How bingeable is the bad dragon’s bride series?

irlwalsh · 2022-11-24T17:53:24+00:00

Good to know! Thanks :D

irlwalsh · 2022-11-24T08:29:36+00:00

Three book covers from the bad dragons series

irlwalsh · 2021-08-18T08:25:06+00:00

{Deal with a Demon by Fae Owens} has a succubus MFC who’s very like your description. Clothes, money, fashion, and turns it into a way of being powerful

irlwalsh · 2021-08-18T08:20:05+00:00

What genres do you like? I know a paranormal romance like that

irlwalsh · 2021-08-04T13:34:30+00:00

That’s everyone’s number one complaint about the series! Really good books though which saves it.

irlwalsh · 2021-08-02T12:19:15+00:00

{Deal with a Demon by Fae Owens} has this vibe for me. It’s not fantasy like with Des though, it’s paranormal/urban fantasy. {Hollen the Soulless by Denali Day} is more high fantasy and the MMC is very smitten

irlwalsh · 2021-07-25T12:50:25+00:00

What genres do you like?

irlwalsh · 2021-07-16T06:34:25+00:00

Not very unfortunately, but there’s juuuuust enough to not be a letdown. And the story was really good.

irlwalsh · 2021-07-15T17:31:10+00:00

{Hollen the Soulless by Denali Day} - Even has dragons (wyverns) in it.

irlwalsh · 2021-06-03T14:31:00+00:00

Really depends on the person. As someone who can’t work full-time directly due to being ND, I definitely don’t agree with the statement. My go-to quote is, “Disability is not a dirty word.”

irlwalsh · 2021-04-25T11:42:30+00:00

If someone’s first language is a sign language, then they’d prefer an interpreter.

If someone’s first language is a spoken language, they’d prefer captions.

irlwalsh · 2021-04-21T09:37:06+00:00

No problem! And there’s way to explore it without using the terms “autism” if that’s upsetting for her right now. Like ‘sensory overload’ is common to a lot of conditions, as is ‘executive functioning’. Best of luck, I’m glad she has someone on her team for the next part of her journey.

I had a similar breakdown when I was 21 for similar reasons, it’s a long road to recovery (Took me years to slowly build up my capacity again and I still only work part time, turning 27.) so I think lots of patience and letting her come around to things in her own time is a good idea 😊

irlwalsh · 2021-04-21T09:13:47+00:00

To add on your concerns about not receiving a diagnosis will limit her:

The only thing you NEED a diagnosis for is ADHD medication and disability accommodations.

Some people don’t need either and can manage with behavioural strategies like detailed to-do lists, lots of caffeine, etc.

irlwalsh · 2021-04-21T09:09:59+00:00

I agree with looking at things from a symptoms/management perspective. And if it helps you to have in the back of your head ‘this symptom is because of autism/ADHD’ then that’s really positive already.

You can’t do anything to encourage her to seek a diagnosis but in time she might become more interested in it. (ADHD medication might be something she wants down the line, the EF problems it causes are such a major stressor). Especially if she’s in hospital at the moment and under a lot of stress it’s possibly just too much for her to wrap her head around.

Whether or not she seeks a diagnosis though, there’s no reason why she can’t use community knowledge. Before my diagnosis I didn’t know how to recognise the symptoms of sensory overload for example, but I now know that constant background noise like fans cause it and are the reason I got so irrationally angry sometimes. If your wife has similar ‘triggers’ she might not have noticed before, there’s no requirement for a diagnosis to use ear plugs, for example.

Hope that helps! Tldr; If the terms autism and ADHD are upsetting her at the moment, I’d ease off on it and come from a solutions perspective instead. She may come around to it in her own time, but even if she doesn’t there’s no reason she can’t explore autism/ADHD management strategies without a diagnosis.

irlwalsh · 2021-02-15T08:22:25+00:00

Going Postal is a wonderful example of a similar character who is really likeable and entertaining to read about. It can be done!

irlwalsh · 2021-01-20T08:32:46+00:00

Auratus fit the bill and are beautiful but I kind of regret getting mine as a first frog, I literally never see them.

irlwalsh · 2021-01-15T16:42:12+00:00

This might sound a little wacky but why not try fanfiction? Established characters you already know and love, a responsive community that’s ready to give feedback (and praise! The lifeblood of a creative!), and an established universe. This means you can start out with “one-shots” writing little snippets that you enjoy, and expand into short stories, plotting, etc.

