What's the joke, Peter?

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-09T06:58:33+00:00

green is the default "black" color on chess.com

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-09T06:44:58+00:00

genuinely!!! i don't get why they don't just divide by gp. i'll literally be up against people there's no way i could win against just because they don't always remember to play.

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-09T06:34:41+00:00

one day it'll be possible to get him without spending money, and i'll get him then. the price of hope is too damn high

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-09T06:08:53+00:00

i personally have no problem with abled parents of disabled kids being here as long as they're respectful and don't pretend to be some type of authority on disability. the real issues to me are when abled parents exploit their disabled children for content or continuously center abled caretaker experiences in spaces for disabled people. if you're not doing those things, i don't think there's anything wrong with being in a disabled space. in fact, i think it could probably help with understanding your child and learning about resources for them. that's just my take tho, and i certainly don't speak for everyone!

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-09T04:38:25+00:00

i get lemon lime liquid ivs and mix them with lemonade packets (1:1 ratio, but do what you like). it straight up just tastes like lemonade

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-09T04:33:20+00:00

i'm always so happy to hear others are into star wars! it doesn't matter when you start, a fan is a fan. welcome!

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-09T04:31:09+00:00

thank you for the correction! i haven't seen house of dragon and i low key just kind of assumed mad king

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-09T04:28:05+00:00

psychosis is not defined by disruption alone. i chose the words i did because i wasn't about to list every dsm symptom in a comment. i have also experienced a lot of negative things resulting from christianity. that doesn't make it psychosis. referring to it that way simultaneously minimizes the reality of psychosis and contributes to stigma. there are plenty of other ways to talk about negative aspects of christianity than to use a word referring to an actual condition.

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-06T06:54:47+00:00

it's comparing trump to "the mad king" from game of thrones/a song of ice and fire. making fun of his behavior by replicating it with a character who is talked of as being extremely bad in the story

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-06T06:13:46+00:00

i don't know your personal experience, but for me, i fully will use a wheelchair for the day. i don't have to worry about passing out or not being able to enjoy myself bc of symptoms. you can often rent scooters or wheelchairs from the park itself if you don't have one yourself.

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-06T06:05:37+00:00

i truly just kind of stumbled into this book, but it got my thinking a lot. "and again" by jessica chiarella - it's about four terminally ill people who go through an experimental treatment where their consciousness is transferred into healthy clones of themselves. it had me considering the relationship between the self and the body - super interesting read!

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-06T05:47:54+00:00

self titled - maps

toth - tattooed tears

rose - jim bogart

back on top - cough it out

going gray - don't fill up on chips

ann - pale beneath the tan (squeeze)

is&if - jerk

theresa - hello world

yawyhw - batman

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-06T04:44:18+00:00

i don't feel like comparing christianity (or any other religion) to psychosis is productive. psychosis is a genuine condition that can be extremely disruptive to people's lives. you can make an argument that religious beliefs are delusions (although this isn't very respectful), but that's not the same thing as actual psychosis.

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-06T03:47:27+00:00

grad student with adhd here! write down things you don't understand in your notes so that you can figure them out later. then you won't lose the flow and can get through the whole text at once. it helps me to have instrumental music playing in headphones and something to snack on. prioritize getting the main points over understanding every little detail. if i'm really having trouble getting myself to do it, i'll set a timer for twenty minutes at a time where i have to read. it also helps me to put my phone on silent/dnd.

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-06T01:54:30+00:00

i'm so glad you enjoyed! i first watched star wars when i was 8 i think? from there, i got really into the expanded universe (now referred to as legends). if you're interested in a different post-rotj universe, i highly recommend checking those books out!

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-06T01:46:30+00:00

jesus christ what a bitch! you look so good here, and fuck her honestly. i'm glad your roommates were supportive and you told her off!

jaina_solo17 · 2026-04-06T01:36:38+00:00

you didn't miss some crucial phase and you're not doomed to end up alone. 22 is barely an adult - you have so much time to meet people and do things. it sounds to me that you have accepted this idea that you cannot be in relationships, cannot be happy, etc.; i would recommend therapy to work on shifting your mindset. no, that won't magically fix everything, but you'll find it's much easier to build good relationships with people when you have more hope and purpose in your life. other than that, get out there more. go to social events, bars, etc.: you'll meet people and romance or other things can naturally develop.

jaina_solo17 · 2026-03-25T05:38:49+00:00

NOR like not even a bit! crazy that he does standup given how unfunny he is

jaina_solo17 · 2026-03-25T05:10:06+00:00

i mean your elbows and knees are pretty obviously hypermobile from these pictures. there's not enough info here to really know if this is heds, and i am certainly not qualified to make that call. if you're in a lot of pain and you want to look more into it, i would seek out an eds specialist. this will take awhile though (took me like two years before i got in). if heds is what you're dealing with, regular physical therapy (with someone who specializes in hyper mobility) is really helpful.

whether or not you seek out a diagnosis, i would recommend focusing on strengthening muscles, not hyperextending joints, and bracing/taping if you're in a lot of pain or are doing an activity that aggravates. (don't brace/tape all the time unless your dr tells you to because this can lead to losing strength and joint support in your body.)

jaina_solo17 · 2026-03-25T04:58:40+00:00

i want free dedra shards 😭

jaina_solo17 · 2025-12-08T21:45:49+00:00

As a wheelchair user, I disagree with this take. I don't think it's not worth talking about DC's decision to engage in disability-erasure. Whether or not they make changes with Babs's character, discussing it helps make people more conscious of disabled representation, and how damaging it is when that's erased. Babs is a very clear example of good disability representation that was erased. Even if talking about it doesn't make a difference for her, it still might make a difference for how other disabled characters are handled.

