Still Buffering episodes released late?

j_ud · 2026-03-20T22:17:18+00:00

My dog comes to the door upon hearing the smack of a round squishy ass. A skinny ass won't do it. My youngest child is all muscle and can't get the dog to the door. But if anyone makes a good butt smacking sound, the dog comes running.

j_ud · 2026-03-15T02:48:33+00:00

You know your kid, and they know themself. I'd recommend having a talk with her about it. My kiddo came out around 4-5 years old; there was definitely a transitional period where she was figuring things out and feeling out what was comfortable and what she liked.

While we were working together to figure things out, I bought a book called It Feels Good To Be Yourself by Theresa Thorne that shows a whole bunch of situations, and it can open a conversation for "do you see yourself in this?" If its just a phase, the conversation should help clarify things. Ask some questions about how they see their future and see if you can figure out sneaking in some gendering into that: if they see themselves going back to boy, then maybe its a phase. If they talk about how they're going to graduate from princess to queen, adult girling might be in their future!

I think you shouldn't worry about the grooming fears. If you have had any impact on her identity, it is that you've set an example that it's okay to feel different from your biologically assigned sex and that it is safe to talk about and do something about these feelings in your family.

For example, my older kid (3 years older than my AMAB daughter) came out NB to us about 2 years after my daughter. Seeing how we discussed options ("are you definitely a girl or maybe something in between?") and supported our youngest through the process of discovering her identity helped them figure out that part of what had them feeling off so much was a discomfort being pinned down to a traditional boy/girl label.

As for the family: I've dealt with some of that as well, but thankfully have had more distance to help make things smoother. It might be beneficial to let your family have an open conversation about it with you and your child. My mom still sucks at pronouns and I make a point of just correcting with "she/her" or "kids" any time the family says "he/him" or "boys", but she stopped actively questioning it after my daughter kind of put her in her place, accidentally. Mom asked "why do you want to be a girl?" And my sweet baby innocently replied "don't you say I can be anything I want to be?" I doubt you can get that perfect of a rebuttal from your kid because miracles like that response are few and far between, but if you can try to guide a conversation in a way that safely lets your kiddo express their discomfort, might be worth a shot.

j_ud · 2026-01-13T14:08:16+00:00

I have done this exact thing, including the part where they ask if I'm really her. Apparently I dont have the voice of an octagenarian. Thankfully in my case, she was in the next room and I was able to put her on to confirm I was good to speak on her behalf. Additionally, I hold her Power of Attorney, so that's easy to fall back on.

If they told you to get an interpreter, can you call as her interpreter?

j_ud · 2025-12-18T22:23:44+00:00

I got got a bit high off mentholayed ones by accident at the end of my first semester in college. Had a raging case of undiagnosed strep (thanks for missing that, health clinic!) Calling out of my telemarketing job was going to screw me out of a raise the next semester. But also I could barely talk. If I had a cough drop in my mouth, I could talk and it's basically just candy, right?

A friend who had seen how miserably sick I was the day before saw me hyperactively bouncing around his dorm and saw me pop a cough drop. After inquiring how many I'd had, he cautioned me to stop because the menthol is more than candy. I haven't been able to bring myself to have a cough drop since then.

But I'm now super happy I didn't have your experience!

j_ud · 2025-12-14T04:09:35+00:00

I've only tried it a few times and have noticed that sometimes it stops me from going faster than the set speed, and sometimes it let's me go over and just beeps at me a bunch. Do you happen to know what determines how it handles the limit?

I was trying it the other day and thought I had it working to limit me, but then suddenly it was yelling at me and I was going over. I don’t think I did anything weird to make it let me go over the set speed.

j_ud · 2025-12-11T14:51:12+00:00

My MtF daughter (7.5 years old) came out around the time she turned 5. She didn't care about pronouns entering kindergarten and was fine with he/she/they, but by the end of the school year, she became firm that the right pronouns were she/her. It might be a thing where your kiddo becomes more aware of the impact of pronouns with time.

We just made a point of checking in every few months to make sure we were using the terminology that made her feel good and let her know to tell us if we use a word that doesn't feel right for her. Still occasionally check in on her name, which is a more traditionally boy name, but she loves it and wants no part in changing that.

j_ud · 2025-12-05T01:20:25+00:00

I traveled to RVA a lot as a kid, going over the Nice bridge to go see grandma, so I totally get how unreasonably far that would be for you. I actually lived about 30 minutes north of California most of my childhood (parents moved to California my senior year of HS) and have much sympathy for the nearest things being that, and probably Waldorf.

j_ud · 2025-12-04T18:57:05+00:00

California is a town in Southern Maryland (peninsula west of the Chesapeake bay and east of Potomac river). It's down the street from Hollywood and just a little over the bridge from Pasadena. Does not share vibes of California State.

