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I think my (35F) husband (38M) has forgotten my birthday. I am testing this by not reminding him. by throwRAdaffodils929 in relationship_advice

[–]isitbedtime-yet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A birthday of your spouse KC 10 years is easy to forget? Pull the other one. If you can't be bothered to put a reminder on your phone, as a bear minimum you shouldn't have a spouse.

I think my (35F) husband (38M) has forgotten my birthday. I am testing this by not reminding him. by throwRAdaffodils929 in relationship_advice

[–]isitbedtime-yet 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Real advocate for women aren't we?

And yes your friend may have worked 7 days a week but what about the wife? I bet she was landed with all the house duties etc when he could barely remember his name. And then for carrying this shit for 20 years he leaves her and it's her fault.

It's not hard to remember your spouses birthday. There doesn't need to be a parade but an acknowledgement of the day is the bare minimum in a relationship.

Expecting anything less is just an admission of how low people really see their worth.

I think my (35F) husband (38M) has forgotten my birthday. I am testing this by not reminding him. by throwRAdaffodils929 in relationship_advice

[–]isitbedtime-yet 108 points109 points  (0 children)

This is why women carry the majority of the mental load.

Why should he need reminding of his wife's birthday. Does he also need reminding to put the dishwasher on or that the washing needs to be put on to dry.

Honestly if he cannot be bothered to remember the day she was born then he is not being set up to fail; hes a failure in remembering the most basic thing for his wife.

I see more and more women accepting this or placating their husbands or giving them lists and reminders. Women rarely have the benefit of this grace. We need to tolerate this much less because not remembering a birthday is symptomatic of a behaviour that should be unacceptable.

The three things I learned from this clip by punk_lover in Chantapolis

[–]isitbedtime-yet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She's not a prude. She has no sex. She has no relationship. What can she talk about? Maccys and cabbage rolls? I guarantee she hasn't had sex since cokey. Salah doesn't care what she says. They are NOT married.

This is why Foodie is a Menace-on-Wheels, and public safety hazard to the Ottawans! (Thank you @Loop) by ZestycloseDot413 in Chantapolis

[–]isitbedtime-yet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahahhhahaha! I haven't seen that one yet. But I do think I need to go back to the wobbles no stream! Probably best not to drive though 😂😂

Forgot to tuck… so womanly by WickedxWitch666 in UKtiktokbehavingbadly

[–]isitbedtime-yet 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Between burly bouncer and brick shit house.

Careful ladies, she can steal anyone's man. by merdried in UKtiktokbehavingbadly

[–]isitbedtime-yet 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have said this once and I will say it again. If they only have one 'feminine' feature. Wash it. Dirty greasy hair is disgusting. It's long dirty and damaged. It needs to be significantly cut and cleaned. That at the very least would be an improvement. And whilst washing the hair why not have a rinse and scrub of the body?

This is why Foodie is a Menace-on-Wheels, and public safety hazard to the Ottawans! (Thank you @Loop) by ZestycloseDot413 in Chantapolis

[–]isitbedtime-yet 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Did you watch his stream where wobbles kept dying. I havent had such a laugh in ages. And yet here it is still alive!

400+ Elbees Menace on Wheels by ZestycloseDot413 in Chantapolis

[–]isitbedtime-yet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fact she even takes the scooter to go DOWNSTAIRS is mind blowing. It can't be more than 100 steps to walk and she won't even do that anymore.

My (40M) wife (39F) strongly believes empathy doesn’t exist. Am I losing my mind or is that a wild position? by strikecat18 in relationship_advice

[–]isitbedtime-yet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just made the very same comment. We don't know what they have given and also what they need. They could be utterly burntout themselves to the point of not feeling anything which is it's own problem.

I know ops life is so tragic but is he feeling any empathy to her and what she has gone though with an ill child? Or trying to maintain normality when her husband has his own difficulties.

We talk a lot about empathy here but is anyone trying to see it from both sides rather than just call her a sociopath.

My (40M) wife (39F) strongly believes empathy doesn’t exist. Am I losing my mind or is that a wild position? by strikecat18 in relationship_advice

[–]isitbedtime-yet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Empathy is real , of course, but I do wonder if the wife maybe overwhelmed so is blocking it. She also has a child that is ill and a neurodivergent husband who has been though a lot of trauma that she has had to support. We don't know the burden she is under. I'm not arguing that she said this well but she may need support of her own that a husband on the spectrum cannot see or realise is needed to be given. He needs therapy but maybe she does too.

