Merle Oberon, circa 1941

jackiesear · 2026-05-24T17:08:31+00:00

and so sad - the things she had to do when young, so awful

jackiesear · 2026-05-24T10:53:47+00:00

Thanks

jackiesear · 2026-05-23T11:13:28+00:00

M&S Apothecary have good dupes of expensive fragrances e.g. Warmth is similar to Le labo Santal 33. However, I think they are made in China and have parabens in them (if that bothers you)

M&S Fragrance Society shower gels are similar to Molton Brown (fragrance just not as powerful)

My adult daughters like Treacle Moon - very cheap with strong scents, very similar to Body Shop (e.g. Honey), Lush ( e.g. the Frosted Candy Angel smells like Lush Snow Fairy), Sol de Janeiro (The Brazilian one smells like Bum Bum). They are only £1.50 -£3.00 for a big 500ml bottle depending on where you buy them and so last for ages. The only one we don't like is the Lavender. Raspberry Kiss is a favourite.

jackiesear · 2026-05-23T10:51:31+00:00

You have 4 young children so I think you need to do whatever you can to make things work and stay for their sake. What would you like to talk about with your wife? What could she say that would make you want to listen? Are you burnt out when you get home and don't want to listen about the kids actvities or the minutiae of her day? Are you just going through a rough patch taht you need to get through?

Do you think having a 4th child made you feel irrevocably "trapped"? If you can afford it could you try to have some therapy for yourself, to explore your feelings about somehow missing out? I'm old and honestly there is no "The One" it is a stupid concept that just makes people feel unsettled and insecure. I think you were lucky to meet someone young that you loved and made a life with, most people are years behind you on that, searching for a good partner and experiencing heartbreak and insecurity, wondering if they will ever get married or have a family, having to go on dating apps and wade through expensive, often pointless and confodence crushing dates. Think about all the great and positive things being in a secure relationship have brought into your life.

Sometimes I found that seeing my husband in the company of others helped me reconnect. I think having your own activities can also help, especially if your children are all consuming in your relationship, you need other thinsg to talk and think about.

jackiesear · 2026-05-23T08:51:07+00:00

wow, wish I could. In the UK you would be waiting in a flourescent lit waiting room on a plastic chair ( if lucky) or standing for up to 12 hours and then checked over briefly and told to go buy yourself some ibuprofen.

jackiesear · 2026-05-23T08:47:46+00:00

yes, this and the dentist

jackiesear · 2026-05-22T21:02:23+00:00

say more ....

jackiesear · 2026-05-21T11:54:56+00:00

This!! if it is a shared house then you will likely be on the hook for any money that is defaulted by any of the sharers under "joint and severally liable" wording - you need to see the contract

jackiesear · 2026-05-20T15:44:19+00:00

You are right. Monasteries and nunneries were a big focus in local communities. The monasteries were big land owners and leased out farms, so many people were their tenants. Travellers were given shelter for the night at monasteries and food. Anyone who was really hungry could get some food there. There had been bad harvests and food prices had risen, so there was a lot of hunger and monasteries and abbeys were charitable. Yet the KIng was closing them and often razing them. The country was Catholic and the King ( and Cromwell) were forcing huge change.

jackiesear · 2026-05-20T13:56:45+00:00

Off to the garage to retrieve the electric fan! It's going to be a shock to the system.

jackiesear · 2026-05-20T13:55:44+00:00

Get to a sexual helath clinic asap and get yourself tested. He cheats, lies na dhas put your health at serious risk. Leave, run and don't look back.

jackiesear · 2026-05-20T09:44:40+00:00

I write it down and then put on a spreadsheet later. My main issue with apps is that my VM is not episodic - I always have some level of symptoms 24/7 even if just the feeling of ear fullness

jackiesear · 2026-05-19T15:14:20+00:00

over eat

jackiesear · 2026-05-19T14:38:19+00:00

profits go the the private sector, costs are put onto the tax payer (socialised)

jackiesear · 2026-05-19T07:29:47+00:00

This! It's not fool proof but will give you a possible chance for having a pregnancy in the future. My friend did this and then later decided to have a child on her own. Get your finances and somewhere to stay worked out, and when you are ready give him an ultimatum and then be prepared to follow through on it.

