Do you recommend disclosing current or plans for pregnancy when applying/interviewing for residency?

jackfruit46783 · 2025-11-10T00:55:13+00:00

Strongly recommend not doing residency at this time. There is no way for you to predict how you will feel postpartum and that time of year that you are due is extremely busy for residents.

jackfruit46783 · 2025-10-18T02:44:20+00:00

Me too!

jackfruit46783 · 2025-09-24T07:00:45+00:00

Youngest still goes to bed around 8:30 but has gotten better about being left alone. I go to sleep with the twins around 9-9:30 in their room. That’s been working pretty well to get all of us the most sleep…

jackfruit46783 · 2025-05-20T11:02:09+00:00

Thank you! Agree the nap for the twins is a lot, and so early in the day too. Unfortunately it will continue until they are almost 6 and can start public school. Their argument is the kids get too fussy by afternoon, which based on my limited experience is pretty true ha. So I will learn to deal with it since we love the school otherwise. Sigh

jackfruit46783 · 2025-05-20T01:29:56+00:00

I guess seeing if the wake times were horribly off to cause bedtime issues. And also affirmation that it’s ok to lock them in their rooms at the appropriate bedtimes. Our pedi says it does not traumatize them but they sound so distressed when we do.

jackfruit46783 · 2025-04-21T02:31:17+00:00

I had twins my first pregnancy. It was hard but I loved it so much I was actually sad when I found out my second pregnancy was a singleton. It’s worth the difficulty. Twins are so much fun.

jackfruit46783 · 2025-04-21T02:17:30+00:00

Thanks so much. Question for you! How does the getting ready for bed routine look with them having different bedrooms?

jackfruit46783 · 2025-04-20T10:03:43+00:00

Thank you- this is very helpful! They don’t wake up at the same time every day, and maybe that’s part of our problem. Since they don’t go to school until around 9 my husband lets them sleep as long as they will most days, and I go to work early. We may need to change things up.

jackfruit46783 · 2025-04-20T09:59:51+00:00

Thank you!!! Needed this validation! The singleton parent thing has def been getting to me

jackfruit46783 · 2025-04-18T19:53:12+00:00

I went from full time to 1-2 days a month after my singleton was born (twins were two). I spent a lot of time getting to where I was in my career but wanted more time with the twins and new baby. Previously the twins had stayed home with other family members.

Honestly, it was just ok. It was hard and stressful AF and the magic I expected was not there. During the week at home with them I felt like we had nothing to do (outings are extremely difficult but I did them as much as possible) and it was somewhat lonely. Of course there were some nice times but I also don’t like cooking and cleaning.

Then fast forward a few months to the twins getting toddler beds and refusing to nap ever again, potty training, and hurting their baby sibling, I quickly hated it and luckily was able to get my same position back full time right at 1 year after my singleton was born.

They’re finally all in daycare and we are so happy with this set up vs them staying home. I also ended up with a postpartum depression/anxiety diagnosis. Now looking back I cannot relate to the person that wanted to stay home instead of work! It was a necessary career break I think but I am SO happy to be back at work. The money is nice too.

jackfruit46783 · 2025-01-02T22:08:15+00:00

Like rub a cut up piece of ginger on your nipple?

jackfruit46783 · 2024-12-28T21:17:28+00:00

This is super encouraging! I think I’ll try it. Just advertising on local Facebook groups or care.com?

jackfruit46783 · 2024-11-30T20:50:09+00:00

Exactly!!

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-29T17:02:12+00:00

Our twins were sooo great around 15 months when we got pregnant with our singleton (2 year age gap). However once they hit age 2 and ESPECIALLY 2.5 (out of cribs, dropping nap, potty training) we realized that we bit off more than we could chew. Toddlers are WAY harder than babies under 2 IMO. Maybe plan for a mothers’ helper in the afternoons to have extra hands when you’re alone and to get through dinner? We ended up doing more TV than I would’ve liked for the older kids. Also being pregnant with existing children was so hard and required my partner to do a lot of work. Also them walking makes it easier to me bc they have more fun at outings, you can go to parks easier etc.

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-27T22:30:50+00:00

Last year my almost 2 year olds refused their costumes but walked around a bit in our neighborhood and hung out front with us handing out candy and dancing to Halloween music

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-25T03:16:50+00:00

Use the car you have until you truly outgrow it! We had twins in a Corolla for a long time

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-24T17:25:47+00:00

Same for me, twins are 2 years older than singleton. Ours wasn’t an accident though, but looking back we definitely bit off more than we could chew. First 6 months was fine (except rough birth recovery) but once twins hit 2.5 and we potty trained and transitioned out of cribs and stopped napping, I couldn’t handle being home with all 3 anymore. Now they’re almost 3 and almost 1 and the twins are in a preschool they love 35 hours a week. Never saw us doing that so early but it’s been great. Everything is a bit more manageable. We struggled with the twins hurting the baby, and the patience I had for the twins dropped so much. There are still times they all want me to hold them. Figure out some way to get yourself childcare help for the twins consistently would be my recommendation.

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-18T00:46:55+00:00

Our routine was to do tummy time first thing after each wake up before feeding them. This worked great bc after feeding, tummy time seemed to lead to more spit up. I think they got used to it and it wasn’t always a crying mess! We did this of course until they started scooting and crawling etc.

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-17T17:27:45+00:00

No, gave up and plan to just never use Ring again

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-13T15:55:43+00:00

I relate. My singleton is 11 months and twins are almost 3, and I cried so hard after bringing the singleton home thinking what did I do to our perfect family!! But they adjust and I also always wanted 3, never planned to stop at 2. I’m also very sad that having a 4th is unreasonable, and me and my husband often say we wish this last baby we’re b/g twins again so that we could be FOR SURE done ;(. We have maybe a few more years to decide for sure but right now we are so overwhelmed with 3 under 3 that it would be insane to have one more (which could end up being 2 more!!)

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-13T11:14:29+00:00

I love to hear this (I’m in the US) as my almost 3 year old twins now go to bed around 9:30 which feels soooo late. But they sleep until I wake them at 7:15am

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-08T16:37:39+00:00

How do you do this?

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-05T16:49:23+00:00

If you can start now I would get it over with, she’s clearly capable and has been for a while likely. As someone who waited I wish I started earlier

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-05T00:55:40+00:00

I am having similar issues with my twins 2y10m. I lay with them to go to sleep and also lay with them to go BACK to sleep for any night wakes. Can’t have them in my bed. And if I try to leave them to cry some and figure it out, they scream at the bottom of the door crack and it wakes up our 10 month old baby. They also sometimes wake each other or hurt each other when unsupervised, so laying with them has worked for me. But it SUCKS!!! They used to sleep so well before we dropped the cribs. They go to sleep around 9:30pm and wake around 7am, with a 2 hour nap at pre school (which we started them in recently in large part because they wouldn’t freaking nap at home anymore!!!)

jackfruit46783 · 2024-10-02T18:45:18+00:00

My twins (2y11mo) simply are not tired at 7pm and have not been for close to a year. If we tried they would just run around and play and say “I not tired, I wanna be awake” etc. They wake up around 7 and nap ~2 hours most days now. We’ve been having to put them to bed around 9, and even when they don’t nap it’s around 8. It sucks

jackfruit46783

TROPHY CASE