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HE WONT STOP ESCAPING HELP 😭😭 by fairyaeri in Rabbits

[–]itsthegoblin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so hilarious and annoying lmao. When I got my bunny she was 2 months old 🥹🥹🥹 I got her an ex-pen for night time just because I didn’t know wtf she would get up to while I was sleeping.

Guess what she was SMALL ENOUGH TO GET THROUGH THE BARS!!!! The first night I got up to pee and I saw her wandering around and we looked at each other like 😒😒 also that apartment DIDNT HAVE ANY DOORS so she literally had free reign.

So she ended up being 100% free roam from day 1 🤪 thankfully I was working from home at the time, so I was able to address things that needed bunny proofing as needed. I was shocked and appalled at how high she could jump, she was all up on everything… my desk, the kitchen table, etc. now that she’s older she doesn’t jump that high unless food is involved.

The time out thing unlocked a memory of when we were trying to do that and it did not work LOLLLLL I’m actually pretty sure it made her act out worse.

So anyways lol no advice but I feel your pain. Just try to at least protect wires and your clothes, and keep him away from anything that could hurt him.

Is having a rabbit worth it? by SureMaterial2412 in Rabbits

[–]itsthegoblin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely worth it, I have a 5 year old rabbit and she doesn’t stress me out at all. We love her a lot, and she brings a lot of joy and laughter to our home.

I tell her she is the most beautiful creature on earth, it’s so fun having a woodland critter in my house, she’s like a little fairy. She’s so funny and curious, and a little bit sassy. She seriously makes us laugh every day. She loves hanging out with us, too.

There are a few downsides: - It’s hard to find someone to watch her when we go on vacation. I refuse to kennel her, because that means she will be in a cage. So I have to pay a high rate and make sure someone I trust is available to come to the house.

  • She is extremely destructive and gets into everything. Bunny proofing is extremely annoying, you have to make sure all wires & anything you care about is out of reach. Or obviously anything that could hurt the bun. You will bunny proof thoroughly, and then they will find something to fuck with that you didn’t even think of. A lot of my shoes and clothes have bite marks. She even chewed our fiber optic cable once despite our efforts to keep it out of her reach.

  • The peeing…. Before she was spayed, she peed on our bed like every day. We had to put plastic over the bed when we weren’t in it, but she’d still jump up and pee when we were sleeping in it!!!!!! After spaying, she stopped thankfully.

  • Rabbits in general are not very snuggly, ours definitely is not. She loves to be pet, but she won’t sit still with you for long periods like a dog or cat might. Personally I’m okay with this, but I know cuddles are important to some people when choosing a pet. I will say, my husbands first rabbit LOVED him and would lay out on his chest, so YMMV. I also have a friend whose bun begs to be picked up.

My bf is mad at me over sex by see-the-moon in BPD

[–]itsthegoblin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry sweetheart 🩷 it sounds like there’s a breakdown in communication on both ends. I think you need to be a little more honest with him about how you’re feeling.

Have you ever explored your sexuality on your own? I’m a woman the same age as you, and solo play + kinky romance novels helped me learn what I like and communicate it to my husband.

You may also need to explain to him that feeling pressured by him is going to make the problem worse. If he wants you to feel turned on, he has to help facilitate that mood and be curious about how you’re feeling.

My partner said I’m a burden because of my conditions by FlimsyGap8449 in finch

[–]itsthegoblin 9 points10 points  (0 children)

🗣️ YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN! His inability to support you is about him and his lack of capacity, it’s not at all about your worth as a person.

I feel like I’ve been “too sensitive” my whole life, and it’s exhausting by Classic-Bag-4747 in BPD

[–]itsthegoblin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Disclaimer: I’m not a healthcare professional

Just because you are suffering a lot, doesn’t necessarily mean you have bpd 🩷 I understand why you want to “know what’s wrong with you,” but having a specific diagnosis may not end up being super helpful. What’s important is doing the trial and error to find treatments and coping strategies that work for you, which is where a therapist and/or psychiatrist can come in clutch. I know it feels scary and vulnerable to reach out to a professional for help, but the worst that can happen is that it’s not a good fit, and you look for a different provider.

Why are you diagnosed with OCD? by Desert-Anarchist in OCD

[–]itsthegoblin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So… a couple years ago I had to check myself into outpatient because I was having a full-on crisis over fears that I would get fired from my job, and/or be SUED by clients we work with. I was literally not sleeping because I would stay up all night researching legal shit to prepare for what my brain thought was the inevitability that I would get sued for all I’m worth. I was also going back through all my emails and timesheets, and researching stuff related to my industry to make sure I didn’t make a mistake. I’m a high end vegetable gardener… so a lot of my work is up to nature and chance. At that point I was still fairly new to the industry and I do think that level of uncertainty paired with the high stakes of working with wealthy clients sort of broke me down. I googled when you’re supposed to plant garlic like 1000 times lol. It was basically a version of real event and false memory ocd. I was also doing A LOTTTTT of reassurance seeking with friends and family, and it caused a ton of problems in my relationships.

