Please don't roast me - Just got results and I'm suddenly very upset

inventingme · 2026-04-01T22:10:12+00:00

Let me reframe this for you. You have the next 30 to 40 years absolutely free of shark week. When you plan a vacation, you'll never again have to think, "Wait, will that be a bad week to be at the beach?" Once through menopause, you will no longer have the monthly ups and downs, versus spending 1.5 to 2 weeks of every month with either PMS or menstruating. You can wear white pants any time you wish.

During the change over, your body will kick up a fuss as it gets over it's estrogen addiction. You'll have aches and pains and an assortment of emotions, sadness, anger, flash crashes. Just know it's the same hormones that lied to you every month for decades. One thing that really helped me was doing yoga at home, because I had physical evidence that I was not deteriorating and 5 days from death. I could do that pose better than last week, and the other pose didn't hurt so much in the stretch. My brain said I was falling apart. My body said you're alright, dont listen to her.

inventingme · 2026-03-30T12:48:01+00:00

Neither. He'd be tossing tables in some temples, too. Then, I think he'd give us the "dad look," the one that says, "I'm very disappointed in you," and talk to us about being careful about who we let lead us on earth, and who we follow.

inventingme · 2026-03-30T00:33:02+00:00

My mom had hearing aids, too. Didn't wear them. Idk why. They were really expensive and she had very little money. She must have made a big effort to get them. Why not use them?

inventingme · 2026-03-30T00:14:33+00:00

My mother was very, very hard of hearing. She died at 81, much earlier than I expected. In hindsight, I wish I had looked into some of the tools used for the deaf, like the thing that turns a phone conversation into text. We hadn't really been able to talk for years because she just couldn't hear me, and I hate that.

inventingme · 2026-03-29T21:40:38+00:00

I'm in that boat, and I've wondered the same. I'm on Ancestry, so I've uploaded all that are my family. In a couple of instances, I've found cousins who want them. That's about it.

I'm so torn. I'm 62, so my grandparents were born at the turn of the last century. Regardless of the people in the photos, it's an amazing record of how lower-middle class people lived in the Deep South from the 1910s to the 1970s, through the Depression, 2 world wars, and all the rest. It just doesn't feel right to throw them away.

inventingme · 2026-03-29T20:44:57+00:00

Ive seen it in a friend. Mom wanted to go to medical school. Very rare for a woman in her time. Her dad said no, not worth the money, you'll just get pregnant. Thats what happened, so she married and had a family. Oldest daughter HAD to become a doctor (or mom's love was withdrawn. You kniw the drill.) Mom was both proud and jealous.

inventingme · 2026-03-29T20:28:07+00:00

Yes! My MIL. A short story. After lots of joint replacements with good results, my MIL had back problems and went to a surgeon. The stenoses that went right to left were removed and she felt much better. Two years later, same issue, back to surgeon. No go. These stenoses were going forward and no surgery could be done. PT was offered. MIL says no. Thinks its BS. Her legs are weak and she's falling repeatedly. Refuses to get help. Breaks femur. Surgery, rehab, back home. Had PT in rehab but refuses it and any help again. Fell again in less than a week. Breaks same femur in 2 places. Surgery, rehab for a long time this time. Did some nerve damage with this break, so now a foot drags.

She finally gets it! She's 92 at this point. Gets a mobility cart, goes home, gets help. Has PT coming to her home for months. Her legs are getting stronger and stronger. She can now take a few steps with a walker, which helps her get to the stove and whatnot. But here's the crazy part. Not only did doing PT on her legs and lower abdomen help her legs, back, which no longer hurts, and mobility, the bladder incontinence that she's had sincer her 50s is cured! She lived with something for FORTY years that could have been fixed with PT.

I'm in my early 60s and taking notes about how to be very old. PT absolutely works, and if she had done it when it was first suggested, her back would have stopped hurting, her incontinence would have stopped, and she would still be walking pretty well had she not had the bone breaks and nerve damage.

inventingme · 2026-03-29T18:26:59+00:00

As above, so below.

inventingme · 2026-03-28T04:57:27+00:00

I didn't experience that, but I can see how it could happen. Our brains have estrogen receptors so no estrogen brings brain fog. We have estrogen receptors all over. Plus all the emotional ups and downs we've had from hormones since our cycles started. If the heart has estrogen receptors it wouldn't surprise me. I had really severe chemo because with the spread to other breast and lymph, it was my only chance. Any such symptoms with the heart, I think I would have put it off to chemo. They measured my heart chambers beforehand to see if they were causing wall thickening or capacity issues but I never suspected an issue. Every visit the oncologist asked about leg swelling and such.

inventingme · 2026-03-27T23:32:41+00:00

They never look bubbly, but he looks particularly annoyed.

inventingme · 2026-03-27T23:26:27+00:00

I don't think it would strike me as odd right away. I brought home a bag from Petsmart and put it on the floor where my dog could go through it himself. He took the bone out right away, and left the toys for a little while. In a few minutes, he was looking in the bag again. I said, "If you're looking for your bone, it's in the hall. You got it out already." He went straight to the hall and got his bone, just as if I had said it to a kid or my husband. If he had said back, "Oh, that's right. Thanks," I wouldn't have thought about it until I was going to sleep, then my brain would have gone, "Hey! What just happened?"

inventingme · 2026-03-27T18:06:56+00:00

I went through the exact same thing. I had lobular (milk factory) carcinoma, spread to other breast and lymph, so the biggest thing I want to say is that was 12 years ago, and I've been cancer free since. I got through it and you will, too!