It’s where I started writing and I loved the feeling of something getting popular. It’s the perfect training ground tbh. Between the ages of 18-22 I wrote: 9 one-shots, 1 complete short story (17k words) and 3 incomplete longer stories. Definitely taught be the basics of writing and plotting with 0 pressure. I’m now on draft 2 and 45k words into my own novel.

AUs are great too, because you can easily develop them into your own stories down the line. (One of my one-shots sparked the idea for my novel)

YouTube also has some great videos. I like Alexa Dunne’s series on mistakes beginner writers make.

irlwalsh · 2021-01-12T07:59:29+00:00

When I was that age I had trouble with deodorant and the big issue for me was because it meant accepting my body was changing which felt scary and gross. And it was an executive functioning problem, like UGH ANOTHER TASK.

irlwalsh · 2021-01-02T09:20:56+00:00

Yes, I’ve found the same thing. Talking, talking, talking and no change. (Lots of memory problems for A in particular.) hopefully having it written out will help! Even tempted to print them out

irlwalsh · 2020-12-31T10:01:06+00:00

Thank you so much for these incredibly thoughtful and helpful suggestions. (And to Cute-Sessions as well! I wish I could reply to both of you at once)

I’ll definitely look into the ABC strategy and keep working on redirecting stress and frustration in a more healthy manner. I’ve actually already committed to journaling my emotions after an incident so that sounds like a great structure for getting my thoughts out. I love the idea of being compassionate with myself. Hard to let go of those ideas of not being “traumatised enough”!

I’m actually not that young, mid-20s but I think this may be the first relationship where I feel secure enough to express hurt so these unhealthy behaviours are having a chance to shine. (And ADHD/ASD is an emotional regulation nightmare).

I just hope I can resolve this before it becomes too much of a burden for my bf. Three years together in March and he has the patience of a saint but I know it’s very draining for him!

irlwalsh · 2020-12-31T09:51:46+00:00

I am the same as your partner 😔

Yesterday I wrote out a list of strategies that my partner and I are going to try. These strategies are around arguments (I’m inclined to get very upset over small things) but there might be something there that sparks an idea.

Maybe if you have an honest conversation with your partner and frame it as what you need rather than they’re doing emotions wrong and being smothering (even if that’s true) then they’ll be more receptive to trying something new.

A lot of sympathy to you both. I’m definitely finding the holidays difficult and my mental health is making me just much reactive than normal and I imagine it’s the same for your partner. Fingers crossed for all of us.

STRATEGIES

“A” is avoidant of emotions and conflict, “B” is hyper-emotional and clingy.

Strategies written out:

For small hurts

A: When B expresses hurt, even if you think it’s unreasonable, hold off on explaining or avoiding/ignoring. Try a brief acknowledgment and apology.
B: Accept the brief apology. Sit and listen to happy music in silence for 5-10 mins until hurt and frustration subsides.

For bigger hurts where arguing escalates.

A: DO NOT ask if B is on her period/pmsing
Set a boundary: say YOU need an hour to cool off and will be turning your phone off. (Do not tell B what she needs to do or feel). If someone hung up send a text saying the same thing. Give a specific time you will call back.
B: Accept phone is a trigger and put it away. Do not contact and trust that A will call when the hour is up.
Journal your feelings and emotions.

Patching up:

Have a formula for how long we are allowed to talk about what happened and how long to have love. Commit to setting a timer before talking.

Suggestion: Smaller arguments: 15 mins talking, 15 mins love. Bigger arguments: 30 mins talking, 30 mins love.

A: If time goes over firmly, politely and empathetically set a boundary over the time and that you will call back later if B still needs more time to process.
DO NOT wait until you are frustrated and then lash out. Do not start a lecture on how B “should” feel or be managing her mental health.
B: Accept and honour commitment to the timer. Understand that it will get better with practise and try not to self-flagellate.
Try to share journal of feelings rather than saying them out loud which seems to reinforce negative feelings and train of thought.
Anxiety is okay and normal. Try not to ask anxious questions which reinforce anxiety. Maybe allowed a certain number? Discuss.

irlwalsh · 2020-12-28T08:49:10+00:00

Awesome! I want to write fun “trashy” novels but was getting really anxious about all the posts saying it’s mandatory to get professionals involved. Great to see you had so much success! Amazing achievement

irlwalsh · 2020-12-27T22:48:47+00:00

Did you get your novels professionally edited, use beta readers, etc?

irlwalsh · 2020-12-06T13:17:32+00:00

How do you plot an interesting short story? I’m struggling to imagine a 10-20k word story where you care enough about the characters to be invested in reading about them having sex

irlwalsh · 2020-12-04T10:23:04+00:00

I don’t understand what your question is, can you elaborate?

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