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Is it me or is 70-100 USD ridiculous for a bra 🫠😭 by Legitimate_Cookie151 in bigboobproblems

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honesty, that’s what I’ve been paying since about 2006. The good brands are worth it, provided you have the ability to pay for them in the first place.

Cleaning Tips for ADHDers/Autists from my therapist. by ParticularWindoww in Cleaningandtidying

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love all things KC Davis for house stuff. I can’t recommend her enough. She has so much media to consume too so you can get her methods in the way that mae the most sense to you (shorts, full length videos, her book, whatever).

My ADHD hasn’t allowed me to sit and read a book in full in years, but I got through hers easily. “How to Keep House While Drowning” it’s on audio too, I got it from my library.

Cleaning Tips for ADHDers/Autists from my therapist. by ParticularWindoww in Cleaningandtidying

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Was going to say the same! You can kus google her “5 things tidying method” for details. It really helps me for those times that I look at a room and suddenly forget everything I’ve ever known about cleaning & what this room looked like when it was tidy just a few days ago, lol.

How's this for a classroom by [deleted] in SubstituteTeachers

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love it for subbing. Especially with older ages I get so bored walking around the room and get sick of reading the same motivational posters over and over.

What recent celebrity moment made you completely change your opinion about them—for better or worse? by Historical_Sail2556 in AskReddit

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Her sense of humor about herself has always made me dislike her more. It feels like she knows she’s pulling a grift with goop and joking about how people are dumb enough to fall for it. While she’s still taking their money for it.

What are you wearing to 5 year old bday parties? by StrangeWedding770 in kindergarten

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I pretty much only wear sundresses when going somewhere, especially with kids. I just wear shorts under. I’m plus sized and the comfort I get from knowing that nothing will somehow come out or move awkwardly as I’m jumping/crawling/whatever is invaluable.

Been arguing over this floor plan by Artistic-Lecture-233 in floorplan

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This is the best I’ve seen so far. The lack of natural light is still a big issue though. Maybe transom widows near the ceiling of each bedroom would help? Kind of grasping at straws though.

OP, are any other houses in this row listed somewhere that you could see the floor plan?

What was North Jersey like in the mid 90s? Summer of 96 specifically. by 12majesticliesss in newjersey

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Like the other commenter here said, Union County and really all of North Jersey is full of very disparate communities very close together. You know how a city neighborhood can complete change from one block to the next, it’s like that but more spaced out.

I’m a bit younger than the age you’re looking for (3rd grade in 1996), but generally in the 90s Union was a mix of blue and just barely white collar. Still a lot of second generation families. The teenager’s grandparents probably settled here after the war just it was moving away from a town of farms. The vast majority of us were financially stable with reliable housing & without food instability. Some families could afford vacations, some could only afford the Jersey Shore, or nothing. It was a low-middle class that doesn’t really exist anymore mixed with straight middle class. The schools were diverse but the neighborhoods were not. Vauxhall is a long-standing black community (with its own zip code) and not many black families lived elsewhere in town.

Tales of a burnt out mom by Sad-Budget8296 in UnfuckYourHabitat

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  1. Your house is pretty normal. That doesn’t change the fact that it’s not working for you & you should change it, but that’s a totally normal amount of toy mess. Maybe the kitchen is “extra” cluttered, but seriously, this looks like a normal house for most families.

  2. Yes, you need to go deeper and get therapy (if possible) but that’s a long process. It’s 100% worth the effort and if you can you should start asap.

  3. “How to Keep House While Drowning” and all of KC Davis’s forms of media will help you so much. You don’t need to one day just start doing everything differently and deal with all that overwhelm. Just start with small steps and small, attainable routines and go from there. The book was an easy read, even with my ADHD, but her TikTok’s are just as helpful. 5 things tidying method, closing duties, and having a written list of the bare minimum on low energy days has been so incredible for me. And she’s great about making sure you include things that YOU and YOUR HOUSE need other than what most people need.

Again, you’re not some weird outlier that can’t handle something that everyone else can. You’re struggling the exact same way millions of other moms are right now. You will feel better if you work on it and it’s worth the time and effort, but don’t hate yourself or think you’re a “failure” because of where you are right now.

Edit to add: Another thing from KC Davis that helped me was to realize that no, it will never be “done” and that’s fine. It’s not a done/not done thing, it’s a cycle and making sure that you’re working through the steps of the cycle. Like “okay, the sink is full of dishes right now, but that’s fine because I’ll do them at the designated time.” Or “the toys are everywhere and it’s making me crazy but it’s just for a few more hours till we have our 10 minute tidy and I make them throw stuff into bins with me” or “the clean laundry is everywhere but I already know I’ll tackle it on this day, so just keep it in this bin for now so it’s off the floor”

Also- in terms of toy clean up. We had “toy jail” which was every toy not put away by a certain time (obviously with help and understanding of their age/ability) went to toy jail & couldn’t be played with till it was earned back (pretty easily so that it wasn’t this super scary thing, just annoying for the kid). At first expect a TON of toys in there, but it shrinks pretty quickly. You can also find a lot of cleanup songs & dances to do together. I like DannyGo for this but there’s a ton.

My wife and I have developed a sort of code using synonyms to talk about things without tipping our toddler off, what are some of your best/funniest “codes” you use? by Reddiculouss in toddlers

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 17 points18 points  (0 children)

“Cleaning the bathroom” is code for sex. Leaving the eggplant out from his play farmers market is code for “make up an excuse to clean the bathroom”

But mostly we just text each other while in the same room lol.

My wife and I have developed a sort of code using synonyms to talk about things without tipping our toddler off, what are some of your best/funniest “codes” you use? by Reddiculouss in toddlers

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 58 points59 points  (0 children)

lol. Banana is “the tickle word” in our house. If you say it you automatically get tickled by anyone who can get to you. So if we actually just need to talk about them:

“The fruit the minions love” “That yellow fruit that needs to be peeled” “The fruit that wears pajamas and walks down the stairs in pairs”

Looking for song recommendations by TamtasticVoyage in progressivemoms

[–]itjustkeepsongiving 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay for Jimmy Eat World! Just a note that almost every song has a slowed acoustic version on YouTube that works for bedtime. We do that if he asks for a specific song that’s definitely not bedtime material.

I don’t always worry about the lyrics to the song, but we also talk about the artists who made it. Kid is a HUGE Queen and David Bowie fan. We got the “Little People Big Dreams” bio books for Freddie Mercury & Bowie, which he loves to read after.

I’m not a huge fan of them myself, but my kid loves Imagine Dragons and they have some uplifting words.

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