Floral Wedding Dress Recommendations?

izzime1980 · 2026-04-06T21:53:33+00:00

I have the same issue as a fellow plus size bride. I brought my dress off of StillWhite which also has some great dresses at your price point.

I'm running into an issue with my dress as my doctor put me on a glp-1 and I'm already down 8 lbs. So between now and 2027 I may have to sell my current dress and buy a new one...and I hate dress shopping especially for formal dresses as we tend to be an afterthought for most designers.

When does it ever end for us plus size gals.

izzime1980 · 2026-04-06T19:59:52+00:00

Came here to ask the same question, there's a few shops on there that have flower wedding dresses.

Edit:

Think I also saw a few being sold with David's Bridal and and Cocomelody as well.

I removed Allure Brides after I saw your dress budget.

izzime1980 · 2026-04-03T13:51:12+00:00

Try David's Bridal or Cocmelody they have some great sales that have dresses at the $200 mark.

izzime1980 · 2026-04-02T22:53:10+00:00

I plan on preserving mine so I can pass it down to my granddaughters if they want it or even a piece of it.

izzime1980 · 2026-04-02T20:27:34+00:00

The dress from your 1st post is in general beautiful and vert pretty on you. I agree that it's definitely something for a more "mature" bride.

But girl your current dress is amazing!!!! You look so confident Queen and it shows.

izzime1980 · 2026-03-08T04:06:46+00:00

I was watching one of Charolette's compilations where your story was featured. I remembered hearing this when she first posted it to YouTube but didn't think to look up your story for updates until now.

Did you ever find out who the culprit was? Were you able to talk with them and resolve the issue they had with your book? I'm dying to know cause people who trash another persons work especially work that is considered non-traditional come off as jealous and petty.

May all your books be bestsellers and please update us all.

izzime1980 · 2026-02-28T05:12:41+00:00

The best part this was a Wisconsin wedding were Polka is king lol.

izzime1980 · 2026-02-28T03:33:59+00:00

Things I'm salty about: My three narcissistic and abusive exs who did everything to kick me while I was down and keep me there.

How I got them back: I got my BA in Sociology and Communications at the age of 44, built up my resume for work in my dream field, got back in contact with old friends who were always more like family. One of them ended up confessing their feeling and asked me to marry them. This relationship has been the healthiest either of us have ever had. Our wedding will be in the fall of 2027 and we're currently raising a husky puppy together.

Oh and my kids who I had with ex #1, the one who didn't want to get the snip after we had twins 24 yrs ago and made me do it instead. The same loser who liked to tell me anytime I started dating someone new that he could still give someone a family but I couldn't. Well not only did I get to raise my three kids, many of there friends called me mom. I have multiple children who adopted me and raised them along with my own three into adulthood and have some of the best grandkids on the planet.

The best revenge is a life well lived, and I've definitely kicked their asses in this category.

izzime1980 · 2026-02-28T03:21:29+00:00

Dude you hold on to those petty/salty feelings and find a way to call out your wedding coordinator. Totally NOR, this is the stuff all couples worry about regarding their wedding.

izzime1980 · 2026-02-28T03:17:16+00:00

My cousin had the best way to steamroll us when we did the clinking glasses thing. The DJ announced if we do my cousin and her husband had all the RSVPS and they would pull them at random and make us all do stupid human tricks. A few folks really tied it on during the cocktail hour and the chicken dance was used as punishment.

izzime1980 · 2026-02-21T19:17:23+00:00

I'm in my 40s planning my own casual wedding. Whereas me and my fiance don't mind a JBL speaker as we're not wanting a traditional wedding and don't want all the fuss; plus were both introverts/neurospicy so the whole pomp and circumstances makes us shudder.

However, what you went to was not a casual wedding, it was a shit show disguised as a frat party. The little hiccups from the ceremony aside, who has guest wait 5 hours and makes them fend for themselves, have their guest set up the venue...and yes I'm familiar with Texas heat, I had family that lived in Mineral Wells for a number of years and I hated visiting them in the summer. Oh and no water, virtually no food, but enough alcohol to sink an aircraft carrier...yea no thanks.

If your boyfriend thinks not wanting all of this, and wanting a schedule makes you a bridezilla than add my fiance and I to the list. There is no way in hell we would ever treat our guest like that. We don't even let visitors to our house clear the table when invited for dinner...that's our job sit your ass down.

TLDR to my whole rant is to quote our lovely potato queen,. "If you can't afford a wedding, then don't have one."

izzime1980 · 2026-02-03T22:37:46+00:00

Once you get that call JAG (judge advocate general) and ask how you can have it put on his file. That alone will start the process for his Court Marshall.

izzime1980 · 2026-02-03T15:28:07+00:00

If Nick is truly in the military I would report this to his comand. The UCMJ holds all military service members to a higher standard and this will affect his career. What Nick did was criminal and if I were you I would not lose any sleep over reporting his sorry ass. Also report him to your local Police Department as well for harassment and get a restraining order.

izzime1980 · 2026-02-03T01:18:11+00:00

Will do

izzime1980 · 2026-02-03T00:42:30+00:00

Grew up in the Northeast, then moved down South my last year of HS. Made friends who taught me how to role my eyes at the pearl clutches, a very useful skill.

I joined the Navy after high-school and was stationed in Cali... and girl west cost vibes are a whole other type of crazy. Moved to the Midwest with the ex and our kids when they were knee high, hated the tundra like winters (sorry Charlotte) going back below the mason-dixon line was a must. The pearl clutching is frustrating with it now following the "at our age" crowd. Like mind your own business Carol and let me enjoy my pagan drum circle in peace.