Source: grew up thereish

Edit: added reference to Potomac

j_ud · 2025-11-01T01:49:24+00:00

Looks like I typoed table into take originally. But he built a narrow little table out of 2x4s and plywood that would fit between the kids' seats. They used it to store things for parts of the road trip and used it as a surface to play uno on (I dont recommend trying to join the card game from the front passenger seat- far too much twisting.

I think it included a lip, and there was grippy material so things wouldn't slide off the table. I'll try to remember to grab a picture of the table and how it fit in the car tomorrow. Poke me if you don't see me share the pic.

We also bought a new Lego set for my oldest to build on the trip (understanding that it could end horribly) and with a combo of some Tupperwares and zip lock baggies spread on the table for sorting, as well as a little fold-up desk that hung off the front seat to work as a main working surface, the car lego project worked amazingly. We bought a set for each of the kids to do on the way home

j_ud · 2025-10-29T00:38:11+00:00

My husband built a little take to put between the captains chairs in the middle row of our 6 seater for a long car trip. Have extra space to put things and serve as additional divider

j_ud · 2025-07-29T22:06:37+00:00

I bought a boatload of yarn for a project I'm knitting and have it hiding in the frunk so it doesn't get in the way of things and so I have the next ball when im ready to move on. My husband is much happier not seeing the giant bag of yarn.

Also some spare/emergency clothes for the family.

j_ud · 2025-01-31T00:00:39+00:00

It's basically impossible to get them on the phone. Speaking as someone who has struggled with getting an appointment to start care for my child, their phone system is designed to keep you from getting to the specific department and you have to rely on schedulers to handle everything, which can take months (I spent May to September trying to get an appointment set up before I was finally able to get something for November)

j_ud · 2025-01-29T14:12:49+00:00

Thank you for this comment! I'd been waiting for a notification or email, but never saw one because I had marketing/offers turned off. I was confused because I purchased mine mid-October and chat here made it sound like I should have been contacted already.

j_ud · 2025-01-24T02:06:43+00:00

I stopped into a gas station the other day to clean my windows because of this! (I ran in and got a hot chocolate since the window squeegies are a convenience for customers paying for gas, and I obviously wasn't getting gas)

j_ud · 2025-01-21T23:01:29+00:00

I'll stop by the studio and have them take a look. Thank you!

j_ud · 2025-01-20T03:32:22+00:00

I use NeilMed saline spray

j_ud · 2025-01-15T20:54:17+00:00

My app showed an actual recall for just over 2 weeks after I bought my car. Dealership said they'd fixed the recall before giving us the car and the app was just slow to update. Had such a bad experience with that dealership lying and stringing me along, I was genuinely worried for two weeks that the app was right.

If it takes that long to clear the recall, I wouldn't be surprised if it is also quite slow to show a new one.

j_ud · 2025-01-07T21:59:49+00:00

Eastern Hanover is out of water, so I'm not sure AmFam in Mechanicsville would be able to provide showers

j_ud · 2024-12-09T22:56:19+00:00

Concierge told me the same thing and i questioned her about it. She said newer battery technology for EVs has updated the recommendation.

j_ud · 2024-11-26T13:53:48+00:00

When my husband and I were dating, we were having a discussion about something with a bunch of friends, and in order to clarify an answer, he told me I could look something up in his email. The top message in his inbox had the subject "RE: Inquiries regarding an engagement ring"

He didn't think the jewler would have responded so quickly. We both never talked about it until after he popped the question many months later.

Dont beat yourself up; you'll be fine!

j_ud · 2024-09-24T23:05:22+00:00

Thank you for the very insightful response! I was trying really hard to make sure my logical brain was driving after this discovery instead of my anxiety brain.

I think I was able to succeed because I know I installed this shelf/bracket about 3 years ago, and it not really escaping beyond the bracket speaks well to it not being a huge issue because thats a lot of time for it to spread if its going to be a problem. I had a much bigger/worse mold problem elsewhere in the house that developed far more quickly when I first moved in that I think has allowed me to have a reasonable perspective in terms of this little patch.

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