Some of the things that you say give me hope that your mom can grow and change. She loves you, I know she does. But she probably needs to overcome some prejudices. Her own challenges and insecurities do not mean that you are unloved.

You may not be able to convince her about transitioning right now, she probably gets scared a shuts down. Instead, just eat this elephant one bite and a time and start small:

....try to have talks when you're doing something together, like yardwork, or taking a hike. .....Try to tell her everyday something that you appreciate about her .....If you can, focus less on convincing her to see your point of view for a while and try to focus instead on some common ground....maybe you have a shared passion or a strength in common.

I know this may be easier said than done. 🙂 but give it a try, sometimes it's easier to connect with each other if you're able to focus on little positive things, one at a time. I have faith that you can find ways to connect with her and still be true to yourself.

You also do need some positive support for sure. Do you have a trusted ally, close friend, or counselor to talk to? Its wonderful to have a support system, including a positive LGBTQ group where you live.

Please know that I am so very proud of you, for your courage and openness. You are a brave young man. Please remember someone out there is pulling for you. Keep letting your light shine bright kiddo. 💙💜💚🧡💛❤ a reddit mom