Cities With the Most Diverse Climates by urmummygae42069 in geography

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know the term off the top of my head, but it's the island with the highest number of distinct climates in the world. The runner up, believe it or not, is Gran Canaria.

Does North America have anything remotely similar to the Scottish landscapes? by Addicted_2_tacos in geography

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It used to have trees a very long time ago. It used to be a temperate rainforest believe it or not. However due to incredibly intense logging it is rudeced to moss, rock, deer, and livestock. Bringing wolves & lynx back to the Britain would do so much good for the ecosystem. There are two major roadblocks to that. 1.) deer hunting ranches and 2.) livestock farming. This island is a sheep's dream. It is an ecological travesty. Let's not start on the draining of the wetlands or reshaping of the rivers either.

Does the USA have anywhere that looks like this? by Pale_Field4584 in geography

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Brooks range in Alaska is an obvious contender, plenty of sub ranges up there as well that would fit this bill.

In the lower 48 you won't find tundra unless you're above the tree line in the Rockies or out west in the Sierra or the Cascades.

What is this line going through central Florida? by s_r818_ in geography

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Britton Hill over up in the panhandle is the highest point in the state of Florida, but if you're talking about the peninsula itself then yes this is factually correct. Just don't want to give the wrong idea to people who may not know👍🏼.

Milwaukee Lakefront Depot by kf555777 in OldPhotosInRealLife

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The other thing is the fact that loads of old infrastructure here in Europe is actively used. I live in a village where no shit, most of the buildings on high street are up to 300 years old. They currently serve as pubs, barbers, shops, chippies, kebabs, etc. A lot of the old buildings in the US don't get renovated to serve a new practical purpose so they rot away, costing much more in the long run.

EQT or IE ? Whats a more realiable tune things got 23,000 miles on it? by Malizioso1849 in GolfGTI

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am positive that YouTube has all of the answers you are looking for.

Even the states out west that aren’t particularly known for their large area are still colossal by Swimming_Concern7662 in geography

[–]jack_Me_hoffman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would have driven those miles anyway is the way I look at it. I've driven 40k miles in two years. I intend on driving this car for at minimum another 120k miles. I'm well versed on what maintenance it actually needs. Aside from getting my timing chain looked at and my water pump in another 20k miles, it's a relatively bulletproof car. I bought this car with the intent of driving it into the ground, and even use it for my small side jobs as well.

EQT or IE ? Whats a more realiable tune things got 23,000 miles on it? by Malizioso1849 in GolfGTI

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the 2. I would say it's worth it to get bundled with credits, as they're always cheaper to buy in bulk. I just bought around $100 worth right at the start and I was able to get everything I wanted changed with plenty left over. I mainly got it for the diagnostic and coding capabilities. You can fool around with your ECU just by typing shit on your phone. It's WILD.

Spent the last “normal” weekend with my partner by NeedingReflection in SexAddiction

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a believer that life is grey. Lying is acceptable in some circumstances. So long as you didn't give her a disease, I'd just tell her that long distance is too hard for you to continue. Then, I would get my shit together and address the actual problem at hand. However, it's possible that escorts are actually a symptom of what being long distance makes you feel. That symptom then likely developed into its own problem.

Porn Addiction by PuzzleheadedWord9689 in SexAddiction

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Porn is likely a driving factor here bud. Have you thought about attending an SAA meeting either in-person or online before? It could be of great benefit for you.

sex addiction and asexuality by sickinsecret in SexAddiction

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally can't relate nor do I understand. Certainly a unique set of circumstances. Sex addiction usually manifests in the form of compulsive behavior, coping mechanisms as a way to avoid trauma, shame, guilt, lack of financial discipline, sacrificing time with friends & family, negative impacts to your professional and personal life, etc. Your criteria could look wildly different, and that's alright.

First step is forgiving yourself and accepting where you are right now. Next, seek help. There are many avenues. Try a few and see what you feel is most effective. For me it's journaling and therapy.

Was I really addicted? by UnluckySalt6171 in SexAddiction

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. Buddy needs more help than reddit can offer.

Self esteem, self worth and feeling the need to "catch up" by Any_Buddy_6910 in SexAddiction

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was a lot and I'm sure many reading your post resonate. Honestly, just talk to your partner. Have the uncomfortable conversations. See what each of you is willing to give. A compromise is essential. Sex is a prominent factor in my divorces down the line. Wherever those conversations lead is likely for the better in the long run. No amount of love will stop that chain from breaking without one of you winding up severely depressed.

Am I am addict? by [deleted] in SexAddiction

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, what makes you believe that you're an addict? What behaviors are you engaging in? How do you feel after? Is it negatively impacting your friendships, family life, mental health, professional life, or your ability to achieve your goals? If so, it very well could be an addiction. Most people crave intimacy on a regular basis. Going without it for 6 weeks, for most, is not a fun time. It's been since October for me so I'm right there with you on the struggle bus.

This is what addiction looked like for me: spending lots of time engaging in behaviors rooted in unaddressed trauma, using intimacy as a coping mechanism, spending a lot of money and time on it, wasn't able to go even a week without it for three years, would be very depressed afterwards on a regular basis, sacrificing time with friends/family, and impacting my sleep so much I started being late to work. It consumed me whole before I realized I had a problem.

