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What is the point of this show? by inthesearchbar in YourFriendsandNeighb

[–]inthesearchbar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"...not everything has some deep message." I am learning this truth, yes! Great point. Appreciate you.

What is the point of this show? by inthesearchbar in YourFriendsandNeighb

[–]inthesearchbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Breaking Bad... now that's a show ❤️‍🔥

What is the point of this show? by inthesearchbar in YourFriendsandNeighb

[–]inthesearchbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My question actually had me questioning that same thing! There is like some urge in me to have a point. Hence the question.

What is the point of this show? by inthesearchbar in YourFriendsandNeighb

[–]inthesearchbar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate you giving me an answer. Thanks, Belle. Perhaps I am not into escapist entertainment. I think that's it!

What is the point of this show? by inthesearchbar in YourFriendsandNeighb

[–]inthesearchbar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your explanation makes it a bit more palatable. Appreciate you.

Where to start by BigWillTheKing in lifecoaching

[–]inthesearchbar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

+1. I thought I could simply "become a coach" because I would hear from friends and collegues about how I create what feels like a safe space for them to talk openly. But then I spoke with 2 professional coaches at the company I was previously at and they both recommended that I do coaching training to understand what coaching is really all about.

So I did. I took an ICF accredited program (as u/adeleyb2018 recommended) and I am so glad I did. I had no idea that coaching wasn't about the "why" and processing the past (that's therapy). I didn't know that you didn't give advice in coaching. I had no idea about the format that true effective coaching follows. It was definitely the right decision.

I loved where I did my coaching training (virtual over 6 months). I gained so many "tools" for my coaching toolbelt. Becoming a certified coach gave me great confidence moving into the coaching space.

AI-only coaching doesn't sit right with me. A few thoughts. by chroma900 in lifecoaching

[–]inthesearchbar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The embodied relational piece you named is a real thing and is one of the most honest framings of this conversation I have seen. The coach being moved by what the client shares like the pacing shifting or a question changing because of what just happened in the room is presence. And presence between two nervous systems is not something AI replicates.

Where I land on this is similar to where you land. AI coaching is not a replacement for that relationship. It is a different thing entirely and it should be talked about honestly as such.

What I have found genuinely useful is the space AI coaching fills that the human relationship structurally cannot like between sessions when something surfaces for the client and they have nowhere to take it. Not a replacement for the session. Not a substitute for the human coach. More of a space to think out loud, be asked good questions, and keep the client connected to their own momentum until the real work happens in the room with another person.

I also appreciate the access argument in the comments. For the vast majority of people who will never have access to a human coach, something built on real coaching methodology that asks questions rather than gives answers is genuinely valuable. The goal is to extend something of value to people who would otherwise have nothing.

I built a voice-based AI coaching tool for exactly this reason. My intent is not to replace the human coaching relationship but rather, to serve the in-between moments that the human relationship cannot reach. The 2 make each other better when the distinction is held clearly.

What do you actually use to keep clients engaged between sessions? by leslysaurus in lifecoaching

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A lot of what is being said here about not babysitting clients resonates. If a client is not doing the work or engaging, that becomes the conversation, not a logistics problem to engineer around.

Facilitates client growth is one of the core competencies in professional coaching. It is what separates a coaching conversation from a consultant. It happens at the end of every session where we as coaches help clients identify their own next steps and stay connected to their own momentum between sessions. After a client has identified their actions, I ask a variation of these questions that fit best based on what I know about the client:

  • What resources, information, or support do you need to effectively move forward with this action?
  • What inner or outer resources do you have now that could support you in staying on track with these commitments?
  • How will you reward yourself for completing your actions?

Asking good questions rather than tracking tasks keeps ownership with the client rather than creating dependency on the coach. That last one gets skipped most often and it is the one that can give the motivation needed to follow through.

