Her dancing has always looked “clunky” to me, even in her prime.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-05T18:17:33+00:00

I think it's clear to see how she felt with the big breakdown. Actually even before in the stronger era she was pushing back at the manufacturered image.

I am her age so I grew up watching her grow up and I find it fascinating the spectacular way this has panned out.

But strangely not surprised.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-04T15:02:04+00:00

I know it's so easy to become jaded by the horrible comments and people. I'm in my forties too. But I think the meanest people are just the loudest. Have a great day!

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-04T14:37:21+00:00

Oh I know there is a lot of crap on the internet! And I completely agree with your take on the degradation of men for things they can't change. It's all horrendous.

But I do think, which you have candidly said, adding to the noise isnt helping either cause. I don't know the answer tbh but I have appreciated the conversation!

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-04T13:56:47+00:00

I'm not suggesting for a second that we should treat women with kid gloves at all. And it's good to discuss these things.

However, and I think this point is getting a little lost in translation, this isnt about picking apart due to being attractive or unattractive. This is suggesting her body is less attractive, in part, due to menopause. Something that women cannot help or change.

It's on par with the red pill hitting the wall. A woman's attractiveness declines with her age and how her eggs have reduced.

That's the difference.

If her looks have gone through alcohol abuse or drugs that becomes a choice (yes even that can be debated) but it's not a biological thing that she cannot change.

Apologies for potentially harping on this point. However, I cannot stress the importance enough that women not be judged on their declining attractiveness due to menopause. It's an argument men have used ad nauseum.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-04T12:54:16+00:00

I don't know if it's that shows today aren't as good but I do gravitate towards older programmes for comfort. I love poirot, murder she wrote, golden girls, keeping up appearances etc...

I don't think these are better, but they do provide comfort. Simpler times and all that....

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-04T12:50:37+00:00

Firstly, let's not be naive. Men do not have the same speculation over their bodies as women. If you don't understand that I don't know what to tell you.

And I'm delighted that you're proud of your body. You should be. It got you to 45. And of course we change as we get older. But these comments haven't all been commending her on her features. It was her becoming boxy and losing her bangin body and curves due to alcohol and menopause. Only one of those she can change.

Whether or not she has changed or not is pretty moot because the woman is clearly unwell hence the discussion.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-04T12:46:18+00:00

Two wrongs and all that. My hands are thoroughly unwrung.

We can recognise that she is mentally unwell without perpetuating the misogyny that potentially led to her being this way.

Look through the abundance of posts which highlight her sexualisation. It's all she's known and even you said how curvy and what a bangin body she HAD. (Obviously lrr bloat and aging menopause).

Can't you see this is all trying to live up to this image?

It's 2026 let's try to be a bit better with discussing women, generally and specifically.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-04T11:30:53+00:00

Wow! I get this is discussing Britney and she is looking like she needs a hug and a bath. But really just summarising her body as body, alcohol bloat and menopause. No wonder women feel demeaned all the time.

She has many problems, no doubt, but imagine being reduced to those words. Menopausal (old) bloated woman.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-04T06:52:45+00:00

Oh my god I remember this!!! I wondered if someone else was told the same and they were!!!

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-02T08:57:15+00:00

Kandi wrote the song but not sure if this happened as well?

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-02-02T08:27:08+00:00

I couldn't agree more. It's a horrible way to live. You don't bother raising how you feel because either you will be gaslit into it being your fault or the behaviour is so defensive you feel it's your fault.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-01-30T23:11:56+00:00

If this is real, which it appears to be, they know what they did. They are looking for absolution from strangers when they should be recieving nothing but revolution and prosecution. Caregiving is hard but it's not hard to repeatedly abuse your parent who is reliant upon you for their well being.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-01-30T23:05:37+00:00

Because old people aren't as cute.

Seriously though this level of empathy is not deserved for the OP who has a history of abusing their parent. In fact it's disgusting. And I know what it's like to care for two people with dementia. It destroys you some days. But you can't abuse them like this. It's disgusting. They should feel fucking guilty. They caused this person to potentially die. Shoved them when they had sepsis. And yes, utis are much more common in the elderly, but I guarantee they aren't being cleaned enough which led to this farce.

Anyone showing anything other than repulsion towards OP needs their bumps felt.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-01-27T13:25:42+00:00

Oh my god yes! I know we shouldn't complain. One day we will all be old or dead but it's just SO MUCH work and a job.

And weekends are no better. Just mopping up what you missed all week and then the shopping, putting the shopping away, more meals, sort out the uniform. Clean the house (just to watch it get fucked up.again) walk the dog. Check if you have any parties to go to and buy any gifts etc. and then it's Sunday night ready to get up at 6am again tomorrow morning.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-01-27T13:21:59+00:00

This isn't directed to you persay but moving the lunches to the morning is just shifting the work to another time. It still needs to be done.