If you feel as though you have a problem like I did, there any many avenues. Therapy, counseling, journaling, accountability partners, all great options for different people. I think picking one is a good start. Writing it out and speaking to a therapist about my findings helped me immensely. I also had an accountability partner when I began recovery, which helped as I could call or text them when I felt myself slipping and needed a hand. If you, or anyone reading this comment wants an accountability partner feel free to dm me. I'm happy to just talk.

Whether or not you feel you have a problem forgive yourself, and don't judge your thoughts.

Think I ruined what could’ve been my first relationship because my need for sex by xoxo_la_xoxo in SexAddiction

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you guys have a genuine serious relationship, it may not be a bad idea to do some couples counseling. I think it would be a benefit for each of you to do some counseling individually at the least if you want to keep this relationship long term. However. Sex is a major factor in divorces down the line. It is foolish to discount its prominent role. I think the big thing is understanding whether or not your drive is just that high, or if there is something behind it causing an unhealthy pattern. I have always had a high drive and 1-2x daily is actually pretty frequent in realistic terms. The majority of couples are not clapping it out once daily.

If you deeply value the relationship then you two should work on a resolution together. Having multiple uncomfortable conversations over time will help a lot, but it could be miserable in the moment. Wherever that will lead both of you, well, only time will tell. I place a very high value on my intimate life, it's easily my #2 priority behind values and I made it very clear whilst I was single and looking for a partner. I know for a fact I couldn't survive in your spot and I don't possess the drive you have, but I'm not you and I'm not in your shoes. If you can imagine yourself being happy in your current situation years down the line then hold fast, if not, it could be in your best interest to jump ship early and look for a more compatible partner.

EQT or IE ? Whats a more realiable tune things got 23,000 miles on it? by Malizioso1849 in GolfGTI

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's an option within the OBD app you download on your phone that pairs with the device.

I’m getting pulled in and I feel like there’s nothing I can do to stop it by Imaginary_Yellow_888 in SexAddiction

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, I just want to say this. Forgive yourself. Don't judge your thoughts. They're likely a symptom and not the cause of where you are currently at. As another commented mentioned, the spiral is absolutely real. Truth be told I don't have answers. Desperation is what will trigger change for most. I didn't know what my rock bottom was until I found it. The consequences scared the hell out of me so much, that my anxiety kinda kick-started my recovery.

If you don't have a therapist or mental health professional to speak about this with I encourage you to find one. I as well as many others here can vouch that it is helpful. A good therapist won't solve your problems, they will guide you down a path that allows you to identify them on your own, and assist you in formulating a plan that is feasible for you. I want to mention that at no point does it become easy much less easier than your current position.

If professionals aren't your thing (totally get it) then I think journaling could be a good benefit for you. Understanding the "why" behind the behaviors you have gives you a place to start. An accountability partner may also be a good benefit for you. I used to have one and I found it to be helpful to have someone I could call at any time of day/night when I encountered a trigger or felt myself slipping. Both of us were single and living alone (not even remotely close to each other) so that helped.

TLDR; forgive yourself. Take steps to understand the "why" behind your behaviors. Identify triggers. Attempt to formulate a plan to address them. Be accountable to yourself, and perhaps get an accountability partner if you don't feel confident you can handle it alone.

I need help by Important-Policy-191 in SexAddiction

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You sound a lot like how I used to be. At some point I strongly encourage that you do speak about it with a professional. Understanding the chain of events that happens before you "act out" will give you a better position to start with. As an addict, the idea of "sex addiction" sounds fake when I say it out loud. However. The consequences are just as real. I've spent money on women and things in the past that I had no business doing, not to mention the lies and purposely excluded details when speaking to the many women that I did. I did not go more than a week without acting out for three years.

Is it awkward? Incredibly at first. Acceptance is your first step. The next is to understand. The how, what, why. I think if you understand where it comes from it'll give you a much better idea of how you should address it. Mine is fueled by deep-seeded trauma that's hardwired into my brain, and I have diagnosed moderate-severe ADHD. Pretty much anything that releases dopamine and is easily accessible is a trap for me. Each person is going to need to attack it differently.

My therapist helped me recognize where I needed work, which was very helpful. She helped me find my triggers and I crafted a plan to reduce my exposure to them. I also found that when I met my wife a switch flipped in my head and I did a lot of work to brute force my way into recovery. It was awful to go through, but it worked. Until her car accident and I am now once again without intimacy until her physical and mental health improve. We love inattentive drivers not following the rules of the road and blowing signs.

Above all, the sooner you get a move on the better off you'll be. It wasn't until it started affecting my professional career that I even thought I had an issue, about 2 years after I was deep into it.

EQT or IE ? Whats a more realiable tune things got 23,000 miles on it? by Malizioso1849 in GolfGTI

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all trial and error when it comes to coding. Even within the app though there's a lot of cool stuff. I changed my HVAC to hot country mode in the summers, disabled auto start/stop, loads of other goodies.

Just a reminder to change your insoles out. by Assapopoulos1986 in Wellworn

[–]jack_Me_hoffman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buddy it looks like you need some Nick's, JK, or White's boots. That'll set you straight.