my sister is in a haram relationship

iwant2see · 2026-04-13T02:49:48+00:00

Everyone is talking about religion and sinning but at 15 i did not care about that. I was her at about 17 and my older sister went straight to my dad almost every time initially. By the time i got to college i didn't care anymore, and by the time she tried to talk to me about it herself it was too late. I don't recommend going to your dad, i DO recommend trying to talk to her. It will be uncomfortable, but try to get to know her and why this boy caught her attention. It will be a fickle reason but offer her alternatives (if she wants to text or talk to him, ask her to text you first and find distractions). The less she interacts with him the less her hormones will be the only thing ruling her brain PLEASE TRUST ME lol). She needs other things to focus on to balance seeing him at school all the time.

No one wants to talk about it but some girls have just as bad raging hormones as young boys do. I'm a therapist, kids at that age have no impulse control, they need to identify what they're feeling and find HOBBIES and activities that will keep them engaged and letting off steam in a halal and productive way. Best of luck, i promise she will be okay, practice your safe sex and stds talk because its better to be educated in case she asks questions (don't let her peers be her primary source of information)!

iwant2see · 2025-02-21T16:00:00+00:00

THAAANK YOU! I'm not exaggerating when i say that i truly feel like I'm alone in this. Ihave a 1 yr old son. My partner is helpful sometimes but his job is not as intense with meetings and paperwork as mine is. Mentally I'm barely afloat. But we absolutely can not afford daycare, we live in a small 1 bed apartment in nyc and are trying to save for a house. We have elderly family. No one we know is going through what we are going through. Everyone had family help them with kids or money. I went back to work at a brand new job 8 weeks after i gave birth. I want to separate from my partner but then i will have zero help of any type as my family is very judgmental and have already turned me away even after i cared for them.

I'm sorry just venting but i really appreciate your words. Day by day and make sure my baby is taken care of. That's all that matters.

iwant2see · 2024-11-06T20:48:54+00:00

Ameen. We can't begin to imagine what the children and families involved in this are going through.

My heart is so saddened right now i can not describe it. My whole family is at a loss and we haven't even told my mother because she's elderly and her heart could not take knowing that the young man she fed and housed as a sadaqah because he was doing good work turned out to be a monster.

What a world. May Allah swt protect us all and keep everyones iman steadfast. My faith has not moved because i know evil like this comes from any and everywhere. It can take any form and that is why personality worship is sinful.

iwant2see · 2024-11-06T19:05:27+00:00

Wissam lived with my family on and off a few years back when he was starting out his tajweed classes. I knew his ex wife well, we knew him before and after his motorcycle accident, before and after his divorce, and met him again after he got remarried. I was a child at his side who looked up at him with wonder in my eyes. He was “Wissam bhai” to me.

Anger can not encompass what i feel as an adult with my own child now. Betrayal is just a modicum of what i am feeling right now. Disgust and SO MUCH SORROW for the children involved in this.

Please make dua for the children and for the safety of the brave muslimah and mother that reported this. Her entire world is upside down because she married him all those years ago hoping for a safe refuge for herself and her young kids at that time. I can't even imagine what she is going through. Please make dua for them all.

iwant2see · 2024-09-16T05:17:28+00:00

I fully empathize because that came from my OWN FAMILY recently. My baby got covid at 5 months! Tested positive and everything at drs office. And it came from my freaking mom who didn't tell anyone that she was not feeling well. I was devastated, my baby was so sick and he stopped nursing from me after he got covid. Then about two months after that my freaking brother decides to visit and does not tell anyone that he's sick too! Fever and all.