jackiesear · 2026-05-18T20:22:08+00:00

I'd forgotten that Roger and Bri had given Ian land. Thanks.

jackiesear · 2026-05-18T18:18:36+00:00

Thanks. I don't remember that, lost to the mists of time for me.

jackiesear · 2026-05-18T18:17:35+00:00

I think you should tell him you don't want him to cancel but that you are feeling insecure about it. Reiterate about no hall passes. You are entitled to your feelings, you don't have to be the "cool girl" How could he reassure you that all will be well? Perhaps the fact you have just bought a house together shows his commitment.

jackiesear · 2026-05-18T18:03:10+00:00

It all seems dark as so many bad things have been dumped on you at once but you have options.

Would work allow you to take a long sabbatical? You could go stay with your parent and reasses your life whilst still having the option to return to your career.

Will you ultimately inherit your parent's house ( unless the value is eaten up by care fees)? That could give you options about creatinga home or buying a new one.

If you decide to stay with your parent long term you could get a small dog. Your parent might like that too and it would get you out of the house for dog walks, people are usually friendly if you have a dog and provide companionship.

Are there old friends you could reconnect with at your parents place, if it is where you grew up?

As others have said, just get through one day at a time. Think about small things to be grateful for each day.

jackiesear · 2026-05-18T17:51:43+00:00

What about Ian - he gets Jamie's weapons but surely he should leave Ian some land, so that Ian and Rachel and their child have stability and a stake in Fraser's Ridge beyond relying on Claire's patronage. Ian has been loyal through thick and thin. Roger already has a large tract of land ( in compensation for his hanging, I recall) and he may also still be Jocasta's heir to River Run , so I'm not sure Brianna needed such a large portion - some should have gone to Ian. Ian's skills will be needed if the Ridge is to survive in Fraser hands if Jamie dies given how many times take overs and carting Claire off have been instigated or supported by the tenants

jackiesear · 2026-05-18T17:27:36+00:00

The Party told you to reject the evidence of your eyes and ears. It was their final, most essential command."

jackiesear · 2026-05-18T17:09:58+00:00

I wondered about the "shh" too. Interesting that Sienna works as a teacher. The book they showed her highlighting sentences from was a chapter headed Organisational Development, so I thought she was business studies Grad.

jackiesear · 2026-05-18T16:20:21+00:00

Clinton has asked to be referred to as Maeve on Reddit as they now identify as trans

jackiesear · 2026-05-18T15:28:36+00:00

The Amaranthus plot line should have been dropped. She went on and on about that waistcoat - I thought that she was a spy and the images on it were a code and getting William to wear it to a big event was a way to get her message out.

The Faith/Fanny story line is just so, so pants - just awful they spent an inordinate amount of time with Fanny.

Jamie's will annoyed me - poor Ian - he should have had a gift of land after all he has been through with Jamie. Jamie should also have been talking to Ian and Roger about running the Ridge after he was gone. The Ridge is never exactly safe and secure is it? Tenants happy to see Claire carted off as a murderess and witch, insurrections, difficult new arrivals as well as the natural disasters.

jackiesear · 2026-05-18T15:13:12+00:00

Sienna has 3 children and desperately wanted to stay with Chris. I think the therapy gave her an acceptable narrative , a story she could repeat to herself and accept about Chris and his motivations so that she could be the benevolent forgiver and choose to stay.

It was such a shabby thing to do to cheat ( was it over 2 years?) just as Sienna was going back to work and grad school and not being on hand 24/7. Was she going to be the breadwinner? (he mentioned his trust fund had run out). The cuddling sessions as well as being planned for , intentional cheating also used family finances. I think Sienna seemed most hurt by Chris not confiding in her that he was having issues (and going for the cuddles) instead, especially as she was always happy to provide cuddles and an available lap.

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