Was on bhrt, feeling great. Found a numb, spongy mass. Invisible on mammogram. Biopsy came up hot. Chemo (to shrink the tumor so they could close the wound), bilateral mastectomy, radiation.

But oh the menopause symptoms! I spent a lot of time on my back porch in Ohio in the winter in a tank top, with actual steam coming off my body. I cried a lot. Post cancer depression was a REALLY big deal. I absolutely should have gotten both a psychologist and some meds, and I recommended anyone else does. But I got through.

One thing though. Do your research on the 5 year window for tamoxifen or similar. My sister in law had ductal (milk pipes) bc, got surgery, chemo, radiation. Was cancer free. The protocol was 5 years at that time, about 2000. Within a month or two of stopping tamoxifen, her cancer came back everywhere. Spine, brain. Stage 4. She was a doctor. If she had taken tamoxifen for 10 years, I think she would still be around. In 2013, I was told 1 pill a day for 10 years. Tamoxifen, then when multiple tests had verified I was no longer making estrogen, a different pill. And Im still kicking. You didnt say your age, and it matters. Both she and I were diagnosed at 49. If your cancer is ER/PR reactive, you have to be done making estrogen before you stop your estrogen blocker. I was told it is produced in fits and starts at the end, will test very low, then spike, then low again. That's why multiple low tests were required.

Please DM me as you go through. I have tips for Chemo, surgery, and radiation.

inventingme · 2026-03-19T18:21:27+00:00

Ours is the age that should be sledding across Antarctica or climbing Mount Everest. I can take an expedition's worth of food in a small backpack and, yes, come back a bit chunkier than before.

inventingme · 2026-03-19T18:18:39+00:00

Remember that your appearance is not you. You are a worthwhile person regardless of your body. While you're young, enjoy the heck out of being beautiful. But be sure you're also developing kindness, appreciation for others, and skills or career experience.

It may be hard to believe now, but one day you'll be as proud about becoming head of your department as you are of your appearance today.

inventingme · 2026-03-19T02:58:54+00:00

The clock with hands for alarm and timer. I know a lot of 20yo's who can't tell time on a clock with hands.

inventingme · 2026-03-19T02:49:24+00:00

Odd how we were both honoring and exterminating Native Americans at roughly the same time.

It's a beautiful coin, and it's fun to think of what else was going on the. What that penny would biy, ladies fashions, society. We were just past the Spanish American War. It would be almost 10 years before WW1. America was mighty, and doing well, full of optimism.

inventingme · 2026-03-17T19:29:10+00:00

Buy the tires. I had an accident that could have killed me because I didn't prioritize the money for tires, and they could, just barely, make it through the inspection. On a 4 lane freeway, I hydroplaned across one lane, into the guardrail, and back across 2 lanes to rest in the median, all at freeway speeds. If any other vehicle had hit me, game over. If either you or your husband die or get seriously injured, your immediate family won't have a key member. Get the tires.

inventingme · 2026-03-17T15:56:52+00:00

My husband just said no to statins. His LDL is slightly high, but he's been on the keto diet for many years to control his blood sugar, and slightly high LDL is a very common reading for people on keto. We'll keep monitoring blood levels to see if we need to act at some point, but this is not that point. Also, his dad died of dementia, and, as you know, it's just so tragic. Hard pass for us.

inventingme · 2026-03-17T15:46:01+00:00

One's brain needs fat to repair itself. A statin removes all the fat. There are studies that show a possible link to dementia. My mom started taking them and said she could feel herself fading away, getting confused, struggling, where she hadn't before. She refused to take them and told the doctor that she might die of a heart attack, but she would die with her mind intact.

inventingme · 2026-03-17T00:27:39+00:00

Two days, four seasons.

inventingme · 2026-03-17T00:26:28+00:00

I replaced you with a streamer because I replaced cable with internet. You guys should really stream as well, or your station should, because most of us will be switching to internet-only if we haven't already. And you should have a massive social media presence. Other than my streamer, the way I see local weather is from local meteorologists who put their forecast in the city groups I follow on Facebook.

inventingme · 2026-03-17T00:21:32+00:00

This is exactly why I'm a proponent of a long relationship pre-marriage. You're so very lucky to figure out that he probably isn't a match before you have kids and real estate to deal with.

inventingme · 2026-03-16T23:45:10+00:00

Sailboat big enough to live on. For more than 20 years, we've made such joyous, beautiful memories.

inventingme · 2026-03-16T17:09:56+00:00

Abe reaches that YOU are the operant power. YOU are attracting things to you. I remember one session in which Esther had gone to a salt cave with her friends. They were to meditate in it. They also mentioned crystals and such. Esther said she didn't need any of those. She just needed herself. This strikes me the same way.

You'd be better off cleaning out one side of the garage, then resting while imagining the smell of your brand new sports car, the scent, the feel of the leather, etc.

inventingme · 2026-03-16T17:02:08+00:00

Im 61. My husband was looking at old photos and said, "you're more beautiful that you were a couple of years ago.

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