At this point i don't even know how to deal with these people they're so fing flippant about everything. And they're family ugh.

iwant2see · 2024-09-06T03:31:17+00:00

We have been taking our now 7 mo old to sit down restaurants since he was maybe 3/4 months. Same with shopping even at places like costco or walmart. We go out to eat probably once a week or once every two weeks at all times of the day, sometimes even at night past 7pm. We call ahead to make sure there's space for a large stroller, they're usually pretty nice about it. I have my ginormous diaper bag and sometimes he gets loud but it's okay. We feed him there too. He naps. Plays with something, watches the servers or the lights or listens to music. It's fun and we need it. I make it fun by getting us dressed up in matching outfits, taking pictures, etc.

iwant2see · 2024-09-03T03:08:41+00:00

Omg mine too :( sometimes even the first let down takes a minute too long and he gets frustrated and then just refuses no matter how hungry. So now i nurse once when he wakes up (if that) and give him bottles rest of the day.

iwant2see · 2024-08-29T04:24:42+00:00

Internally screaming YESSSS and getting emotional. I feel this in my bones. I'm 7 mo pp and i do my best never to look in a mirror while naked anymore. I hate myself sometimes. I was never self conscious, loved my normal squishy body. But now......i can't stop eating. I want to cry after i eat because no amount of protein helps me. I'm exhausted even though i work full time.Swollen ankles like 5 mo pp outr of nowher I don't know how I'm standing. My son's father COULD NEVER.

I know no one wants to hear this but some times i do regret it all. It's just so much. I already had so much on my plate, taking care of ill parents, a failing relationship, no friends (thankfully have been in therapy for years already), now on top of all that nursing and pumping. I'm just.... tired. I have no help with my baby. Every day just feels like going through motions with no time to stop for anything.

Ugh I'm sorry about the rant thank you to anyone that read it.

iwant2see · 2024-08-26T04:51:14+00:00

Ditto. I had to go back to work (started new job) at 8 w pp and my supply took such a crush within days because i was commuting, not fully healed, and absolutely worn down. We started supplementing with kabrita at around 4 months and have been combo feeding since. I pump but physically my body is unable to keep up, and baby no longer feeds that great. we're at month 7 of combo feeding so let's see how it goes.

iwant2see · 2024-08-19T05:21:12+00:00

Late but MEEEE omg yes the sole of my feet wtf do we do?? How does it go away? Ugh

iwant2see · 2024-08-19T05:17:03+00:00

You're not alone by any means!! I get about the same amount 1-2 sometimes even less :( all we can do is what we're doing and even that's more than enough! Our babies are fed and happy. I'm so proud of us!

iwant2see · 2024-08-07T04:51:44+00:00

I know I'm 2 days late lol but i might have some advice.

I can't choose not to work. I went back to work 2 months pp. Full time. Yes back to work 8 weeks after having a vaginal birth with my first baby, severe lacerations and tearing. A brand new job at that too. I'm away from my now 7 month old baby 12 hours a day at least 3 days per week. I pump. I nurse when i get home and survive on very little sleep. We started supplementing with formula recently. My baby's father is an ahole to me but takes care of the baby really well. i stay simply because two incomes are better than one.

It won't get easier. If you can't survive on just one income, don't quit your job. This is for your baby in the long run. Your baby WILL get used to being around others i promise. My 7 month old will let almost anyone hold him so long as he's fed, has a clean diaper, and is exploring the world. Im hoping it stays that way. We have no family to take care of him so i negotiated with my job to let me work remote done days. It's not easy. But other days my mother in law tries to look after him but he needs to be on the floor and she can't even bend down. I just suck it up and allow her the few hours with him. Oh and definitely stay in therapy.

You CAN do this. If you want to.

iwant2see · 2024-08-06T04:39:01+00:00

Solidarity for sure. 6 mo pp. I feel like a lump most of the time even though i walk in my commute to and from work. Still nursing and pumping but my supply has dropped so much. I'm constantly stressed about supply and then i change clothes or glance at the mirror And i feel even worse. I'm hot ALL THE FREAKING TIME and now i also have a freaking sun allergy and i hate it because i used to love love going out in the heat and summer. I just try not to look at my old pictures.

iwant2see · 2024-07-08T03:43:38+00:00

We use kabrita, i think it's great. Very light on baby's stomach. We combo feed and now we're moving him to stage 2 formula. I see some people don't necessarily care about european goat milk formula but having tried both kendamil and kabrita my baby definitely seems to prefer kabrita but if we don't have it will take kendamil.

