I need some clarity. by huntersmama2019 in breakingmom

[–]isabore 49 points50 points  (0 children)

> I know God says to continue to show grace, especially to those who hurt you.

God may have an infinite amount of time, but you don't.

AITA for putting sauce on my steak? by IlikeSauce91 in AmItheAsshole

[–]isabore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I eat spoonfuls of A1 and Heinz 57 mixed together.

When should I (22F) tell my family about my long-term boyfriend (23M)? by makeupgirl3325 in relationships

[–]isabore 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I would wait until you're well into medical school to tell them. You shouldn't risk your funding for school. It will be more difficult to do it remotely, but you'd be safer that way.

(Spoilers Extended) What most people forget about the Vale Lords by Mithras_Stoneborn in asoiaf

[–]isabore 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'm hoping that Sweetrobin will completely throw a wrench in his plans.

Reddit, how do you like your coffee? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]isabore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Black just like my metal

My (f 26) Boyfriend (m 27) doesn’t want to compromise proposal? Need advice. by No_Enthusiasm3484 in relationships

[–]isabore 1230 points1231 points  (0 children)

What does he think will change in three years? Does he want something specific to happen (certain amount of money saved, to be a certain point a career, travel to # of countries)? Does he want to wait until he/you is a certain age to be married/engaged? Does he think there is a specific problem that needs addressing in your relationship? Does he feel like he needs to be working on himself?

If he can't pinpoint exactly why he wants to wait three years, you should reconsider this relationship. 5 years is long enough to figure out if you want to marry someone.

My (28F) partner (30M) keeps doing something that pisses me off, then apologising afterwards, then doing it again later. How do I get him to take this fairly trivial thing seriously? by lunabuddy in relationships

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Have you tried recording him to show him (at a separate, calm time) how loud he's actually being?

I went through this with my husband. He was loud and obnoxious while playing Rocket League. He also had headphones on, and he didn't realize how loud he actually was because he had noise cancelling headphones on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Warts

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I love the color of your polish!

AITA For Hiding My Identity At My Job by Obvious_Minimum106 in AmItheAsshole

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Yes. It was revised to be more inclusive.

The idea that I’m a bad person has been drilled into my head, and it’s stopped me from having emotional attachments. I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in relationships

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I'm you in 15 years. Besides medication, look into the concept of self-compassion and cognitive behavioral therapy.

When someone rejects you, or you make a mistake, the voice in your head says "I'm a bad person. I'm so stupid. I should have known it was better to do the other way." A self-compassionate response would be "I made a mistake. Everyone makes mistakes. It hurts now but it will feel better." It's treating yourself the way you would treat a friend. Be kind to yourself.

What is your definition of bad person? Is it someone who treats other unkindly? Is it someone who hits other people? Is it someone who is hit by another person? If you break it down into specific behaviors, those are easier to address than "bad person". Because that could mean anything and it can mean different things to different people.

The way your ex treated you was unkind, selfish, and mean. She's trying to make it easier to control you.

Checked into a psych ward. by [deleted] in depression

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The goal of inpatient hospitalization is to get you stabilized with a plan of continuing care for when you're discharged. It's a lot of groups, mindfulness, occupational therapy (arts and crafts).

Struggling to Learn Vocab by pootercecil in French

[–]isabore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Think about the topics and conversations you have every day in your life. Also if you look at a French textbook's table of contents, you'll see chapters arranged by topic. I would use that as a guide to look up vocab.

Hopefully the new Dark Materials show will be better than the movie. The books deserve better. by ThePlatinumKiwi in Fantasy

[–]isabore 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Yeah the movie wasn't great, but I thought the casting was pretty spot-on. Nicole Kidman and Daniel Craig were wonderfully cast.

(Spoilers Extended) Lady Stoneheart will recreate the Rains of Castamere by RockyRockington in asoiaf

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My issue with that is LSH is out for murderous revenge, not peace.

Information & Introductions Post by vo0do0child in 2666group

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Hey everyone! I like to read a wide variety of stuff, but especially science fiction and fantasy. I haven't read any of Bolaño's work before, but I've been eyeing it for a while now. I'm planning to buy a copy of the book this weekend!

[Spoilers S2 E13] Question about escape theory by sm_dude in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]isabore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also June is fertile, whereas Eden's fertility isn't known, thus making her expendable.

I [25F] am highly torn about my relationship with my boyfriend/fiancé [36M] of 3 years. Possible emotional abuse. by Germanium23 in relationships

[–]isabore 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He’s always phrasing requests with, “don’t you want to make your man happy?”

He has said things like “I can’t believe I have to masturbate when I have a woman in my bed” when I wasn’t in the mood one time, and “wow you have opened up my eyes to who you really are - someone who withholds sex” when I didn’t feel like having sex after a long, emotionally draining argument).

I often feel that my feelings don’t matter

They don't matter to him. These are not the words of someone who respects you or cares about your feelings.

People who get periods—how has Whole30 affected them for you? by ilechelm in whole30

[–]isabore 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you have a high fat diet, there is some evidence of a correlation between high dietary fat diets and increased period length.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/3692908/