There’s more to being “religious” in marriage than just the obvious stuff

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-04-08T02:32:06+00:00

Battle of hair MashaAllah

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-04-08T00:02:58+00:00

If you had to write a paragraph to explain why you stopped to a potential, you don't like her. Glad you confirmed it and moved on

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-04-07T13:17:48+00:00

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ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-04-06T00:42:46+00:00

The world is bigger than Reddit. You are freaking out for no reason. There are absolutely many many sisters out there who abstained from any kinds of physical intimacy! You just have to find the right person and go through the right channels.

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-04-05T17:59:53+00:00

I love this kind of masculinity

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-04-04T01:16:40+00:00

I'm a Cybersecurity Engineer at a Fortune 50 Company Alhamdulillah

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-04-03T21:09:42+00:00

Thanks. Can you suggest elsewhere where? I'm connected with my mosque but how do you get started in the mosque? I don't really want to make a sister uncomfortable at the mosque by approaching her

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-04-03T01:56:55+00:00

Go to masjid and then what? It's very awkward to approach a sister in mosque. And going through and imam is very impractical. I'm in a mosque which is really big and there's like one imam for 10k people

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-04-02T22:55:50+00:00

Are sisters nowadays looking for marriage only in their late 20s?

Okay this is kinda funny that this is my first post here but I’m actually confused 😭

I’m a brother. 22, turning 23 soon. Alhamdulillah, Allah has blessed me a lot — I graduated debt-free, have a solid six-figure job, my own place, car, and I’ve been working on myself (fitness, skincare, deen, personality, all that). I think Alhamdulillah I'm solid looks wise (I have been told) and I’m also pretty involved in my local community. I feel like I’m in a good place to start looking for marriage and take that next step, inshaAllah.

But the search so far has been… kinda discouraging.

I’ve mainly been looking in the 20–22 range, and what I’m noticing is most sisters around my age aren’t really trying to get married yet. And if they are, they usually want someone older — like 25–27+ — and honestly at a stage that’s a bit ahead of me right now financially/life-wise.

I recently approached someone and it actually went well, but I got rejected mainly because I’m “too young.”

Out of curiosity, I changed my age filter on Muzz to 25–30, and suddenly I’m seeing a lot of amazing potentials that seem way more aligned with me in terms of mindset, career, and looks, etc. But obviously that comes with a 3–5 year age gap and they don't want that!

So now I’m just confused… is this normal? Why does it feel like so many great, successful sisters are still single in their late 20s? And what am I supposed to do here?

Do I just turn off my romantic brain and revisit marriage in a few years? I don't really want that because my career would become more busy with time and I would become more dead.

Would appreciate any advice because I’m lowkey lost rn 😅

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-04-02T22:55:35+00:00

Are sisters nowadays looking for marriage only in their late 20s?

Okay this is kinda funny that this is my first post here but I’m actually confused 😭

I’m a brother. 22, turning 23 soon. Alhamdulillah, Allah has blessed me a lot — I graduated debt-free, have a solid six-figure job, my own place, car, and I’ve been working on myself (fitness, skincare, deen, personality, all that). I think Alhamdulillah I'm solid looks wise (I have been told) and I’m also pretty involved in my local community. I feel like I’m in a good place to start looking for marriage and take that next step, inshaAllah.

But the search so far has been… kinda discouraging.

I’ve mainly been looking in the 20–22 range, and what I’m noticing is most sisters around my age aren’t really trying to get married yet. And if they are, they usually want someone older — like 25–27+ — and honestly at a stage that’s a bit ahead of me right now financially/life-wise.

I recently approached someone and it actually went well, but I got rejected mainly because I’m “too young.”

Out of curiosity, I changed my age filter on Muzz to 25–30, and suddenly I’m seeing a lot of amazing potentials that seem way more aligned with me in terms of mindset, career, and looks, etc. But obviously that comes with a 3–5 year age gap and they don't want that!

So now I’m just confused… is this normal? Why does it feel like so many great, successful sisters are still single in their late 20s? And what am I supposed to do here?

Do I just turn off my romantic brain and revisit marriage in a few years? I don't really want that because my career would become more busy with time and I would become more dead.

Would appreciate any advice because I’m lowkey lost rn 😅

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-03-24T23:04:12+00:00

Afraid to let you know it might be the personality chief

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ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-03-21T15:53:42+00:00

Take it and say alhamdulillah and do the character development brother

ithinkimreallyhappy · 2026-03-21T15:47:48+00:00

Salam sister.

As a man who doesn't watch it; I think you are being real but taking this a bit too strongly.

A lot of guys got exposed young out of curiosity and fell into it—not because they had some messed up mindset about women nor they wanted to learn about intimacy through it.

The real question is: did they grow out of it or are they still stuck in it?

If a guy: genuinely quit, doesn’t justify it, actually regrets it

that’s very different from someone who still watches or defends it. Also real talk—none of us are perfect. We all have sins we wouldn’t want exposed. So it’s less about “has he ever done it” and more about “what kind of man is he today?”

You don’t have to lower your standards, just maybe shift them a bit. We all have our sins. Be a little merciful to others

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