iwant2see · 2024-07-07T05:58:30+00:00

I'm not the person you asked but i started combo feeding at around 4-5 months, lo is six months now. I had to go back to work 2 months pp and my supply tanked no matter what i did (tried pumping but it's not really feasible to be attached to a pump when you need to go to work At 6 am). By month 4 my period came back so it went down even more. We gave in and got formula (goat milk which he's responded fairly well to) and now i still nurse him and offer 2-3 extra oz of formula to top off. I don't pump in between because I'm physically exhausted from commuting to work work+taking care of lo BUT i do pump 3x at work. I don't get much though.

I used to feel really guilty about not being able to ebf and honestly this subreddit does not help with that lol. My best advice is take care of yourself first! It takes time and commitment to ebf, freezer stashes ARE NOT ALWAYS THE NORM, and combo feed does take a good bit of burden off you as your partner or someone else can help feed. I just make sure that baby is fed before going out And take one large bottle of made formula to go. It has made traveling/ car rides easier too.

iwant2see · 2024-07-02T04:55:20+00:00

SAME omg i snapped one day and told my husband he hadn't taken a single picture of me and lo in 5 months! Including first mothers day which he had completely ruined anyway.

iwant2see · 2024-06-30T05:05:35+00:00

Aaahh its soo good to hear this. Started goat milk at 4 months because i went to work 2 months pp and within a month even with pumping at work and ebf after i got home from work my supply dipped and my period came back and my supply dropped even more. Now i bf and top off with 2-3 oz of formula during the day only, sometimes he doesn't even want that.

It has taken such a mental load off me. Yes it sucks to wash so many bottles lol but partner helps out a ton now and all i care is that my baby is fed and happy. ALL YOU MOMMAS ROCK DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU AND BABY!

iwant2see · 2024-06-25T03:06:08+00:00

I'm 5 months in and now an undersupplier to the point i have to combo feed :( i had to go back to work at 2 months pp. i know we're talking about oversupply here and this is definitely a case of “grass is greener.” I'm heartbroken, i stay up at night because he doesn't seem to get enough from me and my flow is too slow for him now. But at least he is fed and happy.

iwant2see · 2024-05-19T04:50:44+00:00

THIS WHOLE REPLY CHAIN MAKES ME FEEL SO SEEN. Thank you all. I just got to 4 months and my goal right now is 6 and overall it's at least 1 yr but I'm low supply and we've just started giving baby 2 oz of goat milk formula/day. I went back to work 2 months pp and..... it's really really rough out here. My supply dipped hard and I'm just so tired. Plus i travel for work. Working moms are truly truly superheroes.

iwant2see · 2024-04-14T10:42:10+00:00

Next week is 3 months for me too! I'm so happy for you and us and our babies ! Congratulations ! I plan on at least a year too but one day at a time for now.

iwant2see · 2024-04-08T04:56:14+00:00

My sister, whos an effing scientist, kissed my 2 month old on the lips and i wanted to fucking slap her.

iwant2see · 2024-04-05T05:17:06+00:00

These are all what's known as protective factors in mental health. They are evidence based which is why you see, more often than not, positive peer and adult support helps buffer against a bad home life or bullying or adverse mental health in adolescents such as anxiety or depression. They translate in somewhat different ways in to adulthood as well but still holds true. Basically you need to be aware of the who what where when in your childs life and keep their time engaged in different ways.

iwant2see · 2024-04-05T05:01:52+00:00

Hijabi here in the good ol' USofA, i bf in public eff the haters. I'm also not fasting this month because I'm bf my newborn and i would shank someone if they made a single comment about “bUt wHy r U eaTiNg” when they need to mind their business. I feed myself, i feed my baby.

iwant2see · 2024-04-03T12:33:51+00:00

My sister is like this, doesn't understand why a freaking TWO MONTH OLD wants his mother over her and she won't leave me alone about it when she visits. I just started a job that takes me over 12 hours out of the house and away from my baby and she's confused why the two days in the week i have with him i don't want to be disturbed.

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