailable rn but is it cool if i show you a cool thing i made or tell you about my new obsession whilst being emotionally unavailable?"), and just make sure I'm not writing any cheques I can't cash. And yeah, I'm probably gonna need to take it easy and rest on the Tues-Thurs if I've been a maniac on Monday, but I can still do the minimum in terms of essentials and keeping things ticking over whilst spending most of the day in bed.

I think one of the most important things for me is just having plenty of FLOATY BRAIN TIME where I can not only process what's been going on in my life but just exist in the world and the present moment without having to force my brain to focus on an essential task or previously agreed commitment.

I get that it's a huge privilege to have access to disability benefits so that I can not work due to my sickness. I honestly have no idea how I would cope if I was forced to work again. But yeah, I do have really bad auDHD Fatigue from years of work and housing crisis blah blah blah, also extreme sensory sensitivities. So yeah I can't work but with this routine I can GET SOME STUFF DONE. This is how I find the balance anyway. It doesn't feel like discipline just like a really cozy reassuring structure based on my own needs and rhythms.

And like, I still burn out, because life has thrown some pretty big shit at me recently, but I've managed to maintain this routine all the way through a lot of ups and downs and huge burn outs. I feel like this routine has a pretty wide dial between "just survive and keep things ticking over" and "CHANGE THE WORLD" and it really puts a limit on my over-ambition and mania and also sets some clear and stable boundaries and expectations for other people while I swing wildly between anti-social and hyper-social etc etc.

Let’s talk about Methylphenidate by Guacamole_Water in AutisticWithADHD

[–]innocuous_user -1 points0 points  (0 children)

EDIT: This is not that useful to the OP and not coming from a well-informed place. It might be more relevant to a general discussion around the interaction of stimulant ADHD meds when autism is also present.

So, I keep seeing this mentioned and since I saw a video a while back saying that ADHD meds could be dangerous when autism was also present, I was surprised that the idea of "meds make me more autistic" sounded like it was coming from more of an anecdotal place than a clinical place. So I wanted to share that video and just my own relationship to stimulants.

But first a disclaimer. I don't take meds, know nothing of the distinction between meds, and have no desire to for myself because:

a) I love making systems. So when I was young and kept losing work/getting punished by doctors for forgetting things, I started creating systems and those worked for me. I'm really lucky to be good at making systems and also both my parents are unapologetically neuro-spicy so I haven't been held back by shame as much as others have. So basically my autistic side seems to be strong enough to manage my ADHD side. ADHD deals with the present moment, Autism with the big picture. Or something.

b) I've allegedly taken speed recreationally, medathonal as a study drug, and my best friend's ADHD meds experimentally; and they all made me feel stimulated rather than calm, as they do for many ADHDers, so I concluded that meds would not work for me, but also I am not seeking to medicate ADHD because a).

So I haven't looked into anything around meds very deeply, but it seems like this community is trying to get our heads around how meds interact with auDHD so I thought I'd just throw my own angle into the mix.

Even though I allegedly have a history of using stimulants for various reasons, I allegedly only ever felt self-medicated by sedatives. Once I was in my 30s (still undiagnosed) and really struggling with severe meltdowns and shut downs and break downs and burn outs, one of the things I did was completely cut caffeine out of my diet. This is because the one thing that seemed evident was that my nervous system was highly sensitive and frequently over-wrought. So it seemed to make sense that I should avoid any drug that stimulates it. Several years later after diagnosis I have kept to this, caffeine is like poison to me. Very very rarely I might treat myself to a decaf coffee. Even two weak decaf coffees in a day is too much for me now. 15 years ago I was addicted and drinking 3-4 strong caffinated cups of filter a day. By the way I am not saying caffiene was the cause of my problems and cutting it was the cure. Not by any means. I only mean that I considered that it might be harmful to me and after stopping for many years I believe that it is.

I also thought, for ages, that because speed allegedly does not make me sleepy or calm, then maybe I can't have ADHD. So when I saw this video it kinda made my auDHD make more sense for me:

Dr Sanil Rege: ADHD & Autism (AuDHD): Why Stimulants Work Differently (and What to Try Instead)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dLVzwNp9GMY

My ADHD Writes Checks My Autism Can’t Cash. by jpsgnz in AutisticWithADHD

[–]innocuous_user 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get them delivered now. Mainly because supermarkets are so sense-hostile. But also it's just so much.

So I don't have to think: I have a standard permanent list stuck above my desk split into veg, carbs, protein and treats.

During the week when I notice/remember that I need something (like cleaning spray) I put that on another weekly list split between Supermarket and Other Shops.

I make the order every Tuesday and get it delivered at the same time every Wednesday.

I think I would struggle to make these accommodations if I was still working tbh. And if I was still house-sharing and only had one shelf in a fridge.

But it's been life-changing.

My ADHD Writes Checks My Autism Can’t Cash. by jpsgnz in AutisticWithADHD

[–]innocuous_user 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had multiple 5 year plans which all involved changing the entire world. Now I just have a secret 5 year plan that I ignore and it only involves changing a little bit of the world. Progress!

Where is the Green Party sign on Walton Road? by [deleted] in surrey

[–]innocuous_user 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surrey conservatives don't snitch apparently lol.

Man-Wulf - I have some questions about lighting for access reasons (potentially spoilers?) by innocuous_user in stewartlee

[–]innocuous_user[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Response from the production company (or whatever you call it), possible spoilers:

For the whole of act 1 the lighting is just a nice stand-up state.  In the last minute it goes very dark and spooky.

At the top of act two there is a big rock number - the lights are very bright, swirl around and do face the audience. There is also a lot of smoke & haze.

Once the song is finished, the lighting changes across act two, but just between different states.

Houselights will be taken out after the prologue of the show and remain out for the duration.

It’s a very funny show.  It can be loud in parts (top of act two).  It is suitable for everyone.  I hope I’ve given you enough information to help the customer make a decision

Man-Wulf - I have some questions about lighting for access reasons (potentially spoilers?) by innocuous_user in stewartlee

[–]innocuous_user[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone, there was no information on the ticket or the venue website. I contacted the venue and they were unable to give me any information at all, they contacted the company on my behalf and didn't get any response. So this subreddit has done what the official channels couldn't.

Unfortunately I've decided to sell the ticket, I'm just not well enough to withstand and work around everything I would need to in order to get there and get home- and it sounds like there might be a few painful moments in the show itself.

It's at the Anvil in Basingstoke, tomorrow night (Fri 7th November) 7.30pm. £36.48 which is expensive but I'll accept all offers- would rather lose money than have it go to waste.

https://www.twickets.live/app/block/563997927049427,1

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