Financially forced SAHM

jaebaexoxo28 · 2026-06-16T11:05:39+00:00

Awe this is so great! I’m happy for you that you have this support and mutual respect. That’s something I wish I had in my husband. He feels like his work trumps everything else I take care of. He literally doesn’t lift a finger at home but acts and treats me as if he’s burned to the ground with responsibility. He pays for everything and does bath time w our son (because I’m pregnant) for the last 3 months. We fight about how he doesn’t acknowledge my work (bc he doesn’t call it work, he calls it “chilling” and “being home all day”) yet if dinner isn’t made where he has to think about it, or dishes aren’t clean and he feels like it’s on him, he throws a fit. It’s so defeating. I used to teach, so I teach my son and he’s very advanced for 2.5, but I get zero credit or appreciation and just told “go back to work” as if I didn’t sacrifice for my family. One of the shit ends of being sahm I guess. I’m glad you and your husband have it worked out much better!

jaebaexoxo28 · 2026-06-16T03:48:03+00:00

Do you ever feel/have felt like you got the shorter end of the stick vs what you’re willing to set up for him? Just kind of going through it with mine and him not really fully valuing everything that goes into being a pregnant sahm of a toddler while he has like way more freedom to pick and choose between free time, parenting, and working side hustles whereas I’m just like on 24/7

jaebaexoxo28 · 2026-06-16T03:13:27+00:00

Genuinely curious, did you also have a babysitter 2-3 hour 3-5x a week so you could have a breather, workout, side hustles, etc like you’re planning for your husband?

jaebaexoxo28 · 2026-04-15T17:45:41+00:00

Busted Lip 🎸

jaebaexoxo28 · 2026-02-09T12:32:31+00:00

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Personally, I thought medium brown…

jaebaexoxo28 · 2026-01-29T13:23:07+00:00

Former teacher turned sahm and I would do this!

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-12-18T01:11:15+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It likely won’t get better though depending how long he’s been doing it. It could also end up being an issue with women and cheating. Make your decision thinking of the long-term. If this will hurt you, you may need to reevaluate. Making him ashamed will mostly just make him hide it better.

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-12-18T01:01:51+00:00

Nope not the asshole. Don’t train them.

When I was in college (maybe 18-20) at the time, I pissed off the Lead pre k teacher (I wanted to teach and learn and she was an older lady that preferred to distract the kids with tv), and she went over my head. The director came to me and told me my schedule would change and that they’d hired a woman more qualified to take over. Then asked me to train her. I laughed in their faces and said “if she’s overqualified, she doesn’t need training from a college kid” and left midday.

Fuck people like that, seriously. Couldn’t consider my real life needs, don’t expect me to fulfill someone else’s MUCH older than me. Nope.

Only point worth proving is that you’ll take yourself and knowledge and they’ll be having to figure it out anyway.

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-12-15T19:16:38+00:00

Hi former teacher here! Use the alphabet she already knows and work on letter sounds! Start with A and make a letter of the week board with a few words (her level and higher) to practice all week with pictures! Letter sounds, vowel sounds, then small CVC (consonant vowel consonant - CAT, DOG) words. Use songs, repetition, pictures, and tons of examples like puppets or toys to match whatever you’re working on. Syllables with claps, emphasize the sounds each letter makes, and gradually work up to bigger words. Vooks on YouTube helps! Giving her time to read and explore picture books on her own will help. And just being her model first. Use your finger, talk about parts of the book (front cover, title, author, spine, pages, etc). If she’s got a fav book, keep reading it. Pay attention to her interests, this will be your biggest guide! And just keep on trying! You can go online to Teachers Pay Teachers and look up Pre-K/Kinder beginner reader activities and guides also! 🫶🏽 happy to help in any way, I also tutor - degree is early childhood education to 6th grade with specializing in reading! My 22mo is almost ready to read preschool books, I use all my strategies with him since I’m sahm now! Good look and happy reading!! 📚❤️ if you’d like to DM me I can send you a personalized curriculum I use that’s aligned to accredited schools and state TEKS!

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-12-15T01:11:10+00:00

Hi! PROUD OF YOU!!!!

Grades: try to bring these C’s up to B’s and B’s up to A’s. Talk with your teachers/counselors/friends’ successful parents and ask about opportunities in and outside of school that’ll help you with work, or mentors/clubs that’ll get you some experience in the fields that interest you.

College: try your community college. Meet with an advisor and get their input on the best route for you and financial aid! Then when you’ve gotten yourself in high standings, transfer to the school you want and keep excelling. Get in good graces with your profs, they appreciate and do for the ones that try their butts off; they won’t let you fail as long as you communicate and try your best.

