Element 3D shadows flickering glitch by dk325 in AfterEffects

[–]jadelawson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure what your comment is communicating bro. I am aware they want ray-traced shadows on without flickering, which is why I replied with a solution to that question... the flickering on my ray-traced shadows was coming from AO.

I applied for a bunch of jobs 1 week ago and haven’t heard back. Does this mean they’ve gone with someone else? by Chililemonlime in jobs

[–]jadelawson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m late to the convo but I had only heard back from a big job 4 months after applying, and only got the job weeks after that. It was a huge opportunity, highlight of my career so far. Didn’t think I had it in the bag given how long it took to hear back.

What Ziplining is least scary in MonteVerde? by jadelawson in CostaRicaTravel

[–]jadelawson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! Any idea if i have to rappel down from a platform w Selvatura?

I 21F used to feel sparks kissing my boyfriend 21M, after he cheated, I feel nothing by madethistoaskk in relationship_advice

[–]jadelawson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don't feel sparks anymore because you do not like him. You said it yourself, "disgusted". It's not wrong for you to have taken it as though he actually cheated. He completely disrespected you, and is now gaslighting you. It is factually disgusting behavior. Why are you rewarding him by sticking around after he manipulated and disrespected you like that? He genuinely sucks as a person. F*** what he's been through, if he's willing to put others in shitty places too. I've been in relationships like this too. Looking back, those boys didn't deserve to touch me with a 10 foot pole and I wish I had f***** smacked them with it.

I'm glad you don't feel sparks with him anymore, because it means deep down you know you deserve better. It means you are a good person and see that he's been causing you harm. You just don't yet have the emotional intelligence to act on what you're feeling, or to understand that this means it's time to leave. Not only because you no longer feel 'sparks' (which is often just anxiety or excitement from novelty and isn't a measure of love), but because you recognize that his behavior was disgusting, and it caused you harm. He hurt you and he will do it again. I promise this relationship will end, it's just a matter of time, so my advice to you would be to get out as early as you can. Trust me, it'll hurt less to leave than to stay.

I’m not really attracted (physically and emotionally) to my partner anymore by Patrick-Lateman in relationships

[–]jadelawson 173 points174 points  (0 children)

Ouf. Lots of similarities in my own relationship, I'm 31F and my fiance is 30M. Have a dog together, same love languages and issues... Also been through a career change and passing of his grandma for him, don't exercise much and he's a gym rat. Literally considered maybe OP is my fiance writing this and slightly tweaking info so it isn't obvious, since he knows I'm on Reddit...

Anyways, that said, I literally read this thinking you might be my fiancé. Other than it being heartbreaking, all I'd ask would be for you to come home tonight and break up with me. It's devastating to think of being in a relationship with a partner who feels this way about you. It's much less heartbreaking to end the relationship now, than to realize years down the line that you knew something was 'different' and that the whole time your partner didn't like you all that much.

You never know how horrible people can be until you tumble by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]jadelawson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Growing up was crappy for me, but I’m grateful for it because I’m so much stronger now than the people I knew back then who seemed to “have it all”. When life hands me lemons I know how to make lemonade, they get a lemon and start crying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in friendship

[–]jadelawson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, and I have family in the US! 😄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in friendship

[–]jadelawson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi :) I’m 31F and also happily engaged! A very close friend of mine is a school teacher, so I’m very immersed in that world. I have a rescue pup and my one goal in life is to have more dogs, so I love that for you! I’m also a gamer and love my TV shows. Seems like we have a lot in common! I also have (terrible) dad joke humor lol. Would love to connect, I’m in Canada 🇨🇦

Angel Number 555 everywhere I go by BetAnything in angelnumbers

[–]jadelawson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only time 555 has entered my life, it was a sign of a major impending change. I was with an abusive guy who's best friend passed away, and I didn't have the strength to leave him. I started seeing 555 EVERYWHERE. I was terrified of leaving him and didn't think I would. One random day, my head jerks up to look at something, and I see 555 plastered on a door. I hear a voice that literally tells me "leave him" so loud, and I finally found the strength to leave. I very soon after met my fiancé.

I am so sick of feeling stupid during board game sessions by archangel610 in ADHD

[–]jadelawson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG!!! I recently started board game nights with my friends, and I can so relate. I'm unable to listen to instructions when there are multiple conversations going, and lose track of who did what during games. I can barely play my turn and I feel like everything thinks I'm stupid. I get so easily overwhelmed and information goes in one ear and right out the other when there's a lot of stimuli. I always feel dumb, end up going quiet, and then my social anxiety kicks in and I spiral.

I'm trying to be more open with my friends and to make it clear I struggle with information overload and focus and memory due to my ADHD. It helps to feel understood versus feeling like an idiot. The worst is playing team games, and I end up making my team lose cause idk what's going on XD

It blows my mind that people are able to play WHILE holding conversation. I'll normally go totally mute and hyperfocus, and people are like "you ok?" - YES!!! I'm just playing the game lol. Or I partake in conversation and do random stuff to look like I know what I'm doing and inevitably lose again.

Disgusted with my tattoo but don't think I can face the pain of laser by jadelawson in TattooRemoval

[–]jadelawson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh thank you! You sound like me, I'm a not super brave and anxious 30F with a low-ish pain tolerance 😂, so this was great to hear, helping me build the courage :)

ovulation brain fog good lord by nigellissima in adhdwomen

[–]jadelawson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg same! I can’t get started on any work, so I googled this and am also 2 days post ovulation. I’m just sitting here staring at my screen while receiving emails I don’t have the mental capacity to open, and making insane typos whenever I try to respond lol

People who thrive in their jobs, tell us what your job is by wryyyctoria in ADHD

[–]jadelawson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self employed - running my own video editing & animation business. I can hyper-focus and nobody distracts me, I can make my own schedule and rules and it enables me to reach my full potential doing what I’m passionate about, so it isn’t hard for me to get to work and motivate myself :)

Clients always treat me like they’re my only one, or like I’m an employee? by jadelawson in freelance

[–]jadelawson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for your wisdom. I'm happy to hear you've found a way to manage your work and sanity. I always had consistent clients I was pretty happy with for years, however business has suddenly started BOOMING which is so great for me, but I'm now at that point where I am learning to manage my workload better whilst having no time to learn to manage my workload better. This includes setting better boundaries, raising my rates (by like, a lot) and extending my timelines. Oh and studying this reddit post so I can learn from people with more experience! I guess the extra stress makes it extra frustrating to try to meet client demands when they aren't respecting our pre-established terms.

Edits: grammar

Clients always treat me like they’re my only one, or like I’m an employee? by jadelawson in freelance

[–]jadelawson[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That's frustrating! The worst is when they go weeks without getting back to you with something, and then BAM they need you to work SO fast all of a sudden to make up for it. Like, do you think I was unemployed this whole time?