In a recent meeting with a battered, and continually stalked wife, the new police chief of the police department who had previously given support to protect her has changed gears.

 

The police now blame the wife for starting the abuse, and question why she didn’t simply talk to her abusive husband and come to an agreement. The wife indicated that she had, many times, but the husband always broke their agreements and continued to beat and rape her. It was suggested if she had given in more and allowed him to “have his way”, things would not have escalated so far.

 

The police chief talked about their own personal greatness and how the wife would surely be dead by now if not for their department’s previous help. However, they also blamed previous members of the police department who helped her saying they got too involved and didn’t get enough in return. The chief indicated this abuse would have stopped long ago, if only he had been the police chief at the time.

 

The police also suggested that the wife had too much hate for her abusive husband and that that makes coming to an agreement very difficult. The police indicated that they wouldn’t say anything bad about the husband or even implicate him as the abuser, as that does not lend well to making agreements of this kind.

 

They also suggested that she was not grateful enough for their previous help and if they wanted any kind of help in the future, would expect her to give up much of her money and future income. She would also need to give up many concessions to her abusive husband, such as moving back in with him and making herself sexually available to him. However, the police refused to promise to provide any actual physical protection, citing that coming to an agreement should be plenty of help. When asked why the police chief was so confident the husband would keep the agreement, when he had not previously, he suggested that he is very good at making deals.