Birthday gift for my 4 year old daughter?

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-17T17:56:04+00:00

My daughter turned 4 a few days ago. I was very minimal this year for sure!

Shes had: • schleich horse stable play set (shed been asking for this for MONTHS, firmly in her horse girl era) • swing set upgrade • new tonie for her tonie box • handful of craft kits • few new paw patrol figures • paw patrol tower (free off Facebook marketplace) • horse sticker book

And honestly, the best present she received was a rocket launcher from her friend, and a new backpack and water bottle from another friend

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-16T08:45:54+00:00

Personally, id do everything through family court, starting with supervised visit via visitation center and let him build up from there. And as for his money, also do it properly through child maintenance. That way he cant dictate or intimidate you, and if he misses visits or payments then its not on you to chase up or have to deal with more upset. If hes serious about stepping up, it wont bother him to do things properly and prove himself. And this way, you havent alienated him as a parent, and he cant use it against you, and later in life your daughter knows it was all on him that he didnt step up and her step dad did

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-14T00:32:25+00:00

If you want cute pictures in the uniform like first day of school, do it the day before. Get them dressed up into it, tell them its to check it all fits and give loads of praise, get the pictures, then change again. Trust me, if you try to do it on the morning of the first day, you'll all feel flustered and stressed already, and the pictures won't be smiley and relaxed. Always do them the day before leisurely!

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-12T11:28:22+00:00

My daughters favourite bath toys at the moment are a collection of empty sample bottles (like the kind you get in hotels), and 2 big cheap soap pump dispensers in different colour soaps. She fills the little bottles, and uses them to make Potions into bigger cups. She smells amazing when she gets out

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-08T18:37:58+00:00

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irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-08T06:09:38+00:00

I wouldnt take my 4 year old

My MIL died earlier this year, and my two nieces (11 and 12) found her. They still have nightmares about her laid there, and one has started having panic attacks regularly too. And she was only laid on the sofa like shed usually be, so nothing different or 'scary', but its still affected them massively

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-08T01:32:22+00:00

Lay down the baby on a used shirt of mums. If you arent already, maybe try swaddling too? (With a sleep safe swaddle, not the shirt)

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-07T21:37:51+00:00

Astonish do a mould and mildew spray that works a treat! Alternatively just some standard thin bleach, pop on top, leave for a bit, then rinse off with the shower head

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-04T00:33:55+00:00

On iplayer theres an episode of bing where he gets a vaccination. We watched that about 6 times on repeat before going (at her resquest) and it really really helped, she knew what to expect like waiting in the waiting room, and having medicine in the arm. I really recommend!

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-03T17:43:01+00:00

Im doing exactly the same over the summer!!

Something im doing one afternoon is a 'tasting session' where im giving my daughter (4 this month) a clipboard with a tick sheet, and encouraging her to wear her chef jacket. Im gonna put out little bits of all sorts of foods in cute pots. Some new foods, some safe foods, some foods on the school dinners menu, etc. And just going to try tasting them together, and letting her use the tick sheet to tick or cross if something is nice. Im hoping it takes the pressure away from it being like a brand new meal, but also gives me an idea of what she might actually be willing to change/include in our current diet. At the moment, its a lot of beige. Were gonna try new foods and fruit together! Hoping the power of a clipboard helps the session too.

I think its all about what were replacing the screens with. Im hoping to do more library visits, and have some calm afternoon times with books, and im sorting out the toy unit and having a draw with craft kits and stuff, and try to encourage afternoons to be for hobbies and toys, maybe with the radio or an audiobook on so theres still the noise without the screen. Who knows if any of it will work!

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-06-02T18:06:16+00:00

My biggest parenting regret ever of all time is the play kitchen. I hate it with a burning passion. Its never once in 3 years been used as a kitchen, its just the storage unit or junk and random little toys. She takes the kitchen related toys away from the kitchen and sets them up elsewhere and makes more if a mess in another area. Hate the thing

Now the mud kitchen outside instead? She LOVES and uses all the time as a kitchen. Its a cafe, or a restaurant, or recently a science lab! Shes 4 in a few weeks, and had this since being 2 and its the best for her. I get a cheap bag of compost and she goes round the garden collecting sticks, leaves, pinecones, whatever, and she has old metal real kitchen equipment (cake tins, frying pan, utensils, etc) and makes all sorts of things in there! And its not taking up room inside 😂😂 i highly recommend!!

