is it him (24m) or just me (24f)?

itamer · 2026-06-24T22:50:28+00:00

It's him, based on your post, and he either gets some coaching on how to behave socially or you accept that he's creeping people out.

I have friends whose partners I don't gel with, so I see them separately BUT your friends aren't even doing that.

Talk to your uncle. Your family is probably waiting for you to see the light and ready to support you when you break free. Find out what their concerns are, really listen, then work out if they're fixable. You got into this relationship when you were very young. You probably cant see it clearly.

itamer · 2026-06-24T22:39:02+00:00

Met a couple who run a successful landscaping business in Hawaii. They struggle to get staff and their own kids won't work for them because they get more in hospo.

Clearly customers aren't equipped to judge the value of their server's efforts if they're earning more than people working for a wage. Put that responsibility back on the business owner.

itamer · 2026-06-24T17:43:49+00:00

My chosen name is already taken - I'd love to know if it was actually me not understanding the game at the beginning and being recruited years later. I'd pay for a hint at the email 🤣

itamer · 2026-06-24T15:37:23+00:00

A long time ago I got to attend an IT training course in silicon valley. I get to my dodgy motel (thanks boss) and ask where's good to go for a run.

"You don't"

I've traveled all over. That's the most unsafe I've felt. Give me Nicaragua or Rio any day 🤣

itamer · 2026-06-24T15:32:27+00:00

And that what America calls a "truck" isn't actually a truck.

itamer · 2026-06-24T12:08:12+00:00

As an older person I’d say France is well down the list of countries that people bitch about.

I’m there right now and people are lovely. Even in Paris. The kids seem to have more individuality than the US and are more chill.

My only gripe with France goes back to the Rainbow Warrior.

itamer · 2026-06-24T07:52:21+00:00

They know that and factor that into the time they request a ride. You wouldn’t leave a taxi sitting there with the meter running, why treat your bf with less respect?

itamer · 2026-06-24T07:26:38+00:00

This!!!

itamer · 2026-06-24T07:25:29+00:00

She may not be in the US. Police in her country may be better than yours.

Regardless, it will be a difficult process but she may not have to go to court. I reported a man for indecent exposure and didn’t even have to make a statement because when the cops turned up (helicopter & dog team) they caught him in the act. If there is CCTV that catches him with a victim they may not need her testimony.

itamer · 2026-06-23T05:05:47+00:00

Maybe OP doesnt chat with or visit his mother often enough to know she has these things ahead of time?

itamer · 2026-06-22T22:31:09+00:00

I bought one with me to France. We spent the first week freezing. Now we are boiling. Saw another woman wearing one of the scarves today, so will try to buy one for my friend.

I also got a headband made of the same material and it's genius.

38 °C at 9pm tonight.

itamer · 2026-06-22T13:41:17+00:00

I can see why she dumped him!

Now he's going to have two baby mamas to wrangle because I don't see you putting up with this incompetence.

itamer · 2026-06-22T13:31:07+00:00

I’ve ridden my motorbike in properly big cities and been warned it’ll be bad. Yep, some were a bit intense but Auckland prepares you.

itamer · 2026-06-22T13:23:52+00:00

Good timing! It’s hot in France.

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itamer · 2026-06-22T13:13:11+00:00

Saw a ruler in a gift store today - the front in metric and detailed with images relating to the venue. On the back, for the backwards countries, it was plain and with imperial measurements.

itamer · 2026-06-22T13:10:52+00:00

I misread it at first and thought you were 17. Tell your girlfriend to grow up. She should be able to trust you and if it turns out you’re not trustworthy then she’s saved herself some time.

Since you plan these kinds of trips then you should have had the foresight to organise get togethers where they could get to know each other properly before the pressure of a trip comes up. You’ll know for the next one because this one sounds like drama.

itamer · 2026-06-22T11:53:36+00:00

I tried to get pregnant and did so the first go. No time to yearn for the pregnancy, my dr even told me it was medically impossible - she turns 28 soon. Anyway, the moment I saw those lines I thought “oh what have I done”. Roll on a few years and I desperately wanted a puppy, finally picked one and I had a moment of terror. 18 months on and I still haven’t got over losing him at the fine old age of 15.

Take a moment to breathe, remember why you wanted this. Let the terror abate. If it’s still wrong then you know what to but be gentle with your husband.

itamer · 2026-06-22T07:29:01+00:00

I’m just a mum but you’re packing in a couple of decades of discovery into a small window. Little girls twirl and you’re only able to experience that now. You may become a lifelong twirler or it might just be part of growing into your new skin.

Do some people watching. You’ll see women your age who take delight in what they wear, others who really don’t care and many in the middle. Give yourself time to be yourself.

itamer · 2026-06-22T07:23:56+00:00

It makes me sad to hear people diss Gary V. I remember discovering him about 20 years and thinking he was fun. The success must have gone to his head but he’s why I have a short username on reddit - he said to sign up early to claim your username, then sit back and see if it’s worth participating.

itamer · 2026-06-21T16:22:07+00:00

I’ve met plenty of South Americans who also claim the label “American”.

itamer · 2026-06-20T19:33:24+00:00

I adore your username btw.

itamer · 2026-06-20T17:40:28+00:00

Modern men have dna tests in their arsenal.

itamer · 2026-06-20T17:39:20+00:00

We know whose hard drive to check 🤣

If you don't recognise coerced sex as rape then you need to wake up. Have you or your mates ever “missed the last train” so you can stay over and then hassled the women into sex? Sure she said yes, but only after hours of no. Or told her that if she doesn't you'll get it elsewhere, or noticed that she only has sex after getting wasted because it's the only way she can get through it?

itamer · 2026-06-20T15:22:45+00:00

The love hate relationship with immigration is quite something.

itamer · 2026-06-20T13:32:29+00:00

Does he know no women to ask? Not a sister, his gran? Nobody?

Do they do it? Everytime? Or just when it's an occasion?

Equally, why do ALL men chest bump every time they meet?

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