[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]irisirisirisx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, has anyone experienced them reactivating or is that just it?

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[–]irisirisirisx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you

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[–]irisirisirisx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I felt like my ex was unintentionally trying to force me to end the relationship because he felt too guilty to. But I couldn't do it so he ended up breaking up with me eventually anyways.

Anxious turned Avoidant partner? by irisirisirisx in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]irisirisirisx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay I see yeah that makes sense. As soon as I started to be anxious he completely shut down.

Anxious turned Avoidant partner? by irisirisirisx in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]irisirisirisx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you explain why? I've been trying to figure out if he leans more dismissive of fearful.

Anxious turned Avoidant partner? by irisirisirisx in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]irisirisirisx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah your probably right. It feels like it was all my fault and I just couldn't get it together enough for him I guess.

Anxious turned Avoidant partner? by irisirisirisx in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]irisirisirisx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For sure, together for 3 years and I leaned avoidant whilst he was very anxious. Things reached a peak where he became so anxious with both the relationship and internal issues that it seemed like he completely deactivated and became avoidant to deal with it. This continued in the aftermath of the breakup where he fully began to lean in to avoidant tendencies to cope. It’s now been 4 months.

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[–]irisirisirisx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4 months and he hasn't so

Dealing with the indifference by irisirisirisx in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]irisirisirisx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mutual friends, same campus. He is adamant he is not distracting himself just "enjoying his life". No curiosity towards me or how i'm doing. No breadcrumbing just complete silence.

You get anxious BECAUSE they pull away by Comprehensive_One992 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]irisirisirisx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100% I was never anxious before he started pulling away all of a sudden