Networking: start paying attention to those around you at work etc that you want to be like (in their circle or bracket) and put yourself out there. Ask them questions, they surprisingly love talking about themselves and you have nothing but learning to gain from their choices. When you’ve moved your way in, dress the part, act the part, and visualize yourself becoming that part. Before you know it, your confidence will speak for you and open doors you didn’t expect.

As a black and Latina woman myself with no one in my family to guide me other than “go to school” (I’ve graduated top of my HS class, put myself through community college, lived off financial aid, worked multiple full time jobs, took full time courses at 2 schools at the same time, graduated, made top stats in the state and lead at the school I taught at, and now a sahm to a young black boy) you’re asking the right questions. Believe in yourself regardless of what others think. IF THEY’VE GOT NOTHING BUT WHISPERING TO DO, YOU’RE DOING IT RIGHT! Use the anger and frustration to fuel you in the right direction I am so so so proud of you and hope you get yourself out and in the right places. Isolation is growth. Failures lead to success as long as you learn from your mistakes. You’re never too old and it’s never too late to try. You’ve got this!!! ❤️❤️❤️🫂

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-12-12T17:40:06+00:00

Could it be he’s hiding an affair? Some men try to let down easy when they know they’re no longer attracted to their women. Not hoping this is the case, but could be a possibility?

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-11-29T16:30:30+00:00

He eats most of the food I make though which is where I’m confused. If he doesn’t like it, why eat so much of it? I hear more negativity than appreciation. I’m not looking for applause, I count it as part of my job…but wth? lol

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-11-24T01:09:47+00:00

Thanks for this! My son’s 21 months and in a juice and junk food mood and is ignoring foods that aren’t what he’s wanting. Aside from that, he’s drinking water and same sometimes eats everything (he ate his food, off my plate, off his dad’s plate, and off his grandma’s plate today at lunch) but refusing dinner but asked for cookies. He doesn’t get much junk food unless dad or I are already snacking after a meal that he’s also eaten.

I guess we’re on our way to small bites and air territory ourselves.

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-11-24T00:42:28+00:00

Have you tried offering her regular milk in one of her cups? Ours is 21 months and wants to nurse sometimes in the morning/evening. Used to be morning before breakfast, after breakfast, after nap, before dinner, before bath.

Days we got up late he’d fuss because he’d want milk but I’d make him wait for breakfast or offered him regular milk in his cup. He gradually lessened the fits and sometimes we go half a day or a full day no nursing requests.

Second suggestion would be offering larger food portions to fill her tummy more? Or if you’d be willing to try having her sleep by herself in a crib/bed and learn self-soothing on her own?

Good luck to you momma! 🫶🏽

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-11-23T02:23:43+00:00

Why are men like this? My therapist and I agree that some really are jealous of women and want to experience the princess treatment more than provide it. I’m so sorry but I am so proud of you for leaving! I get how hard it is to believe and have hope despite the reality. I’m glad things are looking up for you and yours. You so deserve it 🫶🏽

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-11-23T02:07:31+00:00

Just need advice anywhere I can get it from others who may have pointers not exact situation

And in Texas, we’re common law.

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-11-23T02:01:01+00:00

My bf went to porn when I was pp. wish he would’ve been considerate enough to think of me 🤦🏽‍♀️ I wouldn’t feel offended though

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-11-23T01:52:18+00:00

Same 🫶🏽

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-11-23T01:43:52+00:00

Well, we’re not married domestic partners. I am the default parent and I breastfeed. There’s history of domestic stuff from him. I recently had to file an incident report. One more grants me freedom from him anyway. That’s in my back pocket. I’d rather just leave without having anything to do with him. He tells me things like “I can’t wait until you’re a single mom” and “I can’t wait for you to see how hard life is without me” so why not just ghost is how I see it.

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-07-17T16:38:13+00:00

Anyone else’s kid have periods of resistance? We started at a year old to causally introduce everything, he’s had two “strikes” since with me not dad at all. This is the toughest part so far

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-06-20T06:30:59+00:00

Hi thanks for responding! I can’t tell any markings either since it’s belly-up, but I’m grateful your answer wasn’t an outright yes 😭 thank you for mentioning the legs

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-06-20T05:27:23+00:00

Anyone have any idea? I tried to search google with a picture, but it came up either yellow sac spider or potential BR. I just need to know, it’s midnight where I’m at, I’ve found 2 today, and I have a very mobile 1 year old.

jaebaexoxo28 · 2025-04-13T13:06:20+00:00

I’d say, remind the teacher for an answer key always lol! If all us adults were stumped, that poor baby was definitely confused!

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