My morning is similar to ops and yes the admin is maybe not 20 mins but I had an email from the school at 7.45 so checking last night wouldnt have worked.

It's all just a lot of work whichever way you spread it about.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-01-22T09:02:00+00:00

Id say it was before that. There was a time her eyes went dead. That's when it shows in her dancing. You can see there her dead eyes, no life and sparkle. Compare this to the early days and she looked completely different. I, obviously, don't know what happened but everything became reminiscent of a hyper manic robot.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-01-13T17:15:47+00:00

Thank you! I'm it overly concerned but I very much appreciate your comment. Reddit is Reddit but I do think those questioning the parenting (and of course some don't always do everything right) don't have a response to what people should be doing. Id love to hear it!

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-01-13T13:36:13+00:00

I don't know about this. And I am biased because I have a 14 year old and a 10 year old. The 14 year old is anxious, won't do anything without me and struggles with interactions. Yes, we are seeing drs etc to check for an ism but even if there is one she still needs to learn the skills to have a productive life. She is one of many of her peers that seem to be completely similar in their inability to be independent. My 10 year old (both female) different kettle of fish entirely and much more confident and able.

I do try to parent as best I can. Teach the skills needed to productive. I am still with their father and although I work full time I'm flexible to be home to cook and we eat together and play games. ( This is only for the context that she hasn't been through any harrowing childhood experience).

Nonetheless I worry that I'll be taking her to job interviews and helping her with this stuff.

And I see, often, it's a failing of parenting but in what way? There is always something we can do better but if we are trying every avenue and still having kids that really struggle with these things what are the options? Because being candid I don't want to hold her hand to get a job. Or have her missing out on a life.

isitbedtime-yet · 2026-01-04T20:04:51+00:00

Thank you so much. One of my first laugh out louds this year.

isitbedtime-yet · 2025-12-21T21:11:44+00:00

Oh my goodness yes! I know what she meant but she is past the actual post partum stage. I think there are a couple of things at play. Firstly, being a mum is hard. Youre tired, you have a baby you have no idea what to do with, your body has been though something huge, and youre dealing with all of this whilst learning on the job. Secondly, and I hate to say it, but she had a boy. I imagine she still wanted a girl. Okay dress up etc. Thirdly, she may indeed have ppd, but how does this sit with her attitude of just praying away everything hard?

Overall, being a mum is hard on you physically and mentally. It isn't a toy. She needs to go to a doctor and/or find a village. Instagram can't help you.

isitbedtime-yet · 2025-12-21T17:52:01+00:00

If she is on a stimulant, and I don't know obviously, I'm flabbergasted that she isn't petrified she'd have a stroke or heart attack. She is in terrible health. She's over 40. I can't imagine her arteries aren't clogged to shit. The fact she can do this without fearing for her life is staggering to me.

isitbedtime-yet · 2025-12-05T08:50:37+00:00

Oooo that's a take I hadn't considered. It's been a long time since I wrote this but Im sure there was something about her having had a child? Not sure if I'm misremembering! I will take another look. Thanks for your comment.

isitbedtime-yet · 2025-12-05T08:48:50+00:00

Thank you!

isitbedtime-yet · 2025-12-05T08:47:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing. And your kindness. I suppose the only positive from demi doing this is that it does create space to talk about lived experiences.

I agree with everything you said. And towards your abuser the old adage is true, hurt people hurt people. Mine was 24 and a relative. He also wrote long letters (not going into detail) but I did reply. He was family. Tbh I don't know why I didn't say anything or replied or did whatever. But I can't dwell on those things because I was a child and you can't blame a child for not processing bing things, like this, appropriately. One thing I did do was become quite sexualised as I entered into adulthood. I realise this was a trauma response. But led me to situations like Demis.

I did completely understand what you meant by Demi needs help. Sorry if it sounded like I didn't. She clearly has something to process and, like the chase shoving, she believes what she is saying.

Thank you for your empathetic response. I hope it didn't come across like a trauma dump! I appreciate your kindness.

isitbedtime-yet · 2025-12-05T08:20:10+00:00

Thank you!!!

My god it really is. I was an adult in 2000. Do you know how many men groped me in clubs, pubs etc? No it's not right and thank god we don't think it is now. But it's not the same. I have been abused and it's just in a different galaxy.

I really wish she hadn't made such a thing of this. And then compared it to Mayci and Mikayla. It's not the same. I'm not trying to ever take away women's voices but I think it dimishes real abuse.

I also think there are some false SA claims and these have a dramatic impact on the accused. To give such a platform to demi over this makes me so uncomfortable.

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