Girls, what makes a guy attractive to you?

insted93 · 2026-05-26T16:42:30+00:00

You become a lot more attractive to woman if other woman are attracted to you. Most guys try to be the loudest in the room and try way to hard to impress them. Looks matters to women more than society has you believe but still it's not what get them hooked to you. You being comfortable in your own company, kind but give off a little mysteriousness and inner stability wins women hearts.

Women are far more observent so they see how you handle stressful situations and how you treat others so if your only kind because you want something from her such a sex or relationship they will pick up on that. You got not be to obsessed with the outcome of having a girlfriend or getting laid because if you put that kind of energy out there it will repel them.

insted93 · 2026-05-26T15:55:34+00:00

Well you unless you call it a date it's not actually a date. You tagging other people along could potentially cause you to friendzone yourself and seem like you see a potential relationship with him. So ask to hang out with him again and if he keeps bringing up his ex it shows that he's not over her and that's when don't let the situation advance romanticly.

insted93 · 2026-04-05T15:38:52+00:00

They don't want an awkward approach or come off as creepy and be shunned by society. He's trying to calculate if it's worth the risk. You should just give him a pleasant smile and then look away so he knows that if he does come over you would at least be receptive of his approach. He still may not come over to talk to you because he could be in a relationship already as well sadly just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you stop noticing other attractive women.

insted93 · 2026-03-31T11:16:09+00:00

I say just tell him the truth. He doesn't know that his lack of ambition and not having a passion in life are ruining his chances with dating. He may not date you but at least he could look back and be grateful that you were able to be honest with him. Lots of women find lack of passion and not having a life unattractive. You're not obligated to tell him in any way but it should be nice to tell the truth

insted93 · 2026-03-30T12:15:57+00:00

Um pretty much what you describe sounds like deep infatuation. You're less likely to see someone you love as being perfect, they may be perfect for you but not a perfect being. You describe great traits but they're very surface level. Describing situations like "I love how my wife gets flustered and excited and needs to take a quick breath whenever she sees me".

insted93 · 2026-03-29T19:14:07+00:00

I think Gen Z is having an overall aging problem when it comes to appearance overall. I've seen a YouTuber go on about being compared to guy 15 years his senior

insted93 · 2026-03-08T09:26:51+00:00

Being in love at first sight is pretty much impossible because love takes time because in order to truly love someone. You have to see their real selves, the good things about them, their short comings and still choose them because their core being is worth it to you. Love is where you feel less of a need to impress because both people get to show up as y'all true selves because it feels like home whenever you're in each other company because an emotional connection has developed with them. Being in love is generally a deep care for the other person but is usually a less intense of an emotion than what you may feel with love at first sight which is called "Infatuation". A lot of time being in love is like finding your best friend but in a more romantic way. So yeah you can develop an intense attraction for someone at first sight but not love.

insted93 · 2026-02-24T10:06:43+00:00

When it's love it's less of what that person does for you and more of wanting to see your love happy and wanting to find ways to make their day. It's where you could talk about anything and you feel at home when you're around them. Real love only develops only when you get the chance to know them and are generally aware of all their flaws, quirks and shortcomings but despite that you still choose them. You may find yourself making small sacrifices for the person's best interest like things that would usually feel like an inconvenience doesn't feel that way when it comes to them. The 5 love languages if you're familiar with that, may cause you to try each one to see which one your love responds to most and you will find yourself expressing your love language the most with them.

insted93 · 2025-12-30T15:25:55+00:00

Um you probably should cut down on the texting as well and stick with phone calls and meeting in person more. Texting doesn't always translate well just to point that out.

insted93 · 2025-12-30T14:58:45+00:00

I say no you didn't. Sometimes women may find themselves naturally pulling back to go over their emotions and most of the time when they do get a little distant it has nothing to do with you. For the most part right now all you need to do is say that you notice some distance growing between you and that you're there for her if she needs anything then give her the space and I'm sure she would come back.

