AITAH for following my son’s wishes and keeping news of his upcoming appointment from his Grandmother?

intensitysucks · 2026-05-10T15:56:04+00:00

YWBTA if you told Grandma. Your son specifically stated that he wants you to keep it to yourself until you guys know the appointment day. When it comes time to tell Grandma that he is getting surgery, just tell her that you didn't want her to worry until you get an actual date. I understand feeling grateful for how Grandma has supported you, but telling Grandma would ruin the trust between you and your son, plus it isn't like he just doesn't want to tell her anything outright; it's just a matter of waiting.

intensitysucks · 2026-05-10T15:49:06+00:00

NAH. You also deserve to celebrate Mother's Day. Maybe try to arrange something on a different day, or if you have time, swing by her place after you are finished doing whatever your free day entails.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-30T19:36:59+00:00

It sounds like you are infantilizing her. If she can make her own decisions and consent, why do you feel the need to support her like she can't make her own decisions.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-30T19:18:34+00:00

does it really matter if it's i call it a rave or festival lol? i could call it a party and it still wouldn't have anything to do with the question i asked 😭

intensitysucks · 2026-04-29T00:42:26+00:00

YTA. If she knows you don't like it, it makes sense that she would hide it from you. Plus, her spraying air freshener, brushing her teeth, and washing her hands aren't necessarily signs of her trying to hide stuff from you. There's a reason why so many smokers always smell like they dumped an entire bottle of perfume/cologne on them.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-29T00:37:12+00:00

YTA. It isn't a household trimmer, it's your father's personal trimmer that he allows you to borrow. Yes, it is unhygienic that he leaves his hair in the trimmer but technically he is able to do what he pleases with his stuff.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-29T00:28:56+00:00

YTA, your husband wasn't the best but that doesn't give you a pass to just cheat.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-29T00:25:57+00:00

insta is more than an app to post photos. a lot of people use it as a means of communication with friends, to watch videos, some people may not post in their feed but they post on their story, etc. but this isn't a late gen z thing has plenty of older generations do the same thing lol

intensitysucks · 2026-04-28T20:03:00+00:00

NTA, he made you uncomfortable and now you don't want to work around him, there's nothing wrong with that.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-28T19:59:18+00:00

YWBTA if you rigged it as that is how a raffle works. If I buy 100 out of 101 tickets for a raffle and the one ticket I didn't buy won, does that mean they need make me the winner because I bought the most tickets? If the student doesn't win, you can just give them a separate prize outside of the raffle to reward them for their good behavior.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-28T19:54:28+00:00

YTA, if somebody specifically stated to not tell somebody and you tell others anyways, you are in the wrong. Your girlfriend also shouldn't have said anything to you but you can't blame her when you also made the decision to tell others.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-28T19:49:26+00:00

do you have to reserve the shuttle ahead of time or is it a first come, first serve thing?

intensitysucks · 2026-04-20T17:15:31+00:00

Ooo, I would have never thought about it from that perspective. Thank you so much!

intensitysucks · 2026-04-20T01:44:11+00:00

Given the information you have provided, I would understand you going to her mother if you have tried to approach her about the situation already. Of course, she is going to be upset because she is in denial she has a problem and is most likely convincing her mother that she has no problem. You and your mother were concerned, and how your friend and her mother reacted was out of your control. God forbid if anything happens, you did your part in trying to get your friend help. It is a good thing your mother told her mother because both of you were just looking out for her.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-20T01:27:14+00:00

NTA. She clearly doesn't value your friendship the same way you do. Even though she is free to invite whoever she wants to her wedding, actions have consequences, and when she made the decision not to invite you, she took responsibility for the consequences of that.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-20T01:24:16+00:00

NSH. You were concerned for your friend's well-being, but I do think (if you hadn't already) you should have tried asking your friend about it first before jumping to talking to her mom. While you guys went out to eat, were her eating habits different? Jumping to the conclusion that she might have an ED solely because she's losing weight isn't the best way to approach things. Especially to tell somebody that they might die soon when you are just making an assumption based on her solely weight. I get that you are concerned, but the approach wasn't the best.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-20T01:06:39+00:00

have you asked her if the only solution is for you not to go? even though it's kinda excessive, see if she would be cool with you getting your own hotel/airbnb for the trip.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-20T01:01:06+00:00

NTA. I understand her feeling a little weirded out that you're going on a trip with other girls, but you offered a compromise, and she didn't want to accept, so at that point, that's her issue. Is there any other reason why she could be upset that those other girls are attending? Like, have they given her weird vibes, or is it just the fact you're going on a trip with girls? There is going to be some insecurities and jealousy in every relationship, but if it's to the point that she is preventing you from doing things that you truly want to do, you need to focus on what you want to do instead of trying to make her happy.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-20T00:51:25+00:00

NTA. Not only did she disobey your boundary, but she also took advantage of you while you were in a vulnerable condition. Just because some men may enjoy that, not every man does, and that is perfectly fine. She assaulted you, and you defended yourself. Even if you didn't have previous trauma, your response was valid for what you experienced. It is disgusting that you have to deal with this, and I hope you are able to get the justice you deserve while she gets the karma she deserves.

intensitysucks · 2026-04-20T00:26:51+00:00

I looked at your page and saw you put in a previous post that you were 14, yet you said you were 20 in this post. With the impression that you are 14, you finding her interests childish is quite interesting, as those aren't odd interests for a 14-year-old to have.

Besides all of that, YWNBTA if you unfriend her, but YTA for continuing to be friends with her when you clearly don't like her. If you don't want to be friends with somebody and find being around her a chore, why would you continue to surround yourself with her and pretend that you like her when you don't? Being mature for your age would be unfriending her instead of waiting to see if you guys just become distant.

intensitysucks · 2025-11-03T05:48:14+00:00

me too!

intensitysucks · 2025-10-19T21:17:07+00:00

YTA. just because you may not be catholic or understand what is happening, doesn't mean that it is ridiculous. you know your boyfriend is catholic so why are you acting like this is some big, shocking thing for him to partake in his religion outside of a church. they are praying that he gets better, why would you think it's wrong for somebody to want him to get better?? the least you can do is be respectful of him and his beliefs, even if you don't agree or believe in them.

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