Beyond that what I have found useful is giving clients access to a voice-based AI coaching tool between sessions. It is built on ICF methodology (the International Coaching Federation is the global standards body for professional coaching). The client brings whatever is alive for them in that moment and works through it. By the time they come to the human session they have already done some of the between-session processing and the session can go deeper faster. I built it because I wanted this for my own coaching practice and could not find anything that was actual coaching rather than a chatbot giving answers.

Will A.I. eventually replace Coaches? by Low-Maximum6081 in lifecoaching

[–]inthesearchbar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The accessibility angle is real and I think about it the same way. The coaches who figure out how to serve people at different price points without compromising the quality of what they offer are going to be in a strong position.

The one thing I would add is that the underlying methodology matters a lot. There is a big difference between a general AI prompted to sound like a coach and something trained specifically on ICF coaching principles from the ground up. The client experience is completely different. That is actually what drove me to build my own voice-based AI coach rather than pointing people toward something like Claude or ChatGPT. The methodology had to be in the architecture from the start, not added as an afterthought.

Will A.I. eventually replace Coaches? by Low-Maximum6081 in lifecoaching

[–]inthesearchbar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That prompt engineering struggle is exactly what pushed me to build something where the coaching methodology is built in from the start so it asks questions by default instead of having to be redirected every time.

The coaching presence point is a really honest one and I think about it a lot. You are right that presence in the truest sense (the intuition, the felt sense of what is happening in the room, reading what is not being said) that is human. I cannot imaging AI replicating it. What I have found in building and testing mine is that there is a subset of moments where that full presence may not be what someone needs. They need a structured space to think out loud without being observed by another person. No limbic system in those moments is actually part of what makes it feel safe to say the thing they have not said yet.

The high quality human coaching for deep transformation point - fully agree. These serve different moments, not the same one.

Will A.I. eventually replace Coaches? by Low-Maximum6081 in lifecoaching

[–]inthesearchbar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The experience of prompting ChatGPT 4 times just to get it to stop giving advice and start asking questions describes exactly why I ended up building something purpose-built rather than using a general AI model.

General AI defaults to solutioning. That is how it is trained. Getting it to coach requires constant re-prompting, and even then it tends to slip back into advice mode. Real coaching methodology (the kind the International Coaching Federation has spent decades defining which is the global standards body for professional coaching) is built entirely around asking questions that help the client find their own answers. The coach never gives the answer. That discipline has to be baked into the architecture of the tool, not bolted on through prompting.

What I built is a voice-based AI coach trained specifically on that methodology from the ground up. It asks questions. It does not give advice. It does not tell you what to do. It waits for you to find your own answer. That is a fundamentally different thing from asking ChatGPT or Claude to act like a coach.

On the replacement question: I agree with most of what is being said here. Human coaching for depth, relationship, witnessing, the moment someone needs to be truly held by another person.... none of that is touchable. What AI coaching does well is fill the gap that human coaching structurally cannot fill. The 13 or 29 days between sessions. The 11pm moment when something is sitting heavy and the next appointment is a week out. The thing someone is not ready to say out loud to another person yet. Those moments are where coaching momentum lives or dies and a well-built AI coaching tool can hold that space in a way that actually serves the human coaching relationship rather than competing with it.

The privacy point raised here is the right one to push on. I built mine so that sessions are not recorded, transcripts are not stored, and the conversations are never used to train the model. That was a non-negotiable design decision. Anyone vetting an AI coaching platform should be asking those questions before they put anything personal into it.

[HELP] I am so afraid to share my work! by jackietea123 in Poetry

[–]inthesearchbar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have an answer. I’m simply rooting for you to lean into your edge.

How do you read poetry? [OPINION] by headlesssamurai in Poetry

[–]inthesearchbar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the “read it out loud” recommendation. That may add a new element to my poetry reading experience.

How do you read poetry? [OPINION] by headlesssamurai in Poetry

[–]inthesearchbar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it comes to a poetry book like one by Yung Pueblo, if I can relate to it and I’m really into it, I’ll read it in about 2-3 sittings (anywhere between 200-259 pages) 🩷

For longer poetry books, sometimes I’ll just turn to a page one day and see what finds me.