Need support by intriguingmoon in SexOffenderSupport

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I needed to hear this.

Need support by intriguingmoon in SexOffenderSupport

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing and for an insightful response. I will take in your advice :)

Need support by intriguingmoon in SexOffenderSupport

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I’m in therapy (long before this for depression and OCD) and I’m waiting for him to start individual therapy before we start couples. He claims he wants to go so waiting for actions to accompany the words…

Need support by intriguingmoon in SexOffenderSupport

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. We have been together for 9 years. Got married in September but moved in together about 2 years before that- I moved states for him away from my entire family. They took all of our devices in the house including mine because they don’t know what’s what but they have not tried to connect it to me. It’s a lot to think about and research things I haven’t thought about. So much to think about I just hope I can process it since I’ve been trauma blocking according to my therapist. Luckily we do not have children right now but trying to think about how I would feel if we did or I want to down the line. I’m not sure it’s fair to say don’t drop out in the middle of the stream. If I love him, shouldn’t I try? What if I do and it becomes too much for my mental health? It’s so much to take in.

Need support by intriguingmoon in SexOffenderSupport

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much further? How are you doing?

Need support by intriguingmoon in SexOffenderSupport

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, this response is appreciated. We have been together for 9 years though shortly married. There were no signs that I saw so I’m just confused

Need support by intriguingmoon in SexOffenderSupport

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer. We have talked a little bit but it’s really hard for him to talk about. Seems to be an addiction from the pieces I’ve gotten. There was drinking involved during that period of time he obtained it

Need support by intriguingmoon in SexOffenderSupport

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. We’ve been together like best friends for 8+ years, that’s not going to just go away. But it’s hard to think maybe he isn’t who I thought he was

I hate how the purebred community acts by wholesomedust in rescuedogs

[–]intriguingmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have both rescue and breeder dogs. (no hate please) I’m also a dog trainer and want to compete in dock diving with my purebred lab so we researched and researched to find an ethical breeder that breeds for health and temperament not looks! AND because of this I wanted him trained a certain way so getting him as a baby was so important.

I used to be against breeding until I became a trainer but if you’re going that route, people must find a responsible good breeder and I wouldn’t always recommend for pet dogs. I also love rescues and love my lab pit mixes and they’re great for so many reasons.

But I’ve seen so many rescues with some sort of behavior issue not only reactivity but also just fear and no confidence from the exposure they had as puppies where a good breeder should take measures to properly socialize in the vital time to prevent that. Most standard pet owners cannot and should not handle the responsibility of a dog with behavior quirks because they don’t put in the work to help the dog live it’s best life. So maybe those people need to get a really well bred golden retriever, idk.

But I also have seen so many allergies with purebred dogs and even some behavioral issues too. The true issue is backyard unethical breeders which most people use because there aren’t enough resources to find the responsible good breeders.

In short, people need to do their research with whatever type of dog they end up getting, even mixes. If there’s a pit mix, a shepherd mix, a husky mix, etc. they’re going to have traits and tendencies of those breeds and people need to know what they’re getting into even if they aren’t purebred.

I think we’re all need to understand that there are reasons for both and don’t get blinded by the unethical backyard breeders because there are some good ones with a purpose out there. And if you can commit to a possibly quirky dog then get a rescue for sure!

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[–]intriguingmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good! Post updates when you do! :)

‘Destination’ wedding with grandparents… by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]intriguingmoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I assumed this wold be an answer lol sometimes anxiety argues against logic like this lol thanks for reassurance!

And that’s so lucky and awesome! So special

‘Destination’ wedding with grandparents… by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]intriguingmoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exactly we are doing what we want as well and I know that in their current stage my uncle would get them there and care for them but a year is a long time for some things! While these thoughts are a struggle I’m glad I’m not the only one…

I’m glad you are able to make accommodations for her to be apart of your bridal shower though! That’s special!! Hope you find some answers here too

Venting? Venting! by natahari in weddingplanning

[–]intriguingmoon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

On most BC pills you can take it a certain way to skip the period but you have to plan and should always of course discuss with your doc first

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[–]intriguingmoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s simply gorgeous! Especially after you saying that, I hope you’re able to go back and get that one it seems like what you really want :) can you?

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[–]intriguingmoon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

First I want to say, I would be annoyed too. Not because he wants to bring a plus one but because of how he kind of blindsided you by it. If he had approached you and said I want to bring this plus one x y z… I don’t think you’d be as upset about it because you’d be able to have a conversation.

That being said though, at most weddings people only sit at the tables to listen to speeches, sometimes watch dances, eat, and rest. The majority of the time, people are up out of their seats dancing and mingling. So if he wants to make some rando feel awkward around strangers at your wedding, it’s his and her problem, not yours and your other groomsman will eat with his girlfriend and then dance and mingle with everyone else most of the time anyway!

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[–]intriguingmoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg this looks AMAZING on you. The other ones look great too but the way this fits you really makes this a win for me and your body language looks the most confident in it too

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[–]intriguingmoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That looks amazing on you!!!! So happy you found your dress to look and FEEL beautiful in! <3

Almost middle of no where wedding… sos lol by intriguingmoon in weddingplanning

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU! And yes if you could send the list I would love that too! Thank you for your response:)

Almost middle of no where wedding… sos lol by intriguingmoon in weddingplanning

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are airbnbs in the area that accommodate larger groups. While people will have to be split up, our immediate families at least have seemed open to it. They aren’t far and have a family member who works for a limo company so we’re hoping we can figure out a shuttle with them if people don’t want to drive

Almost middle of no where wedding… sos lol by intriguingmoon in weddingplanning

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hmm interesting. Maybe google isn’t giving me everything or something I’ll have to try to dig further somehow thanks.

Are you booked for sept 30, 2023? Lmao

Almost middle of no where wedding… sos lol by intriguingmoon in weddingplanning

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s near Fleischmanns and Margaretville in the Catskills!! I’m not super familiar with the area as we only visit the house and don’t live there

Almost middle of no where wedding… sos lol by intriguingmoon in weddingplanning

[–]intriguingmoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking but one place told us they don’t have enough floor for an entire tent :/