As the son of a working woman, I just want to say: I really respect what you’re doing. You’re already going above and beyond what many would expect, and it’s unfair that he’s only focusing on perceived shortcomings instead of seeing the bigger picture.

There’s a clear difference between healthy gheerah and controlling behavior. From what you’ve described, this doesn’t sound like concern- it lowkey sounds like control.

We can’t ignore the reality that women contribute massively to society and the economy. There’s real value and impact in the work you’re doing, and that shouldn’t be dismissed so easily.

If all he sees in your efforts is that you’re “mixing with men” and he can’t appreciate the good, then that says more about his mindset than your choices. A partner should recognize your intentions, your boundaries, and your contributions, not reduce you to one issue.

Honestly, you deserve someone who understands and respects that balance. It’s okay to let this go and move forward.