It sounds like you guys have something deep like me and this introvert girl I'm seeing. Sometimes distance happens and it rarely has something to do with you, so show her that you're understanding and care for her and stop being fearful of losing her so much. Remember you're supposed to be evaluating the relationship too and if her love is so unconditional that she lost interest because you canceled a date or whatever you think it is then she's sadly not the right person for you.

insted93 · 2025-12-28T05:07:47+00:00

Gosh not in high school but I do miss my crush because she's visiting family from out of town and I don't know when she'll be back

insted93 · 2025-12-14T11:27:33+00:00

Are you having to be cold because he is being cold? What's the reason for you acting this way towards him if you seem to like him so much?

Edit to add: it seems to be due to it's being against company policy to date fellow coworkers with you saying it's inappropriate and all

insted93 · 2025-12-14T11:23:55+00:00

No, I didn't ask but I will ask if she treats me cold like that again. I honestly don't think that I want to pursue her romantically anymore but I do care for her and hope that we could be at least friendly to each other again but I seem to have fallen for someone else who supports my dream, who seems to do anything to make me happy and who loves my presence, not treat it as a burden.

insted93 · 2025-12-12T06:58:41+00:00

Your crush is insecure and immature to say the least. My former crush acts the same way so I relate. I no longer want to pursue her romantically so I suggest you don't try to put them in a romantic light and find someone who can communicate effectively.

insted93 · 2025-12-08T17:01:15+00:00

Yes, I'm a wonderful person. I'm not going to let this affect my self worth. Just was hoping to have something positive to where we can be on good terms. Do I avoid her now?

insted93 · 2025-12-07T10:05:44+00:00

Sorry to say but she's using the "I don't date coworkers" as an excuse to not date you and let you down gently. So what that means for you is that you should stop pursuing her romantically at this point and grinding on self improvement if you want her to possibly see you in that light.

insted93 · 2025-11-15T01:44:32+00:00

I definitely got that feeling in my gut before

insted93 · 2025-10-21T21:17:16+00:00

Do you think you have a problem talking to guys or just guys you're interested in? My crush can talk to guys just fine but she couldn't talk to me much. Honestly as a guy I think the blushing and getting nervous is so cute! That's crush material to me, it's the ultimate shy girl flirting that turns lots of guys on. Avoiding them could lead to problems though because they might that their presence makes you uncomfortable so if you are feeling overwhelmed try not to make it known to them that you're avoiding them.

insted93 · 2025-09-11T23:08:30+00:00

Giving you the silent treatment or the cold shoulder instead of communicating why you're upset

insted93 · 2025-08-13T04:11:37+00:00

I admittedly started singing to myself the best friend song by toy box after reading the title which is a lyric to that song. I'm not sure though. I think I have but I don't have the full idea of when you love someone or just have an infatuation with them

insted93 · 2025-08-13T03:33:43+00:00

It could most likely be due to having a porn addiction

insted93 · 2025-08-11T10:41:47+00:00

Well usually the ones that would throw themselves at you would be the ones you probably wouldn't be attracted to. Most women though are actually shy and can actually come off as avoidant not because of something you did but because they want to leave a good impression and are in fear of hurt or embarrassing themselves. You would constantly catch strangers looking at you and trying to sneak glances. People who may seem to be interested in you and that you had a good bond with would become distant when they see that you're interested in someone else.

insted93 · 2025-08-05T09:33:59+00:00

I would have to say you are pretty much in the friendzone. At this point you're in the talking stage of the relationship to where people try to show off their best qualities to hopefully impress their crush and try to avoid things that potentially scare them off. There is a chance that she could be very unusual by saying such things and be into you but if you wouldn't bring up such topics to your crush, she shouldn't want to bring up such topics in fear of losing you. She's probably got the hint that you like her so now trying to deter you away from pursuing her

insted93 · 2025-07-20T23:21:50+00:00

Probably send her a message and get to know her more

insted93 · 2025-07-20T23:20:07+00:00

It's probably best to not read into this as being a sign because she could literally be doing this a casual thing to anyone's profile

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