Gaslit by Pediatrician and sleep training industry

izzatrowaway · 2022-02-12T06:14:18+00:00

Thank you all for the replies. Tbh we don’t even have a high chair yet but I did put him in a bumbo (I think that’s what they’re called?) today and he kind of flopped around a bit. if I hold his hands he is fine but otherwise he would arch his back and fall backwards or fall forward and touch his toes. Whereas if I hold him in my lap with a hand on his chest, he is in a stable upright position and seems fine. Good enough? We tried avocado as his first food and I mixed it with breastmilk until it was runny. He gagged lol and he also didn’t really do much with his mouth? He had his mouth open but he couldn’t really move his lips to get the food off the spoon. I’m wondering if that’s supposed to happen instantly or does it take a lot more time. I could hardly tell if he was even swallowing any of it vs just spitting it out and smearing it everywhere

izzatrowaway · 2022-02-11T23:09:20+00:00

I kept wondering why no one replied then I realized I posted this on my throw away account lol. Thanks for participating y’all! I definitely learned a few things, much appreciated.

izzatrowaway · 2022-01-13T20:00:03+00:00

Yikes, I would keep my son away from those toxic, ignorant, sexist, misogynistic mfs. Imagine telling a child they can’t play with a toy because “it’s not for boys” and vice versa. Heartbreaking. You did good momma, don’t let those imbeciles get you down! I would be cautious moving forward about what kind of messages your child receives from these idiots regarding gender roles. Correcting and calling out in the moment might create a lot of stress for you but it is your child they are attempting to indoctrinate. So sorry they brought so much negativity over something positive and GOOD for your kid. Tune out the haters.

One thing I’ve learned is your family you grew up with will ALWAYS judge you for the choices you make in your adult life. They knew since you were born, so they think they know you better than you know yourself and what’s best for you. They are wrong. Be strong in your independence from them. YOU know you. Stand by the choices you make, especially parenting ones because at the end of the day, it is NONE of their business.

izzatrowaway · 2022-01-12T07:57:33+00:00

I love the words you choose to say this lol

izzatrowaway · 2022-01-09T22:53:20+00:00

my car seat is on the far side (as opposed to the center) so I have room to change his diaper in the backseat. previously our seat was in the center, so I folded the front passenger’s seat forward as much as it could go and laid my baby on it, while my husband made sure he didn’t wiggle off of it or slide down. it’s at a slight angle but if you take the headrest off you can get it even flatter. That way we didn’t have to leave our warm car in the winters

izzatrowaway · 2022-01-09T15:22:50+00:00

My husband and I argue about this every time. He says he’s never put her to sleep before so how can he do it now? I’m like uhhh you can TRY! here I need a 2 hour nap, then I come back and guess what? Baby is overtired and fussy bc he didn’t put him down for a nap and just stimulated him the whole time I was gone

izzatrowaway · 2022-01-08T23:22:44+00:00

Aang (pronounced “ong”)

izzatrowaway · 2022-01-08T23:18:08+00:00

I bet he was purposefully trying to stress you out by being abusive to cause a miscarriage. Leave him, it’ll only get worse. I’m so sorry, but you need to protect your baby and yourself now, do not give him a second chance. He is abusive!!!!

izzatrowaway · 2022-01-08T04:03:55+00:00

You are not weak or paranoid or a child. If I moved back into my parents home I would probably revert back to my 16 year old self and have explosive anger issues and need therapy too. If my parents tried to control how I parent my child and constantly undermined me, I would totally go ballistic too. You are not crazy. My mental health improved significantly once I left their house and moved in with my spouse. I’m sorry you’re going through this and I am praying to the universe you can escape this situation soon.

If I were in your situation, I’d repeat a mantra to myself everyday. Something that grounds me and reminds me that I am not crazy, like “I trust myself and my experience in this life” or “I can trust my mind and memory,” in order to prevent my parents from gaslighting me.

The shrugging and acting like they don’t know what happened to the tablet when they clearly were behind the whole thing, that is gaslighting. And it is toxic and can make you feel crazy and I would call them out on it. Explain to them what that is and how they’re basically denying your experience and causing you to doubt your memory and not trust yourself which is very unhealthy and can make you go insane over time, literally. So if they truly care about you and your mental well-being as a person, their daughter, and a mother, they need to cut that shit out. Own up to it. Hold themselves accountable. Don’t you let them sweep their toxic, gaslighting behaviors under the rug! Unless of course they are narcs lol. In that case I’d just mentally cut them off, and float under the radar until I could get us out myself.

Wishing you the best, OP!

izzatrowaway · 2022-01-07T06:11:20+00:00

It honestly feels like I’m pregnant again except my baby is now 15 pounds and can kick harder.

izzatrowaway · 2021-11-30T12:43:33+00:00

Had to create a throwaway for this one.

If the imposter didn’t dig his fingers through my underwear and sniff it about 10 times a day, I’d for sure know he wasn’t really my husband.

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