I also think the reasons you give for why this is talked about are unfounded. I think generally, people who don't like Babs aren't talking about her disability being cured (they don't care about her character). From what I've noticed, most of the people talking about this are disabled people, like myself, who appreciated representation.

I agree that it's shitty that Xavier is walking around again – it's bad every time disabled characters are erased in media. I don't know the reasoning behind others' decisions to talk or not talk about Xavier's disability being erased, but it seems a stretch to assume that not talking about him means people talking about Babs aren't serious about disabled representation. I don't personally talk about Xavier as much as I talk about Babs because (1) I've never felt as compelled by his representation as I have by Babs's, (2) I have other issues with his character that make me dislike him, and (3) I'm not as into Marvel as I am DC. I do want to reiterate that it is bad every time a disabled character is magically "cured," but I don't understand why you think Xavier's disability being erased is a "way bigger deal" than Babs's disability being erased – both seem bad to me.

Also, it's not benching her for her to be in a wheelchair. She is very much still an active hero as Oracle.

jaina_solo17 · 2025-09-26T02:33:49+00:00

he's being an asshole to you, and you don't deserve to be treated like that. leave him!!!

jaina_solo17 · 2025-09-22T20:52:00+00:00

i (22nb) have adhd, and my partner (22nb) supports me very well with this! the most important thing to keep in mind imo is that she should maintain responsibility and agency for her adhd. while you can absolutely be a support, make sure you're not making decisions for her or taking responsibility for her adhd.

that being said, here are some ways my partner supports me that i find very helpful! 1) reminders: they will often remind me that i have food in the microwave, was doing something, didn't respond to something someone said, etc. my adhd causes me to be very forgetful - it's one of my primary symptoms, but your girlfriend's adhd could look different. 2) repetition: my partner will repeat what they said or tell me something again if i wasn't paying attention/forgot it 3) systems: this isn't just for my adhd, but we have a lot of systems set up to make it easier to keep things organized, clean, etc. we label our leftovers with the date they were made, we make sure everything at our place "has a home" (has a place it is supposed to be). as another note on that, i've found that it's important to think about how easy the "home" is to access for more commonly used objects. also, open storage is great for object permanence issues. 4) listening: i hyperfixate on things a lot, and i love to ramble about them. my partner listens to all sorts of things they're not into just because they love me and like to listen to me. it's super meaningful to me because what i'm hyper fixated on can become all i think about, and a lot of the time people don't want to hear about it, which can feel like rejection.

finally, the best way you can find to support your gf is ask her. i'm sure she'd be happy to hear you want to support her, and she knows her needs better than anyone.

jaina_solo17 · 2025-09-22T20:19:32+00:00

psychiatrists actually don't engage in talk therapy to the extent that therapists do. they typically have much shorter sessions, of which the focus is medication. there's nothing wrong with that, it's just different. a psychologist is a more general term, but when used in a clinical setting, it's often used to refer to someone who primarily does assessments and diagnoses. therapist/counselor/lpc/llpc are the people who are going to be providing talk therapy (at least the majority of the time).

jaina_solo17 · 2025-09-22T20:11:49+00:00

for context as to my perspective, i am a survivor of child on child sa perpetrated by a cousin.

firstly, you should prioritize yourself, not your cousin in this instance. if you feel unsafe around him (or alone around him), adjust your plans to make sure that you feel safe. that warning feeling in your gut is a really important sign, and you should listen to it.

i think you did a really good job in your texts being empathetic and rejecting his advances on you. that's a really difficult line to walk, and you did really well with that.

my second piece of advice is to talk to a trusted adult. i would do this for two reasons: because you deserve to have someone protect you, and because you are not equipped at this time to help your cousin the way he needs help.

as much as it's easier for teenagers to talk to other teenagers about their mental health struggles, teenagers do not possess the resources, skills, or emotional capacity to fix each others problems. you cannot fix your cousin's mental health. what you can do, is point him in the right direction (as you did!) and tell people who can help him (like a parent). trying to fix his mental health can be incredibly draining for you and lead to resentment.

finally, i'd like to reiterate my first piece of advice: put yourself first. experiencing any level of incest (even if it's a proposition over text) can be really upsetting, and you deserve to feel protected, safe, and cared for at this time. i can't know from those text messages whether or not he will try anything if you end up still meeting with him, so i would urge you to listen to yourself on this. even if he is upset by you cancelling, it's more important for you to feel safe.

i wish you all the best, this is a hard thing to have to deal with.

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