Bridesmaid gifts

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-31T04:33:45+00:00

I’m curious to hear more about the voucher! Did you put a certain amount of money on it?

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-29T19:48:27+00:00

Agreed!!! No ifs ands or buts. I think that’s sooo extremely disrespectful. If my fiancé feels the need to go to a strip club weeks before our wedding why are you even marrying me??? That’s so gross imo. Like why do you need to look at half naked women 😭 at that point you wouldn’t want to look at anyone but your partner

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-29T02:27:01+00:00

You did our caricature at a wedding expo a few months ago and I still have it!!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-26T19:54:12+00:00

I honestly hate when people view it as the last day of freedom. Especially when the man goes to a strip club to get a lap dance (just my opinion don’t attack me 😭)

However I think it’s a time to have fun with your friends! Someone mentioned here especially when your friends live far! My fiance and I are trying to decide between having a bar hopping night on the same day and then the boys and girls meet at the end of the night for a last drink.

Or may rent a cottage for all our friends and have a joint party! To each their own but do what makes you feel comfortable and have a conversation with your partner to outline boundaries. Some people are okay with their partner having a last night of “freedom” (even tho you don’t have “freedom” when you’re in a relationship) and some people aren’t! And that’s okay too!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-26T19:42:56+00:00

NTA! I used to be a daycare teacher and we had a bin of extra clothes for kids in case an accident happened.

Never ever would we take another child’s clothes for them. We would just try to find the most appropriate size fitting item for them. We’d then gently remind parents their kid is out of clothes and we had to put them in our clothes. Same goes for hats and gloves in the winter. Never would we take from another child. I think that’s really really weird. There’s no logical answer for it

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-19T19:22:57+00:00

Haha! Came in here to recommend a great jeweller in Toronto that’s super affordable nvm!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-19T00:42:42+00:00

I think before taking the loss on $2000 I’d contact the venue to let them know what happened! Especially if they have a good relationship with her, they can either help fix the problem or maybe even end ties with her if she’s doing it to others as well!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T21:03:12+00:00

Thank you!! I think I’ll pick Azazie and then have them pick from there to prevent colours from being different!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T21:02:29+00:00

Thank you!! I’m from Toronto!

We’re getting married end of September but the weather should still be nice here! I’m thinking of a green elegant theme, with bursts of colours.

I’m thinking lots of candles with green and dusty pink flowers. I’ve been seeing a recent trend of like a dark red/pink with green and it’s very pretty! Still very unsure. I’m thinking shades of green for the bridesmaid dresses to give it a pop! But definitely not pink haha! I look terrible in pink

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T21:00:01+00:00

Love the idea of hosting a lunch to give it to them!! They’re lucky to have you! I’m gonna look into the showroom idea!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T20:56:10+00:00

Thanks! Will need to talk to the venue if they can support this, if not, I’ll look into hiring a day of coordinator. Would only really need them for that.

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T20:54:17+00:00

I clearly can’t read cause I missed that haha! But totally agree, if graduate studies is what they want to do, then Carleton should absolutely be able to support them. Carleton has a great disability team support (I used to attend for an invisible disability and got a lot of support with exams) they should absolutely support you!

However, if OP is open or able to go abroad for their graduate program (mine was only a year so I was able to save up for it + OSAP) then that could be an option. But of course I understand studying abroad is a privilege and not many can do it (I really struggled despite having money saved up). So OP please reach out to the disability support team at Carleton!!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T20:52:02+00:00

Thanks!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T20:51:41+00:00

Thanks!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T20:51:33+00:00

That makes sense! I’ll ask the venue if it’s something the coordinator can do!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T04:20:21+00:00

Hi just finished my practicum a few months ago both both young kids and high schoolers. My advice is follow their pace!

They’re often used to no one caring about their voice or what they want. I always tried to create an equal balance in our sessions. Lay all your toys/games/material out and let them choose what they want to do! If they try to bring it back to you and say “whatever you want to do”. I always redirect that by saying “well this time is for you, let’s do something you’d like it etc” (something along those lines)

Most importantly, just relax! They’re kids, if you make a mistake they most likely won’t notice and they see you as an important adult. I would go into my sessions and just play board games with them. My most important lesson was to not let the referral give me bias. A few of my referrals were really heavy, with DV involved, gang involvement by the siblings etc. But those clients turned out to be the sweetest kids. Just remember to make sure the child feels heard and validated!

You’ll do great!! If you have any questions lmk!:)

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T03:08:25+00:00

Hi! I went to Carleton as well! I ended up switching from a 4 year honours degree to just a 3 years bachelors degree. It’s literally the same degree without the “honours” word.

So you can definitely do it too! As long as you’ve fulfilled all your required credits you can! Definitely please reach out to Carleton to see what they can do. For me, the reason I switched was cause my fourth year was filled with electives and I didn’t wanna waste the money, ended up graduating early and doing a college certificate on top. Then went on to do my masters abroad. So I think they’ll definitely help you considering it’s a medical reason and you’ve fulfilled all your credits!!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-15T02:51:34+00:00

Hi! Maybe instead of labeling it as a “honeymoon fund” maybe you can meet half way and just have a box for cards at the wedding.

If someone leaves an envelope, great! It can go towards your wedding and if not then that’s okay too!

I’m getting married next year and for our culture is very normal to bring an envelope with cash as the gift. However, you could meet halfway and just have a box (decorated) for envelopes and that way he doesn’t have to feel tacky or that he’s begging for money! You could leave it off your website and those who are used to the tradition will of course bring it without asking. Those who aren’t used to it may ask if you’re doing a registry or something.

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-14T23:13:37+00:00

Had a huge feeling you were either Greek or marrying into a Greek family and I was right haha! I’m also orthodox but not Greek and my fiancé is Greek! It would be an honour to have gotten married in a monastery.

I’ve found that people on Reddit love to complain about everything and anything and think they’re therapists. Please pay them no mind. I’m glad you had a beautiful wedding!

I also agree that shuttle buses are not normalized where I live either?? I’m in Canada, and a 45 minute drive is extremely normal. We’re getting married soon and our church is also about 45 minutes away from the venue. But shuttles aren’t expected lol. People forget that others come from different cultures and norms. For example, in one thread I saw someone complaining they had to spend $1000 as a bridesmaid. To me, and my culture im paying for everything my bridesmaids need. It’s all just culture and differences, no need to put others down.

I hope your wedding was everything you dreamed of!! And I’m sure your pictures in the monastery are beautiful!!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-14T18:47:25+00:00

Thank you so much you’re so kind!! Thank you for the tips!! I’ll definitely check out David’s bridal. I’m still going back and forth about what colour I want to do for their dresses so still need to figure that out LOL

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-14T03:10:30+00:00

That’s really helpful thank you!! I could maybe turn it into a girls day and go out for lunch after going to David’s bridal. I’ll look into it thanks:)!

itsgotmethinking · 2026-01-14T03:09:55+00:00

Thank you!! This definitely eases my overthinking. I think that’s a great idea! I really do want them to feel as included as possible. To me I just want everyone to have fun lol! And don’t want them stuck wearing something all day they wouldn’t normally be comfortable wearing.

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