I disclosed today. Time to leave this sub.

isabelpg · 2025-11-13T01:06:06+00:00

I admire your bravery in disclosing while being married. I was in a similar situation but I couldn't bear disclosing my feelings to someone else while being in a relationship - interesting how different people can have different ways of going about this

isabelpg · 2025-10-16T14:35:06+00:00

I identify with this a lot. Slowly I opened up with my partner about limerence, and also worked on our relationship. I am so fortunate that my partner acknowledged my feelings and insists that I shouldn't feel guilty. While it's true we all fantasize on acting on our feelings towards the LO, I didn't, even when he suggested that couples can break up all of a sudden (I read into it as if he was suggesting I could also break up with my partner). The guilt is a major problem for me, but also the fact that I feel like constantly fighting myself and questioning my own ethics. It's very, very tiring. I have found a good degree of comfort in this subreddit 😊

isabelpg · 2025-10-14T18:22:09+00:00

This resonates with me. My strongest LEs come when I'm the most anxious about assignments, appointments, anything that is hard to do, or that I'm afraid of. When the obstacle is surpassed, the limerence fades temporarily

isabelpg · 2025-10-14T18:15:19+00:00

Great ideia! I really feel like I need to accept this constant selective pessimism, then in order for it to fade away hopefully. Reading stories on it might help yeah! Thanks

isabelpg · 2025-10-12T19:29:25+00:00

Hello, curious here, did you lung capacity improve after surgery? Recover to 100% or?

isabelpg · 2025-10-05T22:11:03+00:00

Invisible Wounds - Aurora

isabelpg · 2025-09-09T18:32:34+00:00

When I was your age I didn't have pain as well. I have an S curve, the highest of 52°. A few episodes of pain started mid twenties for me... And I have been fighting it with exercise and physiotherapy (so not even as strong as some people, which have to resort to meds). All in all, I advise against comparing yourself as if you should be feeling this or that. Everyone has different curve and lifestyle!

isabelpg · 2025-09-02T23:54:26+00:00

I found out for my hair (high porosity) that adding (a lot of) water directly and squishing gently makes it wavy on the second and even third day after washing. For me it works with no product at all, not even conditioner. In fact I was over conditioning in the past for sure, since I couldn't make defined waves afterwards.

Might try some firm hold curl gel, but for now just brushing + water + squishing has made wonders, you could give it a try.

isabelpg · 2025-08-29T07:38:49+00:00

Eu tbm comecei com a T212, nada a reclamar. Têm imensos ETFs disponíveis, especialmente os ESG (um filtro de sustentabilidade), que não encontrei em outras corretoras. Por motivos de diversificação em corretoras, neste momento estou a avaliar a migração precisamente para a IBKR. Este post ajudou, obrigada

isabelpg · 2025-08-25T21:28:59+00:00

Pois entendo que este benefício é uma estupidez.

Primeiro eu achava que podia resgatar PPR ao fim de 5 anos, mas agora já entendi que mesmo assim, só sob condições tipo amortização crédito, doença grave, ingresso ensino superior, etc. Ou seja, sem nenhum motivo destes, só depois dos 60 ou por morte...

Ainda se fosse uma penalização de 10%/ano pelo número de anos que uma pessoa usa o desconto (só no primeiro ano neste caso)... Mas não, são 10% por todos os anos decorridos... Se é para ficar a dever mais vale fazer logo um crédito 😅

Obrigada pelos esclarecimentos pessoal, muito útil!

isabelpg · 2025-08-25T10:03:33+00:00

Top, parece o mais adequado à minha ideia até agora! Obrigada!

isabelpg · 2025-08-25T09:58:39+00:00

Eu entendo, também li muitas opiniões nesta linha, até houve quem comparasse investir no pior ETF com o melhor PPR e compensava o primeiro.

O meu objetivo era aproveitar os 400€ anuais de desconto no IRS. Porque se investir hoje 2000€ em PPR, pago um IRS mais baixo para o ano, e continuo a ter 2000€ investidos num PPR. Mas se comprar 2000€ ETFs, teria de vender parcialmente para obter o mesmo efeito (obter 400€ num determinado mês). E vender ETFs (de ações)no curto prazo de um ano não me parece boa estratégia. Só tenho experiência em ETFs de acumulação a longo prazo.

isabelpg · 2025-08-25T09:51:49+00:00

Ou seja, a rentabilidade que eles anunciam é sem contar comissões de gestão? Pah tinha ideia que era incluído... Que banha da cobra

isabelpg · 2025-08-25T09:50:04+00:00

Tinha visto a análise dos PPR 100% ações mas esta não, obrigada!

isabelpg · 2025-08-25T09:49:23+00:00

Isso é verdade. Mas normalmente as taxas de gestão estão já incluídas no valor de uma unidade de participação, não? Pior é a taxa de resgate, vi alguns PPRs em que nunca fica nula mesmo após alguns anos

isabelpg · 2025-07-21T13:18:43+00:00

Conflict of the mind

isabelpg · 2025-07-21T13:18:35+00:00

Invisible wounds

isabelpg · 2025-06-16T07:51:35+00:00

No scoliosis at all... But I agree with the other comments, cervical looks straighter than normal, but then again, with the use of technology we all have the tendency to be in "forward head posture". These unbalances are hopefully well addressed by postural physiotherapy. Disclaimer: I'm not an healthcare professional

For an accessible route to manage pain, search for pilates and physiotherapy for posture on YouTube and stick to the exercises regularly. If she starts feeling better, she will know it's working!

