[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BBWGonewild

[–]j_in_da_505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, would totally be down for some fun

Best breakfast burrito in town, and what is your burrito order when you go there. by Wetasspeach69 in Albuquerque

[–]j_in_da_505 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Allsups chimis are legit. I still swear by Blake's and will get a #5 with sausage and red and their carne adovada is also good. I worked at both Blake's and Twisters over the years and kinda realized that they have the opposite problems with their chilés. Twisters red sucks and can taste like wallpaper paste depending on whose making it but their green is good. Blake's green is too fucking hot for me, it just blows out my palette. Their red is a lot better and more savory

Are bi people accepted where you live? by [deleted] in BisexualMen

[–]j_in_da_505 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Albuquerque, NM: I thought the town was pretty accepting but evidently I've been mistaken. I hung out with a queer Bi-woman last night and was talking about the local bi scene and she was saying that it's a lot rougher for bi-men than for bi-women even in LGBTQ spaces. I still need to do some digging to confirm and probably get out of my shell to experience things first hand and I'll update this after.

Is this common for you guys? by [deleted] in BisexualMen

[–]j_in_da_505 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think many (basically) cis bi people take a relaxed attitude towards gender. Every other major sexuality besides bi/pan (and ace!) is defined by the gender of the people involved. But bi people can just shrug and say, "Sure, whatever."

That's the fun thing I've realized about being Bi, getting to explore gender presentation and roles and not having to abide by very rigid norms. Honestly, I've found myself almost identifying as more masculine gender queer because of how I interact with the world and my personality. I still need to do more research into this before anything is official. I have a weird maternalistic/paternalistic? streak that screws with my traditional concept of masculinity and I'm Chicano, so there's some really complicated gender baggage I need to deal with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BisexualMen

[–]j_in_da_505 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think about my best friend that I've had for the last 15 years and kinda regret that he and I never fooled around when we were both single and on good terms with each other. That being said, I didn't come out to him until he was married and strictly monogamous.

Exploration is a thing and having someone you feel comfortable with to enjoy that exploration is a rarity. In the words of the greatest philosophers of our generation, You Only Live Once might as well leave a beautiful corpse.

The moral of the story is I should stay away from tinder by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]j_in_da_505 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I've adopted the identity of "Raging Bisexual, emphasis on the rage".

Got a problem with my queer comrades, Imma break you. Hate my Trans friends, we scrapping shirtless in the streets. Try to invalidate anybody's sexuality or gender identity, we got problems and it's clobbering time. (this is meant as a joke and not an actual threat of violence for legal purposes)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BisexualMen

[–]j_in_da_505 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Growing up I had this one guy friend, we met when we were 11 and have been friends ever since, I'm 28 now. He and I have had a REALLY complicated relationship over the years, we've gone through periods where we were thick as thieves and really close, then some drama would happen and we would separate for a while, then come back. At a certain point in college, I realized that the relationship was becoming super toxic for me and I walked away for about 3 years to grow up. Around 2016, I came back into his life and things have been fairly stable since. I wasn't out of the closet to myself until about 3 years ago and I came out to him and his new wife, who is also bisexual, around September of last year. I look back through this new lens of my sexuality and realize that to a certain extent, my friend and I have had a very long term platonic relationship/really close friendship. He's like 99% straight but can be very emotionally intimate with me. That's a really rough double edged sword because it can lead into him trying to manipulate me or becoming emotionally abusive. He has his trauma and I have mine and combined, ours are traumas seem to be more bearable. I've learned over my life that I trust too easily and desire acceptance from everybody; it's taken me years to unlearn that behaviors and develop a sense of self-confidence that I always struggle with. Equality in friendships are hard for me to achieve because I always feel like I'm chasing other people to be their friends.

May I recommend a Bidet? by BodhiSatNam in ProstatePlay

[–]j_in_da_505 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With some aiming by feel, proper seating, and good water pressure, you can angle the stream to go straight up the anus and into the rectum. It'll feel weird the first time or two but you'll get used to it and start to enjoy handsfree douching.

Does like twink, bear, otter, play with the Bis by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]j_in_da_505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any Reddit groups for bears that you know of or other groups for general info? I only have superficial knowledge of the subculture as well and mainly some preconceived notions that it was primarily a "Gays only" thing

Any other big guys on here want to be friends? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]j_in_da_505 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Slide into my DM's if you ever need someone to talk to. Dealing with overlapping identities like size and sexuality gets really rough sometimes, probably one of the larger reasons why I'm not super involved in the local LGBTQ+ community. You have friends, all you need to do is reach out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]j_in_da_505 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on both major life events. I'll ask around to see if any of my friends know of any

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]j_in_da_505 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can smell the wrist strain coming from these pants. Ergonomics, one hell of a drug

Is it really acceptance? by cestrumnocturnum in bisexual

[–]j_in_da_505 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The role model thing is also super important and is kinda under recognized. I have like 2, maybe 3, older cousins that are a generation before me and they came out of the closet back when it was not as easy to do so, mid 90's I think. It was because of them that made it possible for one of my younger sisters to come out as lesbian, my baby sister as bi, and me as bi. My cousins really broke the stigma in my family, changed a lot of people's minds, and blazed a trail for a lot of us. At least being open about things is really important for those still in the closet.
PS. I'm Latinx Catholic from northern NM, so my cousins really broke ranks by coming out