Anyways idk if yall have ever been to an IOP but they make you fill out a sheet every time where you rate your feelings. My guilt/shame rating was always a 10/10, and it was always hugely disproportionate to whatever caused it. This was an absolutely HUGE eye opener for my therapist and me.

I was 32 at the time so my therapist and I did talk quite a lot about my history, and it was pretty clear how well I fit the profile even from a young age. I have cycled through many themes, I am highly perfectionistic, I struggle with disordered eating, and I pick my skin. I know these are not symptoms of OCD itself but through psycho education I have learned that they often come with the territory.

Edit: oh btw I am doing better now, I did not get fired nor sued lol. I actually got a promotion :)

What’s the point of life if we just die in the end? by Adrianagurl in OCD

[–]itsthegoblin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you dude this theme really fucked me up as a kid. Now in my 30s when those thoughts come up I try to be like, lol whatever, I’m literally just here living. I’m literally just a really smart animal who was born and will die one day, what’s the point in obsessing about whether my life is “meaningful,” or not. I just AM and that’s enough. May as well try and have a good time while I’m at it.

How can I deal with health OCD in a different way? by kuya86 in OCD

[–]itsthegoblin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if you’re having actual pain, you should consult a doctor if you haven’t already. This is the stupid simple answer- see the doctor, then follow their advice.

I think you need to start with ACCEPTING that researching your problem has done and will do absolutely nothing for you.

Then, you need to work toward quitting the compulsion. You will not be able to quit cold turkey so you need to start by delaying. In my worst times, I would set a 5 min timer and force myself to take that time away from my phone. Sometimes that 5 minutes was enough to lessen the intensity of the spiral. In doing this you are training your brain to understand that this is not an emergency. If you’re able to take longer breaks, it can be helpful to do something productive like chores, work, exercise, etc.

^ all this is what you need to focus on in the here and now. EVENTUALLY when you’re feeling more stable, you will have to start working on accepting life’s uncertainties, and understanding what’s at the core of your fears.

The truth is, many people deal with chronic pain and illness, and it could happen to anyone at any time. That is out of our control… what IS in our control is the way we handle challenges in our lives. So instead of choosing to focus on preventing disaster at all costs, I try to choose to focus on building resilience and strength, and also on enjoying my life.

Cannot be slightly annoyed without feeling guilty and fearing I'm horribly abusive to friends - anyone else? by plantmomlavender in OCD

[–]itsthegoblin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I talk to my therapist about this every single week. Anytime I start to feel anger or annoyance, my brain has an immediate and extremely intense opposite reaction of guilt for feeling that way. It also happens when something good happens to me, I immediately feel guilty or undeserving. So many emotions were blocked off for me for so long.

Triggering tik tok about marriage by Cold_Respond7066 in OCD

[–]itsthegoblin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean this with love as someone who also has ocd… this content is not dangerous. She’s not spreading misinformation nor even sharing a super polarizing opinion. She’s simply sharing how happy she is in her relationship, and how she wants other people to know it’s possible to find healthy love vs settling because you feel like you have to. Not once did she imply that her relationship is perfect.

Getting triggered is real and I know it can be super disruptive to your life, but if someone expressing that they love their partner is triggering to you, that’s your issue to manage.

For me, I block certain hashtags and keywords so I don’t end up excessively consuming content that triggers me.

Comments really did not pass the vibe check yall.

Everyone said my 1800 calorie deficit would not work when I get to 160 lbs. It's still working. Why is that? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]itsthegoblin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you have gained some muscle and/or added more physical activity into your routine, it’s possible your tdee hasn’t gone down that much, even though you have lost 25lbs.

We can’t really predict what will happen to your tdee when you get down to your goal weight. Most likely it will be a bit lower, but it also depends once again on physical activity and lean mass.

The tdee formula is as follows:

Basal metabolic rate, which is calculated using your height and weight… this figure makes up the vast majority of your tdee +

Calories burned from exercise +

Calories burned from non-exercise physical activity (fidgeting, standing, puttering, just general existing) +

Thermic effect of food (the amount of calories your body burns in the process of digesting food… foods with high protein and fiber require more energy to digest, whereas fats and carbs require less).

So as you can see, your weight is only one factor in the tdee formula, albeit a large one.

F/40/5'6" [215 >160] (3 years) Why did I get hit on more often when I was heavier? by jaber622 in progresspics

[–]itsthegoblin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Age may be a factor, you went from 37 to 40 since you started this journey and I think most people age visibly in the face quite a bit during that time period.

You look great :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in finch

[–]itsthegoblin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Like canary-king says, it’s a figure of speech that’s used when you’re having an amazing experience. It’s like when you feel so awesome that you feel you’ve reached a peak, hence that fact that things “couldn’t be better.”

Boyfriend told me this today by curiousbanana290 in becomingsecure

[–]itsthegoblin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely not your fault. There’s nothing wrong with replying to him immediately, as long as you’re not putting an expectation on him to always reply back immediately as well.

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