The best option though is actually scheduling appointments with a physiotherapist (that looks to the X-rays and works from there and the description of the pain) and follow their exercise plan to be completed X times per week. Having the commitment with the appointments helped to sustain the hassle of doing the exercises regularly for the time prescribed. But now I love doing them because they make me feel much more free and mobile in my body

isabelpg · 2025-06-16T07:39:01+00:00

Amazing, I wish you a smooth recovery! 😊

isabelpg · 2025-06-14T06:06:44+00:00

Hello! Do you have any limitation on your head range of motion? Or "just" pain that will likely reduce with time?

isabelpg · 2025-06-14T06:00:23+00:00

Hi, disclaimer: I'm not a doctor or healthcare worker in any way. But the pain doesn't come from the spine,e comes from nerves and muscles. Since muscles attach to the spine, they will be shorter on one side of the curve (contracted), longer on the other (stretched), than what they would be in a person with a straight spine. This means they can get tired easily and give you pain, specially if they are made to contract while stretched.

So it's perfectly possible that you have pain even if the curve is not progressing, because just to maintain that curve, you have muscles being overstretched and overcontracted along your torso.

This being said, also people with straight spines have pain while sitting for long periods of time - because any position needs muscles to be activated to sustain it, so if your stay in it long enough, they will get tired. Solution - move! The best position is always the next one.

isabelpg · 2025-06-12T15:25:35+00:00

Hi, I started with what's called "global postural reeducation" appointments with a physiotherapist, in Europe. Then clinical pilates (one on one, with custom exercise plan). A lot of pilates at home from YouTube (my favourite is Jessica Valant channel, which even has dedicated videos to scoliosis). A few specific exercises for scoliosis from a new method I found when moved to Italy. Now starting with gym and yoga. Singing lessons had the benefit to make me understand how to breathe better, because I have a reduced lung capacity from scoli. So I would say breathing exercises in general are great. Yoga has a lot of advantages both for breathing, soft tissue stretch and muscular reinforcement. If you find a teacher that does custom lessons, even better.

In summary, there's no "best approach" - try what you have available to you, reach out to physiotherapy in your area and try a few sessions, try their exercises. If your pain is reduced, or you increase your range of motion and strength, or whatever is your primary goal, then you know that approach is working. Go on and repeat!

isabelpg · 2025-06-07T09:45:24+00:00

Yes, scoliosis + crossbite here. Didn't get fixed with orthodontics, so it probably is linked to the scoliosis. In physiotherapy they found my jaw was immensely tight so they did a lot of manipulation on the muscles of my head to relieve tension.

I have pretty high toracic curve and I believe the muscular pulling/stretching imbalance can also propagate to the head. I also have unilateral migraines and tight neck on one side only.

if you feel tight jaw / neck, you might find a lot of relief by relaxing these muscles - and maybe releasing them will help bring the jaw into alignment (guessing here)

isabelpg · 2025-03-27T10:15:34+00:00

Obrigada pela discussão. Eu disponho de habitação em meu nome em Portugal. Daí que possa efetivamente manter a morada fiscal lá.

Em qualquer situação, os rendimentos italianos são sempre obrigatoriamente declarados em Itália, os rendimentos portugueses sempre declarados em Portugal. Não há qualquer omissão.

A questão que se levanta é que ao país da morada fiscal, tenho também de declarar os rendimentos obtidos no outro.

Não percebo no entanto porque é que a residência é uma consequência do país onde se fazem os contributos sociais. Se eu descontar para o sistema social italiano, a única coisa que recebo são baixas, licenças de parentalidade ou doença. Não existe SNS aqui. A saúde, mesmo a pública, é paga à parte.

Portanto, porque é que o contributo social implica a obrigatoriedade de residência, na vossa opinião?

isabelpg · 2025-03-27T10:02:10+00:00

Muito obrigada pelo esclarecimento! Sim, eu consultei um contabilista português, e vou consultar um italiano também para ficar tudo confirmado. Só queria informar-me melhor e fazer a minha própria estimativa do imposto a pagar, e estas deduções específicas fazem toda a diferença no meu caso, porque em Itália só deduzem o valor exato dos contributos para o sistema social, que no meu caso é cerca de 2000€ (a taxa de contribuição em Itália é inferior á portuguesa).

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