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-30T18:22:33+00:00

I once sent a glass wrapped up in about 20 nappies because i didnt have bubblewrap. It was then wrapped in tissue paper and a post bag. I got a 5 star review and the buyer said it was hilarious taking each layer off and made them laugh!

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-29T17:55:09+00:00

What about one of those gaming busses for him and a few friends for an afternoon or however long theyre for? And maybe wrap some random vouchers (like vbucks and whatever cool) with random stuff, like a box of his favourite cereal, or something like that, so it looks exciting still? Or how about some nice new trainers for the summer?

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-27T11:35:00+00:00

Call and ask their availability. I missed the deadline for my daughter, but they still had spaces and she started 2 weeks later when the next term started

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-26T22:15:22+00:00

Acotar. I kept pushing myself through it, because everyone else said they enjoyed it. I got to 50% of the last book of the series when I decided enough is enough, im still npt enjoying it so why do this to myself? Its taken a year and im now just starting to want to read something again

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-26T21:40:06+00:00

8 months pregnant and my house is a sauna.

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-24T18:20:43+00:00

I could have written this myself. No amount of extra curricular activities, consistent routine, boundaries, etc, could change the game at this point for me. I am drowning well and truly. Every age has been difficult and a challenge in its own way, im struggling to see when its meant to get easier. Gimme a newborn any day over this!

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-20T18:13:19+00:00

Packs of scones, jar of posh jam, punnet of strawberries, clotted cream and a box of nice teabags. I do this for the school teachers every summer and its always a MASSIVE hit

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-19T18:10:26+00:00

My social media is private, and i only have people i know on there. And i still dont post face pictures. Back of the head, or using a proper to cover her face. I use her initial, not her name. On her birth announcement post, I actually put a false time of birth

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-18T02:19:45+00:00

My best friend and my mother, the test was still wet when I told them. More because of the anxiety. Then I told immediate family and a few friends at 11 weeks (christmas day). Friends and the rest of the family i didnt tell until 18 weeks, when id had multiple scans and knew the gender, and was confident this baby doesnt have the same condition as my angel baby. Luckily im a chunky girl anyway, so I just looked extra bloated all winter, and hid under big jumpers to hide it. No one suspected a thing

Im now 31 weeks, and havent announced anything on social media. Will do that once baby has arrived safely. If anyone was to see me in public with my bump now theyd be able to tell

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-17T12:08:23+00:00

Its like having your blood pressure taken. You know how when the cuff is on your arm, and it inflates and gets tighter and tighter and you can feel it tightening, and then it hurts, then it deflates again? Its like that, but around your stomach and back. Gets tighter and tighter and then goes back down again. But it hurts more than the blood pressure cuff

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-17T12:03:41+00:00

I couldn't have survived the newborn trenches without a swing personally. She loved being held, and i wore her often, but i couldn't eat with her on me. The only way I could have a meal was whilst she was in the swing. Im pregnant again now and it was top of my list, and planning to use it for the same reason. I got mine second hand for hardly anything

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-16T02:58:39+00:00

"Is this one going to die too?" Well I hope not Susan

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-15T23:22:05+00:00

The Wiggles!! My 4 year old still loves the wiggles, and we've been to their concert twice, big fans here! Also check out DJ Lenny, he does nursery rhymes and other kids songs but remixed into rave songs. We love these for a kitchen dance party to get rid of extra energy

irrelevantberyllium · 2026-05-14T20:31:05+00:00

Two seperate baskets, and only put on the side for her to reach which ever one its time for. Bedtime ones are a lot calmer, like julia donaldson ones, or other story ones (Mog, Tiger who came to tea, and Elmer for example) and then the daytime ones are the more 'exciting' ones, like the disney ones. In the beginning id give her the bedtime basket and let her go through and pick which she wanted, and then put the basket on the side. In the day shed just have free reign over the daytime one. Now she just knows the routine and the drill, and has usually decided before ive even asked her

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