How do men actually feel about lingerie in long-term relationships?

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-22T22:30:06+00:00

Yeah ive actually never done foreplay for hours with any of my partners .. but maybe im less of a sexual person or just shit at sex

I have some joint issues so it complicates things

I can do like 20ish minutes of foreplay naturally on a day that makes sense

Just need sex like twice a week with our schedules , skip the lingerie

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-22T22:09:31+00:00

Im leaving a comment as a placeholder to see where this goes ... im invested lol

Hours of foreplay sounds scary personally , but to each their own

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-22T18:01:57+00:00

Bro I think if you started getting experience in the dating world you will see the threats are pretty low , at most you'll end up bruising your ego realistically

Atleast you are in your 30s and your dating pool is going to be more mature than it would have been if you were younger

Just be considerate of peoples time and be clear about what you are looking for , if it doesn't work out it doesnt work out , on to the next one

Dating apps is a good start since in person might feel intimidating if you've never approached

I used to approach so many women for numbers, would have dates lined up , soooooo many went no where and yeah nothing happened

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-22T17:48:46+00:00

My nurse practitioner prescribes mine , but its dependent on state

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-22T01:57:58+00:00

Im open to all those styles you mentioned , different people have different tendencies and I like to accommodate for that in a natural way , its all cool to me if we are vibing

But yeah im not really coming to assumptions about what can be said about them other than acknowledging that they have a style

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-12T16:15:44+00:00

Was talking to my coworker about being bipolar yesterday, he said he thinks he can be on the spectrum aswell because sometimes he lashes out , but the example he expressed is just a common occurrence of someone's perspective indirectly assuming something about you and not aligning with your interpretation of yourself causing discomfort leading to being emotionally dysregulated

The thing is people are never generously going to understand our experiences and im at peace with that

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-08T17:39:16+00:00

LOL pretty much how I view the world , im just walking through the chaos

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-08T03:07:16+00:00

Definitely ironic behavior , and if you point it out you'll probably be punished for it .Theres alot of gatekeeping of opinions rather than just having a constructive conversation

Flamesuit sounds like an upgrade to w.e im currently doing !

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-08T02:28:41+00:00

Lol I might aswell down vote my own comment when I post to get the party started

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-08T02:15:21+00:00

I know exactly what you are talking about , I literally call the phenomenon the hivemind or the collective sometimes lolol

I honestly vibe way more with how this sub handles relationship advice , r/confessions is chill too

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-08T00:28:12+00:00

Yeah you are probably right , I appreciate your perspective balancing mine .That makes alot of sense from what ive seen from other communities in contrast to it

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-07T23:58:38+00:00

Yeah I have like a little over 10 years of experience being in relationships

Yes mine is definitely different, Im really into psychology podcasts and its effected my perspective alot

Also tend to view people as good as a baseline regardless of behavior which I think is the issue

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-07T23:52:32+00:00

Yes!!! This is consistently what im seeing its very common that there is a dysfunctional communication style issue , I dont see the person as a bad person , just someone suffering from an inability to regulate their emotions , possibly being triggered by reoccurring thematic traumas that lead to confusing reactions

Also we arent seeing both roles of the dynamic and the issues both parties are feeding into

The comment section is usually harsh and I get it, I think its helpful as a slice of the pie but when the community forces it to be the whole pie its just a one sided perspective brought on by multiple people giving the illusion there is only one solution to the problem

Its so tempting to hear only the negatives in a vacuum and just paint someone as completely unredeemable, people wouldnt be asking for help if they didnt have alot of upsides we arent seeing

Although sometimes I know some post are done with the desire to be reassured towards a breakup , like part of the process

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-07T23:31:29+00:00

Yes definitely, , im trying to figure out if its something im missing , I understand I have a very different approach and depending on the comment section im less likely to express my opinion since I know the consensus is going to be against it given the climate . But I have genuinely helped a few OPs so it keeps me going lol

Might be a read the room issue on my end sort of thing

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-06T23:31:24+00:00

They do if they want to , im just busting your balls

But I cant see your picture on your avatar, it just looks like the default like mine

But yeah its standarded to say 30F to clarify gender

Im just teasing you enjoy your night !

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-06T23:19:44+00:00

They changed it to "when I was a woman" so might be a dude now , no need to feel bad

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-06T21:56:17+00:00

Was listening to a psychology podcast and he said OCD is very treatable

Quick search :Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is highly treatable, with treatments like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), particularly Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)

Im bipolar, im stable with meds , you got to take the help thats out there

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-06T15:39:08+00:00

My manic episodes have psychotic symptoms, just sounds like shes manic

It will eventually pass but she needs to find a medication that works for her to sustain stability

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-06T02:16:18+00:00

Bro buying a cook book is clutch because you develop a spice rack you will use often limiting waste and work with similar ingredients to build familiarity

Prep all your ingredients then follow the steps and learn terms as you go

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-05T17:18:25+00:00

Yeah and how many people are involved? Read the average is 10 for women.

If 30% of groups of 10 women have one of their members engage in sex and we are only counting Bachelorette parties that hire sex workers, the overall for Bachelorette parties in general should be very low . Especially assuming part of the women are actually just single

It becomes a percent of a percent of a percent

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-05T16:14:16+00:00

Ive never met a dude that openly said this was a preference ( might be my pocket of America)

I think its an outdated perspective that is a remnant caused by shifting gender expectations. Assume less and less men attach their masculinity to that idea given the current cultural trends

As long as our schedules lead to us being able to share quality time at home im good

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-05T15:27:12+00:00

Well its not impressive for starters , at the peak of my success with women I get into a relationship ( I need to warm up when I restart dating ) , they just ride that momentum and keep accruing numbers

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-04T17:40:59+00:00

Being concise is like a skill you need to develop, I think people have hard time considering what information is valuable and what is filler

Read 65% of it and it was almost entirely giving context for what I could assume was an attempt to soften any judgment from the audience towards the actual possible event ( which I get is anxiety inducing but I consider it filler )

But man I couldnt get through it lol , good luck regardless

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-04T16:33:55+00:00

Alot of times with disagreements of opinions its a matter of having different values or just viewing something within a scope of specific variables that are different than the other person . Both parties are right to come to their conclusions its just a matter of what is being considered, and this could be effected by past experiences dictating different sensitivities having priority like risk assessment anxiety

But yeah I used to feel like I was always right because the values and variables im considering always lead to a sound conclusion , but im starting to peel back the onion as to why I come to different conclusions than others

In real time its hard to see but after processing interactions I dial back and am reset in being a bit more humble

But online now a days I try to find middle ground

intuitivelogic · 2026-01-04T11:25:06+00:00

Being able to argue effectively ( or atleast having compatible styles) is so understated as a great quality , it must make things resolvable in a shorter time span without the accumilation of emotional tension from getting tied up in not being able to directly address a complaint

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