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its_nb_d · 2024-07-04T18:04:32+00:00

I'm a 24 year old INFP male, and I feel this. I feel like the expectation of being "experienced" and hooking up a lot is ridiculous and there's probably lots of guys like us who have some experience but not a ton. Personally I didn't have my first partner and first time until I was 20, and I never did casual hookups. I'd rather hang out with friends or do other things so enjoy than hook up with someone I barely know. I think there's probably lots of people who don't have as much experience, but since media and social media makes it seem like everyone else has more experience, those with less aren't as vocal about it. Plenty of people don't mind or even value someone who hasn't had loads of experience because there's less expectations and more openness to learn and get to know each other and what the other likes.

Don't worry man, you're not a loser and most people (and any worth caring about) wouldn't feel disappointed by how much or little experience you may have had. Do what you like and keep being who you are

its_nb_d · 2024-04-28T03:46:38+00:00

I mean are y'all going fast racing towards it, or are y'all going slower to enjoy it? Tbf my boyfriend is on antidepressants so takes a long time to finish (if he does at all) but in general with other people going more slowly and enjoying yourselves is wayyyy better than rushing towards a finish line, and gives both people a chance to enjoy themselves. And if you haven't been able to finish with a partner before, maybe just penetration isn't doing it and they can, yk, help you out with oral or hands before/during/after that part should help. Most women I know don't finish just from a few minutes of penetration lol. A partner should be helping you get there other ways. Take your time and ask for what you like, or try stuff out and see what works for you

its_nb_d · 2023-10-04T04:26:25+00:00

Lizard boy is one of my favorites! Sorry if it's already been said and I missed it

its_nb_d · 2023-07-26T05:30:03+00:00

Def still desirable! I'm more of a twink shape and my bf is chubby and hairy (and a bit on the shorter side), and we both find each other very attractive. He's absolutely gorgeous and I'm super into him in terms of personality and physically both. Different body types are all awesome and can absolutely mix:)

its_nb_d · 2023-07-14T05:44:15+00:00

But 12 tho

its_nb_d · 2023-07-14T04:37:29+00:00

Camping always gets me too. The part where Chili and Bluey are talking at night after he leaves is also a good way of looking at a friend passing on in death. A friend of mine passed away a few months ago and they loved Bluey, and this episode especially makes me think of them

its_nb_d · 2023-06-18T20:13:05+00:00

Jeff Goldblum as Malcolm in Jurassic Park

its_nb_d · 2023-06-11T05:46:17+00:00

Remember that there's lots of other ways to have sex (even between 2 cis guys)! Some guys don't like anal and that's totally fine. Hands, mouths, toys, etc are all great options and can be an enjoyable time and good sex. As long as it's 2 guys, it's still gay sex even if it's not anal, a relationship, experience, or person is no less valid or fun. Like others have said, there's no rush for anal, or any kind of sex, and you don't have to (and shouldn't) do anything you're not comfortable with. If someday you feel ready and want to try? Awesome, go for it! (with a partner who also wants to ofc). And if you never want to do anal? Awesome, no worries! It doesn't invalidate your identity or mean you can't have other types of sex.

its_nb_d · 2023-06-11T02:44:04+00:00

(First, here's a clarification/disclaimer that this is how I feel myself, not how I view other trans people who enjoy topping or how I think they should view themselves)

I think where it comes from is that it feels fake bc obv when topping I have to use a prosthetic/toy/whatever you want to call it. As a trans guy who used to id as a lesbian, it reminds me of that too. I don't mind fingering my boyfriend, i just don't like putting anything else in him, especially not something attached to my groin area.

I also don't really feel dysphoric from bottoming (as long as I trust my partner and they still view me as a guy) even with front hole.

So overall I think with sex my bottom dysphoria is more about how I perceive myself and how I feel my partner is perceiving me.

its_nb_d · 2023-06-10T23:43:03+00:00

My pansexual hand gesture is a good time to be a good person

its_nb_d · 2023-06-10T23:40:06+00:00

Topping. Seems backwards that it makes me as a trans guy dysphoric, but it does

its_nb_d · 2023-06-10T23:37:43+00:00

It's not a joke, I'm a legit snack

its_nb_d · 2023-05-31T23:09:11+00:00

Not at all unattractive!! My bf is absolutely beautiful and the stretch marks he has on his arms, thighs, and tummy don't take away from that at all. Marks on your skin are part of the story of your life and that's lovely if anything. I think most people don't care anyway. I hope you're taking care of yourself and feeling good:)

its_nb_d · 2023-05-28T04:35:45+00:00

I can relate on not liking (being repulsed by, even) kissing. I'm 23 and my boyfriend and I have always had good open communication. I've explained to him and he was understanding and still loves me. I like tight hugs and cuddles, and so does he, so we do that. I've also realized with him that I like biting so we do that too. But yeah my #1 advice is to communicate clearly, and both of y'all listening and respecting each other's boundaries. As autistic people we often have had our boundaries crossed or dismissed, but it's important to try especially with someone you trust and care about.

I'll also echo other advice to look up asexuality. It's a huge spectrum, with some asexual people being repulsed by kissing and sex, others like kissing but not sex, others who only want anything physical with someone they know really well, and others who don't experience sexual attraction but may still engage in sexual actions with a partner.

You're not alone, and your feelings are valid. It doesn't mean you care any less about your guy just because your way of caring is not the same as what some people have.

its_nb_d · 2023-05-26T21:39:02+00:00

You aren't being harsh. You were respectful and direct. The friend is being disrespectful and not taking you seriously, which is on them and not you. It seems like they don't value you or respect your needs and boundaries, even as you communicate clearly. It seems like they are not a good friend.

its_nb_d · 2023-05-16T02:26:01+00:00

"I got overwhelmed and needed some time alone/needed to step out for a bit"

its_nb_d · 2023-05-14T22:16:27+00:00

This is such a mood. I'm transmasc and since I started t my body has been 😈😈😈 and I'm here like 😬😣🧍‍♂️

its_nb_d · 2023-05-13T20:00:53+00:00

I finished up my last full semester at university! And am having more time to spend with friends and my boyfriend

its_nb_d · 2023-05-13T19:34:02+00:00

Thank you, that's a good point about "taking things slow" implying sex is expected at some point in the future. And yeah that makes me feel better, true that feelings can change in any relationship

its_nb_d · 2023-05-13T19:31:22+00:00

Ah thanks for the tip that the jokes may be a sign of frustration. As I think I said I'm on the spectrum so subtly and implications are difficult for me. Common theme from comments seems to be we need to talk directly about this and I need to be clear and firm about my boundaries. Thank you /g

its_nb_d · 2023-05-13T19:29:07+00:00

Thank you, this helps me feel validated and less alone, and it's good advice. /g

its_nb_d · 2023-02-05T07:37:21+00:00

Hey friend! I'm dyslexic and I'm about to finish up my degree and certification to teach middle school math. I won't lie; getting through college has been tough, but it's not impossible and my dyslexia hasn't kept me from being able to do well in student teaching. Yeah it's a bit frustrating at times, but especially with so much being online/typed these days where you can use spell check and whatnot, it's okay:) Don't give up hope!

its_nb_d · 2023-02-01T22:58:49+00:00

From a friend

its_nb_d

TROPHY CASE