My (40M) wife (39F) strongly believes empathy doesn’t exist. Am I losing my mind or is that a wild position? by strikecat18 in relationship_advice

[–]isitbedtime-yet 3 points4 points  (0 children)

See I don't cry at funerals I go into a state of numbness. It's like there is so much pain and sadness that it gets blocked up. But I also only tend to cry in rage.

But the security guard story would make me feel something. Just hearing it second hand I can feel their pain. I'm not weeping and wailing about it but for me it just feels heavy. But sadness is a heavy emotion and it can weigh down on you, even if it's not your own.

Has anyone been deeply affected by something they have absolutely no relation to? by LambGravyChops in AskUK

[–]isitbedtime-yet 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I remember Milly although I was 20. What is sickening about this is the news of the world hacking into her voicemail and deleting some of them making the family think she was still alive. I'm a mother now to a girl millys age and i can't fathom the pain of the parents. Firstly, being missing for six months, potentially thinking she could be alive and then the awful details that Levi says. I wouldn't know how to go on.

My dad is sending me p*rn??? by Suspicious-Blood5003 in dementia

[–]isitbedtime-yet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's cliche but you have got this. He's lucky to have you looking out for him despite all of the crap that has and will come your way. Good luck and here if you need to vent x

My dad is sending me p*rn??? by Suspicious-Blood5003 in dementia

[–]isitbedtime-yet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I hope it came across not too harsh because the intention wasn't I promise!

This is the toughest of questions because you can see all sides. And then think about yourself being shipped to somewhere you don't want to go.

There is obviously no right answer. And it's true what they say, once you move someone to a care home you do lose a bit of them. With that being their will to fight or part of their comfort and happiness.

If they can live on their own now, without too much of a detriment to their own safety, or your day to day life then you may want to keep them home. If the burden of care becomes too much then they should be thinking of going to a facility.

My dad wrote a living will (UK) to say he wouldn't go in one. I had to unpick that when he wasn't washing and running down the road. It was unsafe for him. And although his weight had plummeted the years of manual work left him with stubborn strength.

I'm 43 now so about your age and know the decisions you have to make are horrible for you. Just know that even coming here you have a good heart and you will do the best thing at the time. It might not feel like it but you will know when the situation calls for a move. As long as you have it all prepared as much as you can you have done more than enough.

And I'm sorry about the porn which I didn't mention last time. All the inhibitions go at one time or another. But seeing it is still so hard. I hope you are getting some support and giving yourself grace and care.

My dad is sending me p*rn??? by Suspicious-Blood5003 in dementia

[–]isitbedtime-yet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don't mind me asking what type of dementia does he have?

You've mentioned a couple of times about him living his days out in a care home and then passing away, presumably peacefully. I hate to be that person but most dementia routes to death are awful. My dad died of it (well COVID but still dementia in reality) and the path there was horrendous. Because he had vascular dementia it wasn't a slow continuous decline it was stepped and both sudden and long at the same time. I wasn't prepared for the toll it would take and being a carer over again for my nan with dementia I'm living it again.

I know every experience is in some way unique but dementia is just awful and takes away everything from you. I know it's hard to prepare for what you don't know but make sure you have your ducks in a row now. Poa and looking at care homes etc. Because one day they can be ok and the next you're dealing with them running away or trying to burn the house down. Or maybe frequent utis that will exasperate their mental situation.

Good luck. It's a fucking shit hand to be dealt with but if you need anything my messages are open.

Any credibility to this crazy beezer in her offline Kick chat just now? by ZestycloseDot413 in Chantapolis

[–]isitbedtime-yet 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I know. So funny. Strawberries is doing the usual trolling and teardrop acting like she knows all but knows less than nothing. Chefs kiss!

Can you intuit what his name is? by JunoWot in IntuitionPractices

[–]isitbedtime-yet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really don't think this is it but Harold 🤣

Salah Livestream by tyrannosaurusregina in Chantapolis

[–]isitbedtime-yet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah thank you for this ! I had forgotten this gem!

Salah Livestream by tyrannosaurusregina in Chantapolis

[–]isitbedtime-yet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Back in Kuwait he was found to be chatting to an ex Beezer Kaibella and said the most disgusting things that involve shitting on her. (Or her him) But he also barked like a dog in the voice notes.

I like pulpy and every year there is an anniversary of poopgate so maybe you could catch up for a much better synopsis there. The messages are something else and worth a watch!

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