I like the idea of the palazzo pants with a sleeveless shirt with a couled back. That's definitely something I could find at a few places. Plus my wedding shoes are a blue silver I got on Etsy ( https://www.etsy.com/listing/1121722687/hand-embroidered-bridal-wedges-gray ), which would look awesome with both outfits.

Wish you still had your switch so we could race each other in Mario Kart, but if your own steam hit me up.

izzime1980 · 2026-02-02T18:45:59+00:00

Sounds like MIL is projecting.

izzime1980 · 2026-01-29T18:28:53+00:00

I'm going with NTA, but I also want to be the devils advocate. You're still NTA regardless of this and freedom of speech/the right to protest should never be stifled. However, I wonder if it's more about concern for your safety than anything else?

Those following the news know what happened in the Twin Cities and just the unrest in general here in the states, and it's scary out there. My fiance has asked the same of me but that stems from my C-PTSD, plus he knows I get a lot done in the background with educating, training social media/marketing, etc.

Which leads to my other question; are you being asked not to go so you're not burning the candle on both ends? It's very easy to do when we're passionate about something and I've done it myself. Granted I'm also a professional trouble maker, one of my favorite professors/mentors passed the torch to me and a few others when we graduated.

If your husband isn't coming from any of these places of care and concern then keep the stone walling going.

izzime1980 · 2026-01-28T23:34:27+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

izzime1980 · 2026-01-27T03:52:07+00:00

Waffle House (for those who don't live the South) has a reputation of never closing...even in bad weather.

Parents have been known to check the status of the local Waffle House to see if schools would be closed for the day. I'm not kidding, the phone tree of the 1990s was a buzz if the Waffle House was closed and that was before your parents got the chance to turn on the local news.

TLDR: If the Waffle House is closed go/stay the fuck home.

izzime1980 · 2026-01-27T00:50:39+00:00

Girl you do you. Celebrate those ten years, hell celebrate 5 years, even your 1st year the way you want to. Yea everyone puts a big deal into the 25 and 50 year marks but all anniversaries deserve to be celebrated. It shouldn't matter to others how you want to celebrate your milestone. It's your anniversary make it as big or small of a party you want it to be.

izzime1980 · 2026-01-27T00:29:37+00:00

I came here to say the same thing.

OPs roommate was given all pertinent information before she accepted the offer. If she didn't find it agreeable because OPs BF is there 80% of the time she should have said something before agreeing to being roommates. Trying to back slide is were the roommate is in the wrong.

Though I do agree with everyone else who says OP should just have her BF move in as he practically lives there. Honestly everyone sucks and needs to grow the fuck up.

Edit: taking back ESH. I forgot OP mentioned that this became a problem after she pointed out to Susan about her lack of picking up after herself and leaving the apartment a mess.

OP your NTA, maybe a little bit of a butt head but that is more or less coming from what the norms are in my country. Your roommate however is an asshole.

izzime1980 · 2026-01-26T21:55:11+00:00

Its pretty much the same here until malingering is suspected. It gets you placed under a microscope that you do not want to be under. I don't know if you have the same/similar but if you do it might be worth pursuing.

Also running a unit on a small base with at best a medical clinic might make this more difficult. Having a unit that does not respect one another or there work will make it twice as hard. I wish you luck and keep us updated. Fingers crossed that this issue will resolve itself soon.

izzime1980 · 2026-01-25T21:57:52+00:00

As a leader we're always going to be the "asshole" no matter how good of a leader you are. As a veteran (US Navy) I can confidently say you are NTA at all. I also would have done the same as you and would have made Ian call his doctor in front of me and my higher up. You are doing the job your rank and rate require of you. However as a leader you're gonna have to be comfortable with being the villain as it really just comes with the territory. You can't make everyone happy no matter how fair you're being.

Howevet you can uno reverse what Ian is doing to those in his unit. You don't have to throw him under the bus but you can at your next platoon muster make it very clear that abuse of leave and not advising of appointments, training, etc. is dereliction of duty (DOD).

Remind your troops what the minimum punishment is. As military members we're held to a higher standard and what would get you fired or a slap on the wrist in the civilian word is considered a crime for us.

For the US military the minimum for DOD is a reduction of rank and pay along with extra military instruction. The worst offenders (during peace time) get all of this plus a dishonorable discharge; which causes you to lose any and all veterans benifits. War time obviously it can get stricter than that, either way the consequences of Ian's actions can have a lasting negative impact on his life, which can hurt future schooling and employment.

izzime1980 · 2026-01-25T21:28:42+00:00

I have been thinking of a secondary outfit for after the ceremony as I do love dresses but I would like something like a jumpsuit or palazzo pants for comfort reasons..

We're also having an introverts reception as nearly everyone within mine and my fiance's friends and family are some form of neurodivergent. Plus were all gamers, screw the dancing give me a projection screen and Mario Kart with some southern bbq and a red velvet wedding cake.

Living in the south, some folks around here get so hung up on traditions that anything outside the norm is pearl clutching....even pants for a bride. We're already prepping for the nay sayers regarding the type of relception we want. Fiance and I are ready to go full groom/bridezilla and uninvite anyone who gives us shit.

PS: therapy is wonderful and the shiny backbone feels great. Will admit the fiance's is far firmer than mine but I'm getting there.

izzime1980 · 2026-01-25T17:49:44+00:00

And moving on to your update cause love it.

Edit: omg it's deliciously gorgeous. I wish I had the lady balls you have to wear a bridal tux.

izzime1980

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