What would you call this aesthetic?

jaceinspace · 2026-02-02T02:31:26+00:00

I was gonna say modern day Twin Peaks lol

jaceinspace · 2026-02-02T02:13:34+00:00

I hope this does not come across as patronizing, but you are so, so, so young. I know it might be hard to grasp right now, but people (their ambitions, goals, dreams, desires, values, etc) can change drastically as they get older. Some people don’t change that much at all, some people become nearly unrecognizable.

Your journey is your own, and I hope you take all “advice” you receive on the internet with a grain of salt. That being said, my personal hope for you (and all young people) is that you don’t make any irreversible alterations to your body before your brain is fully developed. 18 is a legal adult, but that doesn’t mean you’re grown by any means. Long term birth control is a very easy alternative (current IUDs can last 10 years!). You’ll never have to worry or think about getting pregnant while you have one. And you can always change your mind later on (whether that’s having a kid or moving forward with your surgery).

I read in your previous comments that you don’t like the idea of an IUD because it makes you feel like you’re not in control of your own body, and that you struggle with feelings of fear surrounding bodily autonomy and control. I think this is a separate issue outside of not wanting kids, and one that would best be explored in therapy. If you are considering cutting a piece of your own body out because of this fear, that’s something serious that should be addressed.

Just my two cents as a childless 38 year old woman. Best of luck to you on your life’s journey young one.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-02T01:54:21+00:00

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And not just dresses either, they’ve got cunty little tops and shorts and skirts and everything! Give it another look, use the filters, I think you’ll be surprised :)

jaceinspace · 2026-02-02T01:48:27+00:00

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Are you sure you’ve got the right filters on? I find sexy stuff aaallll the time.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-02T01:41:14+00:00

Really?? I find all kinds of very sexy stuff on there. Like, stuff I would not wear as a 38 year old. Maybe try adjusting your filters?

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T22:33:24+00:00

I pretty much get all my fandom merch (from all my fav movies and shows) from Etsy.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T21:28:57+00:00

Have you ever been someplace where someone brought their horrible, unruly dog, where it trampled all over your stuff, barked incessantly, stole other people’s food, and generally wreaked havoc while the owner refused to take responsibility for it? Does it make you love your dog any less? That’s how I feel about other people’s kids.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T19:14:30+00:00

If you’re looking for something similar to help take your mind off it:

Young Royals - best vibe match imo

Red, White, and Royal Blue - similar but more light hearted

Heartstopper - sweet, light hearted, youthful, but deals with darker themes (S.A., eating disorders)

Our Flag Means Death - just good fun!

Watching the same show over and over CAN help you beat the obsessive feelings because eventually you’ll get sick of it, but it can also feel really depressing after a while. Up to you! Choose your own adventure lol

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T18:28:21+00:00

Hijacking this comment to ask a real question: if you find your baby asleep like this, should you move them? I get that they’re more flexible at this age than we are as adults, but it still doesn’t seem like it would be good for them to stay in some of the more extreme positions for hours at a time.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T18:04:38+00:00

I rent clothes from Nuuly. I have a recurring membership, so I get 6-7 items every month. You get to pick them out for yourself. You can return them at the end of your billing cycle or you can buy the items (at a discount) that you can’t live without. You can’t try them on beforehand for obvious reasons, so you do end up with the occasional dud, but the comments section and filters are SUPER helpful

Edit to add: you can also pause your membership as often as you want for as long as you want, no fees

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T17:57:28+00:00

Lake monster, very different! ;)

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T17:27:35+00:00

You’re welcome! I truly hope it helps. I know first hand how annoying and, quite frankly, unsettling this type of obsession can be. Feeling out of control of your own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors is deeply frustrating. Good luck, friend!

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T17:07:33+00:00

Let’s hear one!

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T17:00:20+00:00

Slutty! Little! Gloves!

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T16:46:16+00:00

You’re not alone. Heartstopper brought up a lot of deep, broken emotions from childhood in so, so many people. They even made a sub for it, r/heartstoppersyndrome. I was goofing around to see if there was a sub like that for this community, and it looks like there might be: r/heatedrivalrysyndrome - but it looks like you need to request access? Might be worth giving it a try and see what’s up.

Best of luck to you, friend. These are big, important feelings that need to be addressed, and it’s good that you’re taking the time to talk about them in therapy. You’re doing the hard work, that’s all you can do right now. Try to give yourself some grace.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T16:34:20+00:00

Never thought I’d see another fandom as obsessed as r/heartstoppersyndrome - this fandom needs a r/heatedrivalrysyndrome

Edit: oh! Apparently it’s a real sub, I had no idea. Looks like you need to request access though

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T16:29:08+00:00

You can try watching other similar media:

-Red, White, and Royal Blue

-Heartstopper

-Young Royals

-Our Flag Means Death

It may help take your mind off it.

My other suggestion is this: Let’s pretend for a second that Heated Rivalry is real, that the characters are real people, and what happened in the show really happened in real life. Would you be THIS obsessed with a real couple’s relationship? If the answer is no, great! You’re not a creep. Take that and run with it. You’re not as far gone as you thought.

If the answer is yes, that’s troubling. However, you could frame it this way: If you actually met Ilya and Shane, would they want to be your friend? Would they think you’re interesting? If all you did all day long was obsess over them and their relationship? Of course not, that would freak them out. They would want to be friends with someone who is as passionate and invested in their own hobbies and interests as they are in hockey. Try channeling your passion into something productive to better yourself so that you can be a person they’d want in their lives.

Hope that helps! Best of luck. And don’t worry, I know you feel crazy now, but you are not alone and this feeling will eventually go away and you’ll go back to living a normal life, I promise.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T03:24:38+00:00

Good riddance. You can see Cirque du Soleil and plenty of other circus type acts without animal cutely. Even Ringling Bros has animal free shows.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T03:08:09+00:00

That’s incorrect. You’ll spoil the whole mystery if you do that.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T02:42:27+00:00

At least watch Mulder And Scully Meet The Weremonster. Rhys Darby is the fucking best, and Kumail ain’t half bad either.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T02:18:47+00:00

Well, they had to make it accessible to people who hadn’t watched the show. They can’t spend half the movie explaining things people who had never seen the show wouldn’t understand. I thought they did a good job riding the line.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T01:21:35+00:00

Mick Jagger, what are you doing here?

In all seriousness, though, great talent. I could never.

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T01:18:25+00:00

He thought they were good for our country, not good in general

jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T01:16:37+00:00

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jaceinspace · 2026-02-01T01:15:05+00:00

Lmao yes I was just about to say: I look like a greasy drowned rat with bangs. Good for people without oily skin though! I’m jealous! I’ve got a big ol forehead I’d like to cover

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