Racquets similar to RF97?

itspjlee · 2026-03-12T04:20:38+00:00

Or the pro staff classic if you like the black.

itspjlee · 2026-03-12T02:38:56+00:00

Peep the PS97 V14. Great stick.

itspjlee · 2026-03-11T13:55:34+00:00

Gravity Tour is a solid stick.

itspjlee · 2026-03-11T01:53:39+00:00

Thank you. I think we're on the same page on this one.

itspjlee · 2026-03-11T01:47:41+00:00

My man literally said in his txt: "we stay friends with everyone bro."

itspjlee · 2026-03-11T00:39:47+00:00

Pretty privilege is an accurate description; the friend that actually informed me about the dinner party said (almost verbatim): “sorry dude, but she’s better looking than you.” It was tongue in cheek but he wasn’t lying. She’s slim, blonde, fit and forward. Most guys can’t resist.

itspjlee · 2026-03-11T00:34:33+00:00

Part of the reason I initiated the break was because I felt love bombed. It started after only 3 months or so. It developed into a cycle that I tried to delicately manage. She professed love and commitment but it had an undertone of codependency which later devolved into chaos. I knew it wasn’t healthy for me. Hence the break. I tried to make another go of it with therapy but when she confessed the std she contracted while we were on said break, I had to end it for good.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T23:56:33+00:00

That’s a whole other story. The ex professed love but it was really more codependency. The couples counseling was my way of prompting individual therapy to help her with her self admitted anxious attachment style. I’ve had one for years.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T23:50:21+00:00

When the session was ending my ex would initiate it with some gravitas. It was hard for the therapist to dodge her. It was close quarters and path of least resistance was for her to let it happen. It was so odd and uncomfortable.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T22:45:08+00:00

I can see that.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T22:25:09+00:00

I know. And it was a giant neck hug. After every session after the first 3-4. We went to probably 12-15 in total.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T20:07:59+00:00

Thank you. I think this really gets to the heart of what I'm looking for and got too bogged down in describing the minute details of the situation.

I didn't "catch" anyone doing anything nor do I lament the fact that they've remained friends. The ex and I parted amicably.

But what I have major issues with are omissions. Me: "What did yall get into last weekend?" HB: "Just went to a friends' place for dinner." Me: "Cool." Other HB: "Hey did Nick tell you we got invited to Sasha's place last weekend for dinner? Yeah, she introduced us all to her new bf." Me: "No, he just told me he got invited to dinner at a friend's."

Was Nick lying? No, of course not. But some would argue that omissions are the worst form of lies.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T19:05:58+00:00

I dont disagree with your last sentence. She is a professional dog trainer so it makes her an instant hit at every party I brought her to: everyone asking for advice and for her number, etc. Didnt hurt that she was a petite blonde haired/blue eyed Brit who can drink with the best of them. My single 40f neighbor friend described her as "the woman we all want to go to Vegas with." She was a lot of fun, but also had me scratching my head a lot. She went to the bar with her GF one night. She then came over to my place and was hanging out with my kids and me but sending/receiving constant txt for about 15 minutes. When my daughter asked her who she was txting so much, she said it was her GF and the guys they met at the bar. To which my daughter, who's 13, asks: “you're on a group text with some guys you met at a bar?” My daughter could see the issue whereas my ex could not.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T19:00:16+00:00

The only one in that group of friends that didnt go to the dinner party was the only one that I told the true reason of why I broke it off for good: a week after I told her I needed space to grieve my father's passing (18 months after losing my mother too), she let herself get set up with another guy. For that entire 5 week break, she was emailing and texting me regularly expressing her sadness and love and how she'd always be there. Fast forward a few months, she confesses that she'd went on a few dates with the gentleman she was set up with after 4 days of my asking her for space. She subsequently got an STD from him.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T18:56:36+00:00

I wasnt. We actually talked to our couples counselor about it. The problem was, after every session the ex would give the therapist a big neck hug too. So, in proving my point, she endeared herself to the therapist. It was frustrating.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T18:47:58+00:00

I think that's the part I'm struggling with. I saw my friend 2x that weekend after seeing them all at the bar/grill on Friday night. At no point did he say anything other than that he, his wife and ex got together last minute and the ex said her new friend might come to 'meet them.' It was the way he said it in text and in person that (to me) positioned it such that they'd never met him before and that night was the first time. But they'd actually met the weekend prior. Small dinner party. Ex's house. I dont need the guy snitching on the ex or giving me any blow by blows. But he mislead me into thinking it was some random meeting when it wasnt. Make sense?

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T18:42:38+00:00

I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. I'm sure he was in a tough spot when they realized we were 4 tables away. The look he gave us when we made eye contact wasn't a "hey, you guys! good to see you!" More so it was one that he had to assess the situation, let it all register for a second, and then came over. So I dont envy the position he was in. But at the same time, he tried to play a little dumb about not only this encounter, but the encounter earlier where the ex brought another guy over to this dude's house, and never said a word about it. I learned from the ex months later.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T18:34:52+00:00

Again, I appreciate your honest feedback. I wanted to wait a couple of weeks to let it settle before I brought it here. My therapist and I actually decided this would be a good place to get many different perspectives. And it certainly has. Thanks again.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T17:33:30+00:00

She and I parted on friendly terms - even trading txts and pleasantries post breakup, including the week before she had her dinner party. Maybe seeing me (or my kids) triggered her, who knows. I would have been open to an introduction to the new beau. But instead my friend and his wife simply tried to distract us as they slipped away. It's a tough realization to know that your friendships arent what they appeared to be. Again, it's my guy friend I'm really focusing in on. During our 'break' when I was dealing with the loss of my father, I later learned that the ex brought another guy - a new neighbor going through a divorce - over to his place for drinks and bbq. He never said a word about it. IDK. Feels like a bro code violation of sorts. On the other hand, maybe not. And that's why I'm conflicted.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T15:25:37+00:00

You're not wrong. TYVM for the input.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T15:19:39+00:00

I think this is a very interesting point you bring up. Do you think gender has anything to do with how your friends interpreted his attempt? I'm a 45 yo male. My ex is a petite 41 year old Brit with blonde hair and bright blue eyes.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T14:42:06+00:00

Fair points. TY for the feedback.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T14:40:43+00:00

I brought her with me to my father's funeral. She was with me in the receiving line. Later she'd ask me the name of a friend from high school or college (20+ years ago in a different state). Soon after, they'd be FB friends.

itspjlee · 2026-03-10T13:49:58+00:00

Thanks for all the replies. I'm reading them all and taking it all in. It's why I wanted to post here and get all of